The problem is, "Grandparents are too tired to see the baby. After Ma Bao got off work, his grandparents hid in the bedroom and played with their mobile phones. Do you like such parents-in-law? " Perhaps Ma Bao didn't expect that such an implicit punitive question, 109 1, was mostly filled with kindness to grandparents. The core argument focuses on the hardship of taking care of babies and the obligation of parents rather than elders to take care of babies. The netizen's answer rehabilitated many elders who did not hesitate to take care of their babies.
Because young people are busy at work, it is common to ask their elders to help take care of their children. Even many elders are "paid to take care of their children", not only helping young people to take care of their children but also bringing their own paid children.
But taking care of the baby is really a very energy-consuming thing and it is not easy. If it were easy, this market would not have been divided into hourly workers, carers, baby nurses and baby growth teachers from hiring a nanny to wash clothes, cook and do housework ... So, now taking care of the baby and cooking are completely two jobs, and the starting price in the market is at least 10,000 yuan, but the elders automatically take care of the baby.
If young people don't lower their bodies and be humble at home, how can they be worthy of the hard work of the elderly? There are many uncles and aunts around me, holding retirement wages in their hands and spending a lot of time traveling to see the world. After the birth of the younger generation, they gave up the chic time and changed to a day of three meals a day at home and walking around the house every day.
Tired? Sure, I'm tired. Take my parents for example. This year, due to the physical reasons of the children's grandmother, I changed to be the main tutor of my parents. I obviously feel that my position at home has plummeted and I will be scolded from time to time. My mother will dislike me and often find fault with me. Sometimes, just because the child insists on sticking to me at home, she will think that I have messed up the rhythm of taking care of her baby and roll her eyes.
However, apart from being tired, the reason for the sudden change of temper is that the endocrine of the elderly is easily unbalanced, and the ability to control emotions is gradually declining because of being too busy. At this time, in the state of being unable to hire outsiders, we young people have no other effective way but to humble ourselves, avoid the breeding of contradictions, go home from work and take care of the baby diligently, reduce the burden on the old people, and let them have some leisure time at night.
I played with my baby at home two days ago. When I had a great time, I said to my baby, "Mom, stretch out in bed." As a result, Eva ran excitedly from the bedroom balcony to the bed. As a result, when she ran two short steps, she fell to the ground, and Qing Wu broke her face, and her mouth was broken, causing a lot of blood. I was scolded by my mother for this. Although I stressed that it was an accident, I still couldn't escape the old man's anger at my carelessness in taking care of the baby.
It must be admitted that taking care of babies is a job that requires care, patience and perseverance, but it is a challenge for both the elderly and the young. Therefore, for the older generation, in addition to respecting the "laziness" of the elderly, the idea of young people "taking their children to work" can be used for reference for those who have frequent contradictions because of the running-in between the two generations.
Let's make the old people "nine to five" like office workers. When we go to work, the old people take their children, and when they get off work, they take their children themselves, whether they go back to their homes after work or have a square dance and a small mahjong with their old sisters after work. On weekends, young people can give the elderly a holiday and give them enough time to play and relax.
In addition, if conditions permit, we can also give the elderly living expenses every month, so that the elderly will not be "paid to take care of the baby" and let the elderly know that we know the hardships of parenting and avoid the breeding of grievances. In fact, friends around me don't give the elderly much living expenses every month, ranging from 1000 yuan to 3000 yuan, but they can all feel a kind of spiritual relaxation.
In addition, friends also think that this method has three advantages. First, reduce the chances of conflict, reduce the time for the old and the young to get along, and reduce the running-in period of the two generations. Both parties have time to "charge" outside the baby; The second is to give children more time to get along with their parents. Sometimes, young people feel slack about taking care of children because there are old people at home, and unconsciously attribute the task of taking care of children to the old people. But after the rules are set, the old people will be liberated, and the young people will consciously shoulder the responsibility of taking care of the children, and the time for parent-child interaction will increase a lot. For me, I take my children out to play every weekend now. My children are very happy, and I like to relax. Third, the close relationship between the elderly, children and young people has been brought closer. When the time to take care of the baby is relatively balanced, everyone complains less. When having their own private space and time, when young people and friends go out for dinner and leisure, the old people can also take the initiative to help take care of the baby, understand each other and reach a good intimate relationship.
Finally, I want to share a recent experience with you. In the vast sea of people, we mainly have our own mentality and ability to live actively. Remember to ask for leave after work to supplement our ability to continue to bask in the sun. This Tomb-Sweeping Day is going to take her alone to experience a three-day and two-night journey, and come back to share it with you!
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