Long ago, I wanted to write a small article for my mother, but I was usually busy with work, poor literary talent, did not write. Now catching up with the epidemic, the neighborhood closed, to be able to calm down, then write a few paragraphs, even for the mother to wish a birthday.
First, childhood
Mother's childhood is not like we imagine living in deep water, eating chaff, days like years. Because, although it was the old society, but allowed to do business, mother's fathers did business. Mother's father my maternal grandfather (grandfather) family open meat room, selling beef; mother's uncle uncle (uncle) despite blindness, but will tell fortunes, can also earn money; mother's third grandfather open grocery store, naturally also less money to spend. The main thing was that none of them had children. So, mother became the baby of these families, the favorite. Food and clothing naturally can't do without her.
Despite the fact that the grandfathers were in business, they were not among the rich. Children could not afford to go to school, especially girls. Although my mother did not go to school, she had a good head on her shoulders and could do the math when she was a little older. I have always thought that people who can do business are smart people. Grandmother was a hard-working and hard-working person, and she was particularly strict with her children, so even though she was gentle, she was not spoiled. Mother's childhood was spent growing up in such a family.
Grandfather owned a meat house and sold beef. In those days, most of the cows that were slaughtered were farm cows that couldn't be used for farm work. These cows worked hard for people all their lives, but their final fate was to be killed and eaten.
Mother had witnessed the slaughter of a cow: the cow was taken out of the barn and put down with a big wooden bar. The old cow seemed to know its fate of being killed, kneeling down on both legs, mooing, and tears just flowing out of its big eyes, as if begging for mercy from the people. But it was in vain..., and then the old cow's life ended. Grandfather seemed to know mother's mind, said: Nier, if it is not for the sake of food, who do this line of work, in the future you want to marry no matter what business, but also do not open a meat room.
Mother's most magical is her eldest uncle fortune-telling. A blind man, can not see anything, people's past lives how to know? And will also give people to see the doctor, cure the doctor can not cure the disease? The blind grandfather laughed and said: Nier, this is all fooling people, otherwise who give us money to spend, do not believe.
Mother saw these killings and deceptions but was kind, probably because the grandparents spoke from the heart and she understood.
Childhood is a carefree age, and childhood happiness is short-lived. With the invasion of the Japanese devils into the Central Plains, this happiness was disrupted. That year, my mother had already crossed out of childhood. Famine "Republic of China three two" mother has been a teenager. The starvation was still fresh in my mother's mind, and my grandparents' business stopped during the turbulent times. The teenage mother took on the family's labor.
Second, married
Mother married 17 years old, when the ghosts have not yet surrendered, it is the time of the dog anxious to jump over the wall, burning, looting and plundering anything to do. When my mother got married, to avoid the devils was in the southwest of the village of the "graveyard nest" by our old Wu family with a single top of the sedan chair to pick up. The year of my mother's marriage, the Japs surrendered and the whole country celebrated. For our family, it was indeed a year of celebration, because that was the year our family really began. Even though my brothers and sisters and I were not yet born.
Mother's marriage to father was of the "right family" type. Our "Old Wu Family" was a poor family, but also a business. My family's business is the "fried fruit" business, and sure enough, Grandpa found a non-killing in-laws for my mother. My mother's marriage to the Wu family brought good fortune to the whole family. The first time I saw her, I was in the middle of the night, and she was in the middle of the night, and she was in the middle of the night, and she was in the middle of the night.
"Fruit" is the predecessor of the current doughnut, but it looks different from the doughnut, which is a long stick with two pieces of noodles stacked on top of each other, and fruit, which is round, is also known as "circle fruit". "Fried fruit" in the past is also a craft that is not outside, is the grandfather apprenticeship for three years, from Wei County Dazhai village to learn. But grandfather fried "fruit" and other people's family is not the same, is the "heart" shape. Practice is: chopped into a rectangle of two small pieces of pasta stacked together, the middle with a knife cut, divided into two connected halves, and then pick up both hands, index and ring fingers stretched into the cut gap, open, shaking to stretch some, the right hand will be part of the right side of the head of the face to pull a little bit, the head of the "twist", put in a hot frying pan, then copy! The "fruit" with two pairs of long chopsticks in the frying pan to hold, through the unformed fruit of the support, turn, together, with a good fire, "heart" shaped "fruit" is completed, fish out! Then they were ready to eat. The same size of the noodle block, in the hands of the grandfather fried out of the "fruit", up a large, soft, imported on the melt, golden brown, good-looking and delicious, is a good gourmet.
