"A person needs to have a clear and objective perception of himself to grow, and so does a nation."
The growth of a person is divided into two meanings; the first, physical growth and maturity; and the second, mental growth and maturity.
The growth of one's body is not considered true growth; the growth of the mind is considered true growth.
How does a person grow at the level of mind? That requires a person to love to read, good friends, happy to walk.
01 love of reading
The writer San Mao once said:
"Read more, the face of the natural change, many times, they may think that many of the books they have read have become a cloud of smoke, no longer memorized, but in fact, they are still potentially temperament, in the speech, in the chest of the endless, of course, may also be revealed in the life and words. "
The belly has a poetic temperament, the life of reading is different from the life of not reading, living a different life.
Many confusions in life can be found in books. Reading may not directly change a person's fate, but it will guide you in a unique way, so that you can find the inner strength.
Reading a book may not be able to immediately let you grow in wisdom, but it will little by little help you grow and feed your spirit.
Celebrities who love to read, from ancient times to the present, abound. Ancient Sun Jing hanging beam stabbing, Kuang Heng chiseling wall to steal light, today there are Lu Xun chewing chili to drive away the cold, Wen Yiduo drunken book, Hua Luogeng guessing the book ......
They are not through the reading, changed the fate of life, found the direction of the struggle to realize the value of the individual.
After watching Dong Qing hosting programs such as "Chinese Poetry Conference" and "The Reader," we will all be impressed by Dong Qing's sudden bookishness, eloquence, and vast and profound knowledge.
Dong's ability to shine on stage and be flexible and witty did not come overnight, but is the result of years and years of reading.
She has been reading since she was a child, from ancient times to modern times and from China to the world, from astronomy to geography, she reads everything.
Even after working and having a very busy schedule, Dong Qing reads for an hour every day before going to bed to maintain her reading habit.
Dong once said, "If I don't read for a few days, I will feel as uncomfortable as if I don't take a bath for a few days".
Reading allows Dongqing to find pleasure in her busy life, reading makes her stand out on the stage of the program, and reading makes her unforgettable to the audience.
Warren Buffett, the enviable stock god, is also an unabashed reading maniac.
The man who has mastered the code of wealth spends most of his day in his study and office, soaking up wisdom through reading.
Warren Buffett's partner had this to say about him: "There is not a single smart person I have met in my life from all walks of life who doesn't read every day, no, not one. And Warren reads so much it might surprise you; he's a book with two legs."
Predictably, Buffett reads a lot. Reading, perhaps, is is Buffett's lifelong habits and beliefs.
We have read this sentence:
"The thickness of the books under one's feet is the height of his life."
Those who love to read will have more choices; those who don't read will have little choice.
No matter what life is like, remember to read, read widely, read in fragments, read as much as you can, and someday books will be a help to your growth.
02 Good friends
Once I read this paragraph:
Your circle of friends determines the level and height of your life, and the quality of one's circle depends largely on what kind of friends you make.
With diligent people, you will not be lazy; with positive people, you will not be depressed; with wise people, you will be extraordinary; with high people, you can ascend to the peak.
In life, we have to be good at making friends, to make friends who are upright, to make friends who are motivated, to make friends who can send charcoal in the snow; not to make friends with wine and meat, not to make friends with flattery, not to make friends with Schadenfreude.
Once I heard such a story around me.
Lin Yang was originally a junior high school student who excelled in both character and learning, but because he accidentally made friends with young people outside the school, his life was turned upside down.
He went from being an obedient child to a rebellious one, making small gestures in class, becoming a dresser, and starting to talk back to his parents and teachers. Gradually, he was late again, skipped classes, and unknowingly learned to smoke and drink ......
Later, because of robbing some villager's money, he accidentally injured the villager, and he and his friends outside the school were arrested by the police station, and almost sentenced to jail ......
It's a shame, originally a teenager with a great future, but because of careless friendships, he took the road of no return.
Make a detrimental friend, he may push you into the fire pit; make a beneficial friend, he may help you.
Li Bin, the founder of Azera Motors, was born into an ordinary family, and if he had his own personal background and family circumstances, it would have been difficult for him to have a big career and future.
Fortunately, he went to Peking University, where he made a lot of friends.
Once he was invited by his senior Li Guoqing to co-found Kewin, the predecessor of Dangdang.com.
Before Li Bin planned to start Azalea, one of his seniors at Peking University, when he learned of the successful IPO of a car website in the United States, immediately suggested that he replicate the model in China.
While he was raising funds for Azalea, his best friend pulled strings and got him hooked up with Lei Jun, Liu Qiangdong and Ma Huateng, who are big businessmen in the circle.
