This problem is very simple, you put down the work at hand, hold a hug; or tell the child to cry for a while, to increase lung capacity; do not because the child is crying mother-in-law did not hold in time to make a big fuss, scratch, perhaps the mother-in-law into the drama, a moment of negligence. In short, you are the mistress of the house, everything more of their own, less complaining, less calculating, more tolerance, more understanding, more thinking, family can be harmonious.
#Baby crying, mother-in-law watching TV pretending not to hear, the heart should be how to do?
Every mother with a child can relate to the subject of this heart, especially full-time mothers, there is no one to help give a hand to replace the child to hold down the child, six months of the child will not go, and also some weight, has been the need to hold, full-time mothers is very hard, always hope that there is a chance that someone to help with the child for a while. Finally back to the mother-in-law's home, surely thinking of a rare return, the mother-in-law will also rare grandchildren, help bring down the child, they will also be easier, there is such a thought is not too much, and sometimes things are not what they wish, but not you think so good, not all the grandma like to bring grandchildren.
@RestructuredFamilyHappyLife There's a video in there, little LeMi is a few months old little girl, I don't know what the reason is for the real mom to go away, the father found her a back, the back mom didn't have any children, the little LeMi is lucky, the back mom treats little LeMi as her own, more than the real grandma's love for her, due to the grandma's all kinds of work, the back mom is angry back to her mother's house.
Le fan dad at home with little Le Mi, dad let the grandmother to take a child for a while, the grandmother is very reluctant, one foot on the walker, concentrate on playing the phone, but also do not interact with the granddaughter, the little Le Mi also do not like the grandmother, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow, wow. little Le Mi's grandmother impatiently said, "What is it, what is it, what is it called?"
Listened to call people really heartbreaking, watched this video, many netizens said: "This is a pro-grandmother?" "How the pro-grandmother is not as much as the stepmother of the music fans love little Le Mi?" The subject if you see this video, I believe you will not be heart should be, meet such a mother-in-law is the daughter-in-law's misfortune, but also in the family.
If the mother-in-law if only do not like to bring children or a small matter, if you meet do not help to bring children mother-in-law, but also to the family stirred up a mess of the mother-in-law the whole family headache.Just like the above little Leme's grandmother, in the son's home does not do housework, not with children, but also the son to give money to her to buy the dance of the jukebox, do not give it to the problem, born in the countryside, young, the old man is still there, not to say to the field work, at least have to give his partner to the rice cooked, washed the clothes, the old man back to the ease of a little bit, have a mouth of readily available hot meals to eat it!
She preferred to rely on the son's home and daughter-in-law can not go, persuade all persuade not to return to their own homes, resulting in the daughter-in-law to return to her mother's home, Le fans of the real mom's go is likely to be the mother-in-law is too powerful, can not stand the mother-in-law, gave birth to a child and left.
@ Yuxi view of the people's life to the subject: "As long as there is no long-term living together with the mother-in-law, just occasionally go back, they should not be heart should not be to add to their own blockage, happy to bring the child, can not go back as far as possible do not go back, out of sight, out of mind, the child will soon be healthy and grow, who will bring the child with whom the pro."More than this diaphragm has it, you need to be more enlightened to enlighten yourself, as an outsider, or outsiders, the heart will not be so difficult, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship of the ancient problem, can not be solved. Don't live together, don't ever, a small injury to the couple's feelings, a big divorce, so sisters need to adjust their emotions, pinpointing the right balance, don't care, slowly ignoring the habit after, it doesn't matter, really. Always remember that they are outsiders, for themselves in addition to their husbands and children and even their husbands and children are outsiders [bumper fist] [bumper fist]
Their own children to bring their own, which has what should be separated!
I am full-time with the baby, from the baby four months on my one person to bring, when the baby is small old to hold, sometimes accompanied by the baby fell asleep, I got up, the baby woke up, the day down even a meal can not eat, not also over it. I remember once, noon steamed rice, until two or three o'clock in the afternoon to eat, cooked chicken soup in advance, eat, to seven or eight o'clock in the evening hungry, the soup warmed up, has not been eaten, the baby has been to eleven o'clock to sleep, that time the soup heated up three times, cooled down hot, cooled down there is hot. When I served the fried rice, I had no appetite to eat, and I was overstarved. I think the baby still need to eat milk, but still finished the fried rice.
It is not that I don't have a mother-in-law, on the contrary, my mother-in-law is still very young and very healthy. It's just a matter of getting away from it all, not living with us, and not bothering you with your little life. The first thing I'd like to do is to get my hands on a new pair of shoes, and then I'd like to get my hands on a new pair of shoes, and then I'd like to get my hands on a new pair of shoes.
The first thing you need to do is to look after your own baby, and you will be able to do it yourself. The fact that you have a mother-in-law who can help you is also a blessing, and you can't rely on her.
Hello, I'm Lu Chao, is also a pair of twins of the milk father, I'm glad to be able to answer your question, for your question, I would like to say that the baby cried, mother-in-law watching TV pretending not to hear this thing since it is already happened, the mother can only be their own hard to bring down the baby, first of all, you have to understand that the adults in the family to help with the affair, do not help with the present, in addition to Mom and Dad, who have no obligation to help you with the people. Help you with people, secondly, the mother's own mentality to put a good, a little more sunshine, a little less complaining, think about the baby will certainly bring their own a little better, the baby's education and growth or their own worry a little better, the baby's training and education mainly lies in the parents, and lastly, you have to think about why the mother-in-law will pretend not to hear not to help you with the people, this is surely one of the reasons, mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship will always be a difficult to deal with the problem, but it is not the case that the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship is a difficult to deal with. The mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship will always be a difficult problem to deal with, but it is not that it is not good to deal with, harmonious family relations for the baby's growth is also helpful, I think this problem is the root cause. Mom heart diaphragm is also normal, very understand your mood, have time to take the baby out for a walk, relax their mood, but also and their husbands to communicate more, so that their husbands to help themselves with their babies, put their own mindset correct this is the focus, the day is not a day or two, to maintain good family relations is the most important. I'm glad to answer this question, and I hope my answer can help you!