Grandfather's fruit and then under the Fort Temple set of "Wang San" beef cake rolls are famous. After my mother's death, my father followed my grandfather to the market, frying fruits and making a copy. The mother also became the family's strongest laborer, in the field, home, laundry and cooking, pushing the mill, pulling the mill all work.
In fact, the entire Wu family is a big family. The grandfather's four brothers, his father is the eldest of his generation, the backbone of the family, the mother is the sister-in-law of the family, is able to pick up the character.
Third, parenting
Mother*** gave birth to eight sons and daughters, but mother raised ten children. These two extra ones are my father's siblings, my uncles. The older uncle is the same age as the older brother, and the younger uncle is the same age as the third brother. The children were all about the same age, plus Grandma wasn't too well at the time, so the uncles grew up on their mother's milk. Then, grandpa passed away, and grandma suffered from eye disease and lost her sight in both eyes. So the two underage uncles were raised by my parents.
Don't look at the ten children, each child was born in that year, what was his or her horoscope, and what day was his or her birthday, and my mother remembered them all clearly. In those days, this was not an easy thing to do, so it is clear that my mother's memory is superb.
The eldest sister is the largest of the siblings, born before the liberation. I was the youngest in the family, born in the late 1960s. The span of more than two decades was the time when the country went from post-war poverty to three years of severe hardship and then to the "Ten Years of Turmoil". The hardship of the family was imaginable. However, our parents managed to bring us up without any of us falling behind, and we are all in good health. I can see that the two old men have suffered a lot.
In fact, so that the elderly and children can eat, not only can suffer can do, but also rely on wisdom, parents are such people. For example, if the child does not have milk to eat, millet is saved only for boiling rice juice for the child to drink, while the adults eat grass roots and bark; for example, the collective share of food is not enough for the family to eat, then none of them will eat or eat less food. With good food exchange into a low-grade groundnut dry and stalks that can feed the family; Another example is the use of elm bark can be made into flour, properly processed can become a gourmet food; white flour for the crust, sorghum husk flour as a filling to make the "silver bag of gold," can make people hungry, but also improve the children's appetites, and so on. The fact that we didn't have to beg for food was an honor that my father often talked about later.
It is important to be able to eat, but how to behave is even more important. My mother always told us that we should be straight and honest with our conscience. Father also often said to us, poor long ambition, rich long conscience, people poor ambition can not be short. My father taught us to be honest and to "spit on a hole". These sermons, or become the guidelines for us to do things, or become the motivation for us to work hard.
When it comes to character, we are all influenced by our parents. We are all the kind of people who would rather have others owe us than owe others. That includes emotional indebtedness.
The country has been fighting illiteracy since liberation. My family was large and the labor force was small, so despite the poverty, my parents let us go to school. The eldest sister on the primary school; elder brother, despite the primary school culture, but in the only provincial key high school in Linxi on the electromechanical class, after graduation, a great deal; the second brother, the fourth brother read high school; the third brother, third uncle is also a junior high school graduation; the youngest sister did not go to school at first, but in the "Cultural Revolution" after the national "big literacy "The youngest sister did not go to school at first, but graduated from junior high school in more than three years after the Cultural Revolution. The youngest sister did not go to school at first, but graduated from junior high school in more than three years after the Cultural Revolution. My mother's greatest regret was that she did not let my second sister go to school. As for me, I went to college because my parents had no more financial burden at a later stage.
Because of their culture, these brothers and sisters later did well in various industries, and although there were no officials or rich people, each family is now full of children and grandchildren, and they are happy.
Fourth, mother-in-law and daughter-in-law
Son more, naturally need more daughter-in-law. When they all get married, there are really more daughters-in-law.
Big brother looks like his father, tall, white, wearing a blue cloth student uniform, early by the village before the liberation of the underground workers who did Cui surnamed aunt. The only daughter they had was my sister-in-law. I remember that my sister-in-law loved to read from a young age, and was not afraid to work in the fields.
