Along the way, we stumbled and staggered.
In order to live, we are in a lot of helplessness and heartache, bravely moving forward.
It's not easy to live, so please treat yourself well in the second half.
01 Treat yourself well and learn to be generous
In an ordinary life, the vast majority of people will have a lot of trouble.
Most of this trouble comes from the material, the pressure of life.
We are always tossing and turning in the lingering worries, and can not sleep at night.
In fact, a lot of worries, is with the passage of time and gradually melt.
We have to give our best to life, and at the same time, we need to have enough patience and tenacity.
More than anything, we need to learn to let go of our obsessions and comfort ourselves when we are down.
To know the so-called happiness, is to have a normal heart.
Read a short story:
A rich man and a Zen master discussed what happiness is.
The Zen master said, "Happiness is now."
The rich man sneered while pointing at the Zen master's broken hut:
"You call that happiness? I have a family with a hundred mansions and a thousand servants."
Later, an accidental fire took away everything the rich man had, and the rich man was reduced to a beggar.
One day, the once-rich man went to a Zen master to beg for water, and the Zen master asked him, "What do you consider happiness now?"
The once-rich man, now a beggar, took the bowl of water given to him by the Zen master and said:
"Happiness is this bowl of water at this time."
The world is noisy, but at the same time it is serene, and the serenity is because of the serenity in your heart that defines it.
Our heart is a river, called the river of the heart, when the heart is open, the river is wide, when the heart is narrow, the river is narrow.
The gain is open, the loss is calm, learn to be broad-minded, calmly look at all the things that happen in life, you will be very happy.
02 Treat yourself well and please yourself
When we reach middle age, we are used to living in the eyes of others and always want to be recognized by others.
Some people are unmarried at an older age, and will be endlessly urged to get married, disturbing their minds and thinking they are not good enough.
We are always walking on thin ice and trembling in all kinds of relationships.
In fact, the most important way towards a happy life is to explore inward and please yourself.
In psychology, there is a kind of personality called "pleasing personality".
People with a pleasing personality always try to please others.
In an episode of the variety show Roundtable, Jiang Fangzhou shared a short story.
She said herself, she almost didn't eat breakfast in elementary school, and when she was hungry, she would pick up snacks dropped on the floor by her classmates.
Chewing erasers and licking rulers was a common occurrence, and it wasn't until she ate a leftover date palm that she stopped this behavior.
It is important to know that Jiang Fangzhou became famous at a young age, writing at the age of 7, publishing a book at the age of 9, and was admitted to Tsinghua University after growing up.
Jiang Fangzhou is a very talented girl, and she is the child of others.
In addition, her family is not bad, her mother is also a writer, and she will give her pocket money every day.
In fact, Jiang Fangzhou saved all the pocket money, and preferred to go hungry just to show her mother: "You see how good I am".
The heart of the pleaser is actually extremely timid and empty.
They want to please others, including parents, partners, and friends, with a kind of humility.
Please be sure to remember that living is about doing what you love and being the truest version of yourself.
If you always look at others with your head down all your life, you will be as lonely as an orphan.
Those who genuinely like and appreciate you must appreciate your spirited and confident look.
So, show it to your heart's content, life is still very bright in middle age.
03 Treat yourself well and live well
When you reach middle age, you have to leave your heart to the people who love you and your eyes to the most beautiful scenery.
Eat well, sleep well, and work well.
Being kind to yourself is not about indulging yourself or having a good life.
Being kind to yourself is not about being self-centered and selfish.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
Being kind to yourself is also being kind to others, because a good you will definitely infect the people around you.
Think about it, we are bound by the locks of fame and fortune in a hurry, white hair, old face.
Think again, how long have we not looked up at the blue sky, not in the rainy day laze.
Walking on the quiet path, the summer gust of wind from the ears.
The beauty of life is actually this simple.
On the way to getting old, love life with a heart and live in the way you like.
People are just passing through, why bother too much, confused, lighten up a bit, all with fate, all with joy.
May you live the rest of your life, treat yourself well, live up to the years, be full of birds and flowers, and live the way you want!
Let you and I **** encourage!
Let's do it.