From everyone's words, it's easy to see that everyone wants to be a good mother-in-law, and everyone wants their family to be harmonious and happy. However, many times it is not what you want, especially the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship, which has always been regarded as a big problem that can not be reconciled.
Because they can't ask their daughters-in-law to do anything, these reflective mothers-in-law or future mothers-in-law can only take care of their own acreage, do what they can do, and the rest will depend on their own destiny.
Down I synthesize everyone's views, add my views, talk about this issue.
How to be a good mother-in-law, nothing more than to pay love and wisdom, both of which are indispensable.
First of all, harbor a loving heart, so that the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law like a spring breeze.
1, heartfelt love for the daughter-in-law, which is the basis of a good mother-in-law. Some people say that the daughter-in-law is the daughter-in-law, the world's mothers-in-law who can really love their daughters like love daughter-in-law? The reason why they say this may be influenced by the common social belief that the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship is not favorable remarks, but everything under the sun is not so absolute.
If you can treat your daughter-in-law with sincerity and love, and truly consider her in all matters, I believe that her heart is long, and her daughter-in-law won't be able to feel it. The first thing you need to do is to check out your own personalized website and see what you can do to make sure that you're getting the most out of it.
For example, if your daughter-in-law gets up late in the morning, can you be as understanding as your own son or daughter? Do you think she's sleeping too late, working too hard, or not feeling well, or do you think she's too lazy, doesn't want to make breakfast, or calls you names? If you really treat her like a daughter, I believe you will react correctly and have the right attitude when faced with similar things. On the contrary, you are not really love her, then you can still expect to have a good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship?
2, love will let you have tolerance and understanding, which is a must for a good mother-in-law. Young people will inevitably have a variety of small problems, such as laziness and procrastination, irregular life, spend a lot of money, love to make a small temperament, self-initiated and so on, you as a mother-in-law, can come up with enough patience and tolerance to treat her well?
There are many examples of poor relations between mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law and even deep-seated resentment, and in detail, the problems between them are nothing more than trivial, the daughter-in-law believes that there is no error, the mother-in-law is half of the corner of the eye are not accustomed to, and thus can not be a piece of the problem.
If you can treat your daughter-in-law gently with the breadth of mind of elders, understand and tolerate her little problems, understand the young people's difficulties, and then do your best to help her mature and grow up, everything will not be a problem.
Colleagues Lao Li is known as a good mother-in-law, asked her why she did so successful, she said mysteriously, the daughter-in-law is their own child, love her will tolerate her, for her good will find ways to understand her to help her, do not have to be cross-eyed bad words, smile is the solution to all the medicine, tolerance is to change the disharmony of the magic formula.
3, love will let you put respect in the first place, which is the key to good mother-in-law. Up and down two generations of people can not be no generation gap, daughter-in-law and you certainly have their own stubborn ideas and practices, if she looks at everything you do not see eye to eye, everything to force you to follow her rhythm, you can stand it?
Similarly, you should never disrespect what your daughter-in-law is actually doing. For example, do not knock on the door to push open the bedroom door of the young couple, she wore a skirt in winter you want her to change down to say not warm, pregnant people practicing maternity yoga you want to block, she wants to teach the child you protect your grandchildren ......
Love will allow you to stand in her point of view to consider the problem, respect her choice, even if you do not understand will find a way to bring you and her thought distance, so, you will still have conflicts?
Respect is mutual, I believe you do, young her will do better!
Secondly, to be a wise mother-in-law, so that the mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relationship healthy development.
1, distance produces beauty. The people can't get too close to each other, with outsiders, and family members are no exception, between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law should have their own space. The distance is too close, easy to see too clear, too clear is easy to pick faults, and nitpicking will make the relationship icy.
As a mother-in-law, you can't meddle in the lives of young couples as you did with your son when he was a child, and you must let go of the children's ability to believe that your daughter-in-law is fully capable of taking care of their lives.
2, the key time to reach out. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to get them to work.
The child to start a business, economic difficulties, you have the ability to help it, support the child on the road, you will not worry. If your own economy is not generous, then think about the child, make some suggestions, and the child together **** through the difficulties, together than anything else is important.
The grandchildren are born, can help to take care of it as much as possible to go, the pleasure of caring for the grandchildren believe that most people will not not like. Helping children at the right stage is a joyful burden that every mother-in-law should not avoid.
3, learn to turn around gracefully when needed. Don't always think of living with the youngest two, and don't always think that people can't live without your involvement. As far as possible, do not live with the children, except for the necessary period of help.
You can choose to live in the popular "bowl of soup distance", where they are not far away from each other, not overly disturbed, but also to keep in touch from time to time.
In reality, there are many in-laws, especially mothers-in-law, always like to pay close attention to the son's and daughter-in-law's life, the little two have a breeze, she will be restless, and even intervene, annoying.
A writer said, the so-called parents and children a, only means that you and his destiny is this life is constantly watching his back gradually away. The first thing you need to do is to learn how to let go and turn around gracefully to live the rest of your life, in order to win the children's continuous love.
4. Stay healthy and fulfill your later years.
First of all, be sure to stay as healthy as possible. Children are still fighting, they do not have the time and energy to take care of you, then a healthy body and mind, for the elderly is particularly important. Scientific diet, reasonable work and rest, moderate exercise, these are older we should always keep in mind and put into action. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
Secondly, to make life as full as possible. It's been said that the only way to get parents to stop paying too much attention to their children is to give them something to do. I agree with this statement, you can square dance, you can sing, and you can travel, as long as it is something that you like and that you can focus yourself into, do it. What mother-in-law would be at odds with her daughter-in-law when she has full and interesting days?
In short, keeping love and having wisdom is the secret to being a good mother-in-law. I believe that as long as you put your heart and soul into it, you are not far from the realm of a good mother-in-law. Of course, the above may not be completely correct, I hope you more comments and suggestions, we *** with the goal of "good mother-in-law" to work together, and strive to have a harmonious and beautiful relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.