The second sister-in-law's mother's family was from the rural area of Wei County, surnamed Dong, smart and beautiful. I've never been to school, but I have the temperament to do so. When she was a girl, she was the village's advanced women's representative and attended a provincial conference.
The third sister-in-law's maiden name is Chai, the family name of Chai Sheriff, some like the Yangmen female general's thunder and lightning character, some temper, do farm work do not want to die.
The fourth sister-in-law and the fourth brother were high school classmates, not tall, but eyes large and God, the two men and women, and immediately hit it off. The fourth sister-in-law is the daughter of the only one in the village to participate in the anti-American soldiers, surnamed Li. Some people say that Uncle Li did not cross the Yalu River. Let me say, it does not matter, as long as there is the courage to protect the family and defend the country is great.
My family's last name is Zhang, Shandong Linqing Cangji Town (Linxi Cangshang Village) people, high school education. We got married when her parents are no longer alive, and brother and sister-in-law *** with life, kind-hearted, hard and poor. The good thing is that she had a pair of children and a doctorate and a master's degree, so she was relieved.
Five daughters-in-law, five temperament, and all in a big family, how can be gathered together? First, the mother is tolerant, the second is the mother-in-law to the daughter-in-law's to be respected. Respect for their personality, respect for their views, but also to put out the fire, properly handle the son and daughter-in-law conflicts. Once, a brother and sister-in-law quarrel, the mother was informed to persuade, just in time for the sister-in-law scolded his brother's mother, the mother said: daughter-in-law, scolding it I'm here, there is gas to me! The mother said, "Daughter-in-law, I'm here, let me know if you're angry!" The sister-in-law's anger was largely deflated. In dealing with the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the father also cooperated well. The father's method is one word, respect. He honored his daughter-in-law's parents, the in-laws. At all times, he respected his in-laws as guests of honor, showing his sincerity and respect. After the reform and opening up, my father resumed the business of "fried fruit", and whenever the in-laws came, "fried fruit" and "fried purse" were served up on a plate, and the in-laws couldn't keep their mouths shut. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good deal on this, but I'm sure you're going to be able to get a good deal on this," he said! The old Wu, is the grandpa to nephew's name, nephew's grandfather is my father. If we stabilize the rear, will there be any problems at the front? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that.
Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relations are the foundation of family harmony and stability, and the family and the family can be a good thing. Of course, the main thing to deal with good mother-in-law-daughter-in-law relations is mutual respect, the mother did is to respect the daughter-in-law, only to get the daughter-in-law's respect.
Fifth, the virtuous son-in-law
Other people have written, do not write these brothers-in-law feel indebted to them, because they are like filial piety to their parents as filial piety to our parents. And of course they have favored me, their little old brother.
The eldest brother-in-law, a high school student of the "old three", is not tall, and his face is dark, but he has talent. After graduating from high school, he began to substitute teaching in rural elementary schools, and everywhere he went, he became a hit, "the old three" really have the strength ah!
The real fame of his teaching was in the village of Xigaoerzhuang, where there was a middle school and a high school. The first time I saw this was when I was a student at the University of California, Berkeley, and I was a student at the University of California, Berkeley. The company's main goal is to provide a high quality of service to its customers," he said, adding that the company has been working on a number of projects in the past few years.
The author of the book is a very good writer, and he is a very good speaker, so he has all the conditions to be a lawyer. So, after the restoration of the lawyer system, some people recommended him to be a lawyer. The big sister husband is really not simple, to do the lawyer to be at ease, a few years as the day, in the lawyer's profession has become a famous "Ma Tiezui", in the surrounding counties and cities enjoy a reputation.
The third brother-in-law was the outstanding student when the eldest brother-in-law was the principal of the high school, and was the eldest brother-in-law and other schools PK promotion rate of the "main flower five". The third brother-in-law is also not tall, is a wizard. After graduating from secondary school, he first assembled his own TV, and then assembled computers and studied finance. The two children of the third brother-in-law are both university students, and their intelligence is inherited from him.
The second brother-in-law is the parents' favorite son-in-law, also graduated from high school, and then was hired by the county's only state-run large-scale enterprises - Linxi County Nitrogen Fertilizer Factory. He is a contract laborer who is paid by the state and has contracted land at home. The second brother-in-law is honest, is the plant manager's technical backbone. The second brother-in-law just love to heave a smile, mother's favorite.