In this world, when you are an adult, you are the only one responsible for your own life. Understand that it's luck that other people help you, and it's normal that they don't.
Get your attitude right, and then play on top of it. How do you play?
A lot of moms tell me their husbands don't buy gifts for themselves, there are no surprises.
I ask: you want a gift, why not? You can tell him what you want for your birthday and then let him buy it for you on that day, isn't that great?
They said, this is meaningless, I want him to think of me all the time, think of me, give me a surprise.
Well, that's certainly nice. And if it's not? You might as well say so.
Thinking of you is love, and saying it and giving it is love.
Moving to the scenarios of our lives, in-laws watching TV is a normal part of people's lives, and kids are your own business. If you can not move, generously said: Mom and Dad I'm busy at this moment, you can help me coax the child? I'll be right there when I'm done.
Don't worry, they will certainly help, even strangers are embarrassed to brush you off, not to mention the in-laws, and they have a sense of guilt. Afterwards, you say thank you again. They are even more embarrassed.
So, ask generously.
Psychological studies have shown that people who have helped themselves will tend to do so more often. One, they feel useful, and two, they are subconsciously reluctant to give up on the previous effort - loss aversion.
Asking for help also brings people closer together.
Some daughters-in-law look at their in-laws, meals are not willing to eat with them. It's a silly thing to do.
You're an adult, you have to parent, you have to live, you have to grow, you have to make yourself comfortable. It's really hard to do this on your own, so you need to build your own support system.
Family is one of those support systems, and having strong in-laws will save you a lot of work.
So how to get along with your in-laws, how to get them to synchronize with you and help you, you have to figure that out.
I summarized, I think these points to do:
Take people's hands short, received the favor of others, you always have to return.
I think these points should be done.
A lot of words you say useless, not as good as others say to them.
If you want to make their parenting concepts consistent with yours, why don't you buy some parenting courses for your grandparents, which are only a hundred or so per course, which is very cost-effective?
Tell them they can win prizes for listening to it, and give them another 200 bucks for listening to it, and they'll grow up fast and fast - it's worth the money.
I then sent my mother-in-law various classes, and while she didn't make progress in parenting, she unraveled herself through psychology and rarely gave me a hard time (more than a hard time, I don't lose to anyone in this area).
I have faith in her, she will get better and better in the future[teeth bared]
Don't be too strong, no one likes that. Be "pathetic".
I once realized a truth that was very well received, and I said:
You can't get stuck with some people, so it's better to be weak and miserable.
In fact, in the eyes of the in-laws, daughter-in-law are outsiders, if you are a little inappropriate , they will target you. If you have a tough attitude, with the fight, everyone is not good. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
The big one is the small one. Don't take everything to heart, then you can't go on.
In some of the principle issues, do not compromise, other things to give enough freedom. This way, they also have a sense of control, they will not feel in your home this or that can not be.
These are my views, and I have come out of the effective way. I can't say it's 100% right for you, but I hope it inspires you.
Now briefly summarize:
Like an adult to set the right attitude, and then generous requirements, to build a support system, in the show of weakness, to give the benefits of the belt growth, decentralization of these aspects to do.
In the end, I want to say:
This is my share, don't forget to pay attention to fellow baby mama Lili oh.
Thanks for reading, see you soon.
The diaphragm is because you think too much! You have to realize that the child is yours, not the mother-in-law's, she has no obligation to look at the child, the child is crying you do not go to manage? Instead, you're looking at what your mother-in-law is doing. This is also quite strange. The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal of money from your mother-in-law, and then you'll have to pay for the money.
What can we do? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do that with your own personalized products!
People need to think differently, so that many things will be a big deal, the smallest thing. I'm not sure how much I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'll be able to do it.
1. Recognize that your mother-in-law is helping you with your baby, and do more or less of what you need to do.
The hard work of the mother I know, full-time life for four years to see a lot, but also want to understand a lot. In addition to the husband really sweet, will be heartbroken, in-laws, and even maternal family to help bring up the child, that are other people's hearts. So what is not comfortable, not happy, first of all, their own adjustment, really can not adjust, looking for the husband to take the air also line, in short, do not suffocate their own.
2. Respect your mother-in-law's habits.
If you are living under one roof, you should learn to pretend not to see what you don't like. As a daughter-in-law can not accuse the in-laws of anything, if you say it, nothing changes, just pretend not to see. Learning to shut up instead is an admirable thing.
3. If conditions allow, live separately.
The relationship between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law is already very delicate, if you really can't get along well, upset, why don't you look at the conditions to see if they are allowed to separate. The conditions do not allow, just bear with it, and when the child went to kindergarten, the mother went to work, distraction, with the economic resources, the status of the mother will also improve, many problems will no longer be a problem.
I hope to help the mother-in-law, welcome to leave your comments.
A mother-in-law is never a mom, so don't ask too much of your mother-in-law! Pretend not to hear you put down the hands of the work of their first coaxing the baby, the work is not a day to do, the baby cried a bad row, the mentality of peace, you psychological isolation should face may show, the family will not be amicable, live under one roof don't twist which day can be out of the head! When the baby is big conditions allow to move out to live alone, conditions do not allow to endure a few years, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law on the strength of your husband will be very tired, directly affecting the couple's relationship.