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The Warring States Zhuangzi said, the gentleman's friendship is as light as water, the small man's friendship is as sweet as sweet. Gentleman light to pro, small man sweet to absolute. How many genuine friends can we meet in our life.
Friends are very important people in our life, and they are also indispensable to us. The older many people get, the more they miss their former friends, those belonging to the happy time with friends, is ultimately unforgettable in our life.
But there are real friends and fake friends. Some people are really good on the surface, and on the surface and you are the same suffering **** enjoy the blessing of the "good friends", but behind the scenes it is not the same.
He will say your gossip, but also he seriously hurt you. This kind of person can go to be an actor, since you don't consider people as friends, don't go to cheat others' heart.
There are friends who deserve a good look from a middle-aged woman to see if that person can go through the suffering with you and extend a helping hand when you need help.
Especially when middle-aged women get along with their male friends, they should strengthen their defenses and not let their true hearts be hurt.
To middle-aged women: in the face of such opposite sex, or less contact is good, you know? Try not to contact, because the lack of such a friend is not their own loss, but their own luck. Middle-aged women must keep in mind to protect their feelings and true hearts.
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Last week we received a letter from a reader, Sister Yang, who shared her experience with us. Ms. Yang is fifty-one years old. That said, when one reaches middle age, everything goes smoothly and there is nothing to worry oneself anymore.
Yang's son is married and has a son, and her grandson is brought up by her daughter-in-law, so she is relatively free.
Yang's husband is also an honest man who is not yet retired, and has been busy with his own work, and has a very happy life with her.
It's just that in the past few months, Ms. Yang's husband has been traveling a lot, and as a veteran of the company, Ms. Yang's husband takes his job very seriously and responsibly.
So it leads to the fact that Yang's husband does not have any extra time to talk with Yang, and Yang is at home by herself, and after a long time, her heart is slowly falling apart.
Relative to other people's old companions, they are always accompanied by their loved ones. But Yang's husband is very busy, Yang can not understand her husband, often complain and angry.
On one occasion when she was dancing in a square, Sister Yang got to know a more humorous and witty person, that is Brother Qian.
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The appearance of Mr. Qian made the lonely and lonely Yang become more energetic, and she felt like she was 20 years old again. Her life slowly became richer and she complained less.
But Qian is not the "good man" he seems to be, nor is he a "good friend". He had long inquired about Yang's family's affluence, and her husband was often on business trips.
Mr. Qian also inquired about Ms. Yang's preferences, and has been chatting with her about what she likes to talk about, saying some of the insights he has seen on the Internet, so that Ms. Yang will be able to have a sense of admiration for him.
Brother Qian is also always on the lookout for Yang's favorites and helps her with small things. Whenever there are two weekends off, Mr. Qian will ask Ms. Yang to go hiking with him.
Slowly, has been thought that the money big sister Yang is ordinary friends, no matter what the matter will be with the money big brother, ask his opinion, the money big brother has become Yang sister's confidant blue.
For this confidant, Yang has been very dedicated to help, no matter what ridiculous reason Qian said to borrow money from Yang, Yang will be very trusting of him, to give him monetary help.
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However, Mr. Qian went further and further, telling Ms. Yang that he didn't have any money for his son's wedding and that he needed her to lend him some.
When he had finished borrowing money, he said that his son's salary was low, and asked Yang to help him find a higher-paying and easier job. He also flattered Ms. Yang, saying she was the "lucky star" of his family.
But it wasn't long ago that the money man wanted Yang to buy a house for his son, and Yang realized he had been cheated. The company has been used as a "cash machine" for a long time, and there is no end to it.
You don't want to bury your friendship, and you don't want to be in conflict with him over money. So she chose to stay away from Brother Qian, but Brother Qian ran to Big Sister Yang's neighbors, bad-mouthing them and starting rumors.
The next day, the neighborhood was full of rumors that Yang had fallen in love with Brother Qian and was not responsible for her family and other such unpleasant words.
We have always heard and seen many foolish women like Yang in our own lives, who have been cheated, hurt and let down.
Young sister has reached middle age, their reputation is also very important, did not expect to be a "friend" ruined. So, when a woman reaches middle age, please stay away from these kinds of friends of the opposite sex, in order to let yourself live a happy life.
The first is just to treat you as a fresh "thing". Some men feel bored when they go to cheat women and deceive their hearts. These men just want to have a moment of freshness and will not become real friends with you.
The second one is to satisfy his own vanity. You're just the talk of the town, and you're just the guy he's playing with. As the saying goes, "Something Zhong Wuxian, nothing Xia Yingchun" women should prevent themselves from becoming "Zhong Wuxian" like a woman, in the end, are for others "to do the wedding clothes".
The third is the greed for money and status. The more middle-aged men, the stronger their purpose. They won't have nothing to do with a stranger, and they won't waste their time doing useless things.
So women must not be used by men, do not easily lend money to others. Look at the right person to make the right friends.
So, middle-aged women must be careful in making decisions, especially in such things as making friends. Best friends need to be met at the right time and exchanged sincerely.
As the saying goes, a friend is not more than a friend, but a friend in good faith. Time can test all the truth, the man in the end is not your "confidant", need the test of time. Women must become smarter, those who appear in your life, will always teach you some truth, no matter good or bad, will let you grow.
So, meet sincere friends to cherish, meet fake friends, must be away from as soon as possible, so that their true heart in the right person.