The eldest brother-in-law took me into the lawyer's door, the third brother-in-law contributed to me a lot of books when I went to school, and the second brother-in-law supplemented me with some money to spend when I went to school.
Sixth, business
Grandfather fried "fruit" business is to do some years after the liberation of the craft was later passed on to his father. Later, "a big two Gong" time, personal business are not allowed to do, did a lifetime of business grandfather did not understand, died in depression.
In the end, my father was a descendant of a family of businessmen, and he had a quick mind. To the production team ideas: in front of the village Han Lin highway side of the open tea house, open the carriage store, not only the convenience of the passers-by, but also for the production team to earn some income, get the village cadres praised. Later, "cut the tail of the capitalist", the team's business is not allowed to do, my father followed the "digging the river" team as a chef, because he had the pasta skills, but also know how to cook, so he made the meal we all like to eat. The father was really great!
Father's greatness is better reflected in our family, it is his hard work, not only to make us become a man child (the meaning of living down), but also to make us, these big men are married and have a family, in the hard times, is not an easy task. Before the 1980s, except for my elder brother who got married and started a family, all the other men in my family did not get married, including the two uncles.
The first thing you need to do to get married is to have a wedding house, and where do you get the money to build a house? Just in time for the policy relaxation, after the Third Plenary Session of the Eleventh Central Committee to allow private business, so my father in front of the village highway opened a three-room store, and picked up the business of fried fruit, of course, also do some of the department store miscellaneous and so on. Because of the father's skillful craftsmanship, mother hospitality pro, and have a warm heart. Business grew. From the 1980s to the 1990s, more than a decade, parents have built six farmhouses in the rural home, married to the family of six daughters-in-law. So far, completed their arduous task. As the saying goes, there is a rake for money, but also a box for money. Mother is that "box of money", but also the son of a wife in the defense of the general staff.
Father often said, business is to rely on the ability to eat. Whether you are doing business or being a human being, don't take what is not yours.
I know, my father really had a chance to make a fortune, but my father returned this "fortune" to others.
One day, a very well-dressed middle-aged man came to the store to eat, to two small dishes two two white wine, half a catty circle fruit. After eating and drinking, the man left. In cleaning up the rest of the dishes, the mother found a black handbag next to the table legs, apparently the middle-aged man left behind. Rushed to find that person, but time has passed more than twenty minutes, people have long gone. Father pulled open the zipper of the bag, found a lot of cash inside, hurriedly zipped up to let the mother to the inner room to collect, so as to avoid other customers mistakenly take. About an hour or two later, the man came back in a panic, first in his dinner place to look around, and then asked my father whether he saw his handbag. The father calmly asked him what the bag looked like, what color it was, and what was in it. He answered correctly. The father asked his mother to bring him the bag so that he could examine it. The middle-aged man took the bag, saw the money and goods are, flopped down to the ground, said: master, without this money my job will be lost, it is not allowed to say that I have to be sentenced to imprisonment. It turned out that he is a state-owned enterprise salesman, the bag is loaded with more than two thousand dollars of payment.
"Whether you are doing business or being a human being, don't take what is not yours" is a phrase that has become a guideline for me to be a human being and to educate my children to be a human being. At the same time, is also my students to teach law class, often explain the important content. You see, a thief who takes someone else's is theft, and a corrupt official who takes the public's is embezzlement. Father did not go to school, the reasoning than some people who have gone to college understand.
Seven, old age
With our wives and children, each with their own business, father and mother are old, but they are still on the side of the highway to do their own "fried fruit" business. My father said that it was fulfilling to watch people come and go and hear many new things every day. My father was born with a love of making friends, and he wouldn't have been able to keep it to a small courtyard.
What we didn't expect was that my father got cancer when he was 68 years old, and he died less than a year later, despite many treatments.
After my father's death, the fried fruit business stopped. Mother still sells some daily necessities in the store by the highway, we do children's let her close the store, and spend the rest of her life. She said, "I have a good brain and my body is fine, so I can be bright here. The company's business is also a major player in the market, and the company's business is also a major player in the market, and the company is also a major player in the market.
It is true that the store is the old stronghold of our siblings' collection, the place where old relatives and young dependents reunite. It was also a place where the members of the extended family could grab their daily necessities and where the children could eat and drink freely. The word "grab" is a bit of a misnomer, but in my mother's store we were a bit unreasonable. Or rather, we did find a sense of ****productivist life there - on a need-to-know basis.
