Love is something between two people, but marriage is something between two families. When you are in love, you may only need to take care of each other, but when you get married, you have to take care of two families.
Such a status quo, sometimes always let the young couple between the two very tired, especially just married young couples not long.
For them, they are used to being free to come and go, used to living according to the lifestyle of two people. When they get married, they are overwhelmed by the many constraints, the etiquette between elders and all the rest.
So, as a parent, you should know how to share such pressure for your children, and don't make it difficult for them by relying on your age.
As a parent, you must love your children, and you must want to give all the good to your children. But sometimes, the way they do it may not be right, and it may cause trouble for their children.
Therefore, this is the way to be a parent when your sons and daughters get married.
When marrying off a daughter, send her out with joy and good wishes, and do not harbor a hateful attitude, feeling that the beloved one whom you have raised for so many years has just been taken away by another man, and thus go to make things difficult for others.
Don't be too hard on your future son-in-law either, and ask him to buy a fancy car or a big house, or even ask him to pile up your daughter's marriage with money.
You have to realize that you are marrying your daughter, not selling her. Besides, the person in front of you, whom you are making things difficult for, is the one your daughter loves y and the one she wants to marry. As a parent, making trouble out of it is likely to ruin your daughter's happiness in life.
Moreover, in the case of the man has no financial conditions, you have to ask the other party to meet these requirements, that is really a bit difficult. Even if the male party smashed pots and pans to meet your requirements, the future of the day, but also your daughter to accompany him to suffer and pay off the debt.
So, as parents, after your daughter's marriage, don't make things difficult for your son-in-law, and don't meddle in things between your daughter and son-in-law.
And as for the son after marriage, as parents, they should be even more interesting, know how to withdraw at the right time, do not meddle in the son's life after marriage, and do not always tell their son's daughter-in-law what to do.
They have their own little family, many things, they need to solve their own, do elders if they interfere more, will let the son daughter-in-law feel bound and oppressed.
So, as parents, enjoy the blessings of a good old age, don't wear a worry hat all day long, young people have young people's ideas, we should know how to respect young people.
Overall, no matter whether it is a daughter, or a son, after they get married, as parents should not interfere in their lives as much as possible.
After all, the son or daughter has grown up, has already started a family, many things also have the main opinion, unlike when you were a child, everything needs to be you as parents to step in.
Today, they are able to be on their own, meet their loved ones and are determined to start a new family. As a parent, you need to let go and give them back the power of decision and let them live the life they want to live.
You, on the other hand, should take a break, enjoy your children and grandchildren's happiness, be a senior citizen and wait for your children to fulfill their filial piety, and then don't worry about anything else.
The children have grown up, let them make their own decisions after they get married, after all, they have their own families, and also have a brand new start.
As a parent, you will naturally feel sorry for your children, and this is not wrong, but there are many ways to feel sorry for your children, you don't have to meddle in your children's lives, and you can only feel sorry for them if you make a decision for them.
Again, for the children, what they want is definitely a free and unfettered life. Before getting married, they were under the control of their parents and after getting married, they definitely want to get rid of their parents' constraints.
So, as parents, we need to give our children the opportunity to exercise and the right to make their own decisions, so that they can choose their own happy life, and let them go to a good life of their own.
Young people have young people's ideas, as an elder, you should know how to respect and support young people's ideas, let them go to do, go to work, go to break through?
So, the young people will naturally live with you with respect and love; so, the big family and small family can live in harmony, everything is smooth.