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The high-quality circle of friends gave Li Bin's automotive career wings.
Stanford Research Center has published a rather shocking survey report:
"12.5% of the money a person earns comes from knowledge, and 87.5% comes from a circle of contacts."
The more genuine friends you make, the higher the quality of your networking circle and the stronger the energy.
So how do we make friends with bulls who are better than us when we are not strong?
One is to try to improve our own strength, when they become bulls, it is possible to make friends with bulls and become real friends.
As Audrey Hepburn said, "I certainly won't try to pick the moon, I want the moon to run to me."
The second is to create value for the cattleman. The value of a person determines the position in the minds of others.
Like when Yu Minhong was a student at Peking University, he bought a Venus fountain pen for Xu Xiaoping, then a teacher at Peking University, in order to make him accept him.
In order to get his teacher friends to allow him to sit in and learn, he did everything he could to offer his services: they were thirsty, Yu Minhong took the initiative to pour water and make tea; they were hungry in the middle of the night, and Yu Minhong ran to buy them instant noodles; they had to move, and Yu Minhong ran up and down to help them out.......
Day by day, month by month, he was able to get his hands dirty. As a student, Yu Minhong has been integrated into the circle of teachers, has been a step ahead of other students to make a good teacher.
Entrepreneur Guo Xiang Legend:
"The circle of friends is actually the world of your life. Your circle of friends represents your aesthetic and the level of your life."
Life in the world, we have to be good at making friends, refusing to make bad friends, walking with friends, growing with friends ****.
03 Le walking
Zhang Xiaoyan in the book "Go, Zhang Xiaoyan" has written:
"Either traveling, or reading, the body and the soul must have one on the road."
Besides reading more, we also need to walk more, see more of the world's spring, summer, fall and winter, and experience the sweet and sour of life.
Being known as the "lone rider" Li smart, is a leading figure in China's cycling community, from the eighties began to ride bicycles around China, his cycling experience for 25 years, his wheel tracks throughout the country's 31 provinces, municipalities and autonomous regions, travel more than 110,000 kilometers.
Relying on his rich walking experience, he published a cycling travelogue "Heavenly Road Anywhere" in 2011, which takes readers on a tour of China's north and south.
In 2012, he completed 12 cycling routes into Tibet, providing many options for those who want to travel to Tibet.
While he was lost in 2014 when he crossed the Qiangtang No Man's Land, perhaps not on earth, he should have no regrets as he traveled all over the country's mountains, experienced the seasons' winds, frosts and snows, and experienced the world's life in all its forms.
The world is so big, we should go to see. To see the country's mountains and rivers, to see foreign landscapes, to experience the customs of different places, to broaden their horizons, to grow their insights, to taste the various flavors of life.
Just as Bacon said: "For the young, travel is part of education; for the old, travel is part of experience."
In the midst of the epidemic, we may not be able to travel abroad, we may not be able to travel to the provinces, we may not even be able to go out into the community, we may have to stay at home in our own little space, but we still have the option to "walk more", to exercise.
Playing table tennis, badminton, doing yoga, square dancing, running ...... as much as possible to exercise, so that they walk up, to enhance their physical fitness, for their bodies to inject new vitality.
Famous actress Zhang Junning, recognized as a "goddess of temperament" by the entertainment industry, is also the goddess of "national husband" Peng Yuyan.
She has gained a good reputation and become more and more popular among the audience in the past few years in the film and television works such as "Yi Yi Chuan" and "Wu Mei Niang Legend".
She is also the "Goddess of Self-Discipline" in the third season of The Wayward Life.
In her daily life, she insists on exercising and meditating, and her highly self-disciplined life makes more viewers recognize her, pay attention to her, and affirm her.
Whether it's in "Looking Forward to Life" or "Follow Belle to Adventure", we can see Zhang Junlin sitting outdoors early in the morning to meditate.
That image, beautiful and peaceful, is unforgettable.
People who exercise regularly are full of positive energy, full of vitality, and live an easy and enjoyable life.
Either travel more, or exercise more, walk more in the world, add thickness and energy to your life.
04
Yu Minhong wrote in "May your youth live up to your dreams":
"Man is an animal guided by thoughts, where your thoughts go, you will go; where your ideas point, you will go."
When your ideas change and your thoughts change, you can change your life.
A clear philosophy of life, a profound thought, accelerates your progress and promotes your growth.
Life is like rowing against the current, not to advance is to retreat, stand still, will be far behind than others, even can not keep up with the trend of the times.
The era of a newspaper for a day has passed. Live to learn and grow for life has become mainstream.
The only choice we have is to insist on growth.
From now on, insist on more reading, good friends, happy to walk, to their own future to leave a calm and stable it.