The store was no longer a place to earn money, but a place to unite the feelings of the whole extended family.
Eight, the birthday girl
Mother was 75 years old, we persuaded her to close the store, by the second brother renovated the old house, converted into a supermarket. I'm afraid that if you don't close the store, I'm really sorry for her old man, in case something happens, who can't afford this responsibility. It is indeed time for the old man to take care of himself.
Mother shut down the store, all the belongings are divided to our brothers and sisters, then we refused. She said: I have no money you have to manage me, I have money you also have to manage me, then I want money what use, sooner or later is not your? The mother's open-mindedness is rare.
Now, the mother's all belongings is a parcel, open and transparent a few thousand dollars. She said that this money is used to send red packets to her grandchildren. Indeed, every child gets a share at New Year's. Mother took money lightly. My nephew, a native of the city, was born in Xi'an the year before last. When he was born, my mother insisted on giving him a big red packet of 1,000 yuan, but I stopped her because she didn't have a lot of money in her entire family.
After my mother closed her store, my five sons took turns taking care of me, and of course my sisters often took over. We are not checking the days by day, is her old man wants to stay in whose house for how many days, stay how many days, figure fresh and then change another home. However, often sons and daughters-in-law take the initiative to receive their own home to live.
Mother has never traveled far. Seven years ago, I took the opportunity to go to Beijing to send children to school, and his wife took his mother to travel around, visited the Forbidden City, saw the Chairman Mao Memorial Hall and the Monument to the People's Heroes. In Tiananmen Square, we took a picture with a yellow-haired foreigner.
Mother is not a picky eater and can cook for herself. When she was asked if the food was good, she would always answer in the affirmative and then point out the smallest flaws, so everyone was willing to listen to her.
Mother loved cleanliness, and in her nineties she could still wash her clothes, feet and body. But we wouldn't let her do it herself. Her daughters, daughters-in-law, granddaughters, and grandchildren-in-law would rush to do it for her, including bathing and clipping her nails. Mother's character was frank and good-tempered, and any grievance came to her to be resolved.
Mother is still as kind and dignified as ever. A few years ago, a friend of mine, a beautiful governor, praised her in this way, and mother is still like that.
Mother's health condition is very good, although the blood pressure is a little high, every day on time to take some antihypertensive tablets, no problem. When I was young, I had a pain in the heart, probably due to a stomach problem. Now the conditions are better, but there is no disease, colds are rare.
We have been celebrating my mother's birthday since she was 70 years old, and it was my sisters who started it, and it's been more than 20 years now. On her 90th birthday, we gave her a rather grand birthday party. All the family members and close relatives came to celebrate her birthday, and I also invited a master of ceremonies to introduce my mother's life, give her questions to think about, and interview her about her experiences, which was very lively. We didn't invite any friends to celebrate her birthday. My mother said, "Why should I bother others with my own family's affairs and make them spend money? I'm not sure if I've ever seen a woman who is so proud of herself, but I'm sure I've seen a woman who is so proud of herself, and I'm sure I've seen a woman who is so proud of herself.
While it is a big family, but there has not been any big trouble, no high officials, no rich and wealthy gentry, just an ordinary family. The whole family is happy and prosperous, and everyone has a successful career. Instead of everyone's efforts, it is the good family style that has been passed down from father and mother.
I often superstitiously think that our smooth sailing is not that we have much ability, but that we have been blessed by the old life god. Here, I also sincerely hope that all those who read or did not read this article will also be blessed by the old mother! I wish you all peace and happiness and all the best.
Nine, there is no end
The life span of a human being is controlled by the genes within the body cells, even if the body does not have any problems, but also the end of life. Scientific research has found that the limit of human life is 120 weeks old. So immortality is legendary.
However, the development of science is beyond the imagination of ordinary people. Recently, the scientific community revealed the news that makes people happy, that is, by 2045 the scientific research of bioengineering, can do to change the genetic sequence that controls the human life expectancy, so that people can live forever, by then people want to live as long as the number of years on how big to live.
I think the 92-year-old mother of the birthday girl will definitely see that day. What do you say, friends?
By Wu Fengman
January 9, 2021 Starting Pen 13 Received