It is the duty of filial piety to repay the kindness of parents. Crows know how to feed back, and lambs know how to kneel and nurse, not to mention people.
When we were young, we couldn't repay our parents' kindness. When we grow up and have a successful career, especially after middle age, how can we be filial to our parents and filial piety?
Some people say that our parents raised us with great pains, and now we finally have our own space and time. We should let nature take its course, leave them in their hometown and give them "freedom", and all we have to do is buy them some clothes from time to time, send them some nutrients, and often go home to see them during holidays.
But most people insist that it is more and more inconvenient for parents to move as they get older. Why do they stay in their hometown and become empty nesters, sitting in the yard and counting stars every day?
So it's best to take your parents with you, so that you can really be filial.
Is that really the case?
Is it really filial to take your parents with you?
You must have seen Zhao Benshan and Song Dandan's sketch "The Hour Worker". In the sketch, Lao Zhao Tou (Zhao Benshan) is an old father who was accepted as a dutiful son by his son. And the result?
Yangko can't be twisted Big cities are not like the countryside. People are playing a more advanced square dance, which is not on the same channel as you. You can't play erhu either. Playing at home is easy to affect grandchildren's study. You can play outside when your son and daughter-in-law have a rest. Passers-by directly treat you as a beggar. We can't afford to lose that person, so we can only stay at home and watch TV, except TV. ......
Usually, there is not even a speaker. Under the "necessity", Lao Zhao can only call the domestic service number of a brand company.
To say that this big company is a big company, the efficiency is fast. That was not the case. Shortly after Lao Zhao's phone was put away, the hourly worker in charge of chatting came to the door.
Ding-dong ... who is it?
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What follows is a humorous conversation between Lao Zhao Tou and the hourly worker (Song Dandan). Because there are too many contents, I won't go into details here. Interested friends can go back and review. It's really funny.
Because "The Hour Worker" was put on the stage of the Spring Festival Evening as a comedy work, in the end, maybe everyone will just remember some humorous lines and the humorous performance of two comedy giants Song Zhao and laugh it off without thinking too much about something inside.
But if you dig deeper, it is not difficult to find that "hourly workers" are not just for fun. In fact, the work wants to reflect a common family problem through humorous expression:
When people reach middle age, is it necessary to be filial to bring their parents with them?
Lao Zhao's son has settled down in a big city. In order to be filial, he deliberately pulled his father to his side and wanted his old father to enjoy retirement with him.
The son's filial piety did not bring happiness to his father. On the contrary, Chao Po-tao, who has long been used to rural life, took his son to a wall everywhere and everything was "restricted", as he himself admitted:
"Yes, I eat and dress here, but my freedom is gone. Just like a caged bird fluttering, it is finally a land the size of a palm, just like going to jail ... not' miserable'. Worst of all, I can only mumble to my pet dog every day, and I don't even have a speaker.
The high-quality life provided by his son to his father is actually a heavy burden for Lao Zhao, an unspeakable burden.
In fact, this is not only an individual phenomenon of Lao Zhao's family, but also a kind of society. Many people, especially those who suffered from poverty in rural areas when they were young, finally settled down in big cities through their own efforts. After realizing the freedom of wealth, the first thought must be: My parents who raised me through hardships are still suffering in their hometown, and now it is time for them to enjoy it. ......
As a result, under the double "oppression" of conscience and social responsibility, some middle-aged people who think they are doing well pull their elderly parents to their side to be filial.
However, is this really filial?
As explained in "The Hour Worker" ... At best, children just want their parents to be on their side. ......
As a matter of fact, the thoughts of home and country and the feelings of native land have long been rooted and branded in the soul of every China person. They pay attention to returning to the motherland and returning to the roots. People who have lived in one place for decades, even all their lives, have long been accustomed to the soil, clouds and trees in their hometown. If it weren't for the vicissitudes of life, how could they leave their hometown easily and leave my hometown where I was born and raised? ......
Just as Qu Yuan wrote in Ode to Oranges: After the Emperor, the trees are beautiful and the oranges are attractive. ......
Citrus bred in your world was born to adapt to the local water and soil, and was given the mission of no longer migrating, so it will take root in southern Chu forever. ......
Yes, oranges born in Huainan are oranges, and oranges born in Huaibei are oranges ... A person is "forced" to leave the place where he has lived for nearly a lifetime. Is he still "he"?
In fact, there are not only homesickness, yard dreams, but also living habits, acclimatization and social circles ... In short, coming from a familiar home to a strange environment involves too many problems and is too complicated ... Have those who are filial to their parents ever thought about it, or more bluntly: are you bringing your parents to you as your "filial piety"?
I believe that many parents should be "forced", or even if they are willing, they are reluctant. ......
Finally, some people may ask: since it is not a kind of "filial piety" to bring parents with you, what should be done to be filial?
It's actually quite simple. I think that if you do these five things, you will do your filial piety:
First, filial piety is not letting nature take its course, regardless of whether it is asked or not. Similarly, filial piety does not mean that you must pull your parents to your side and "tie" them tightly. In fact, as long as they have the heart, even if they are thousands of miles away, they are close at hand. On the other hand, if not intentional, it is close at hand and far away.
Second, respect parents' wishes, listen to their voices, and don't make subjective judgments and act arbitrarily.
Third, pay more attention to parents' inner activities, know more about what they really need, and approach their hearts with your heart, rather than perfunctory filial piety.
Fourth, communicate with parents face to face and talk to them more, instead of talking on the phone with audio and video and no flesh and blood.
Fifth, filial piety does not lie in the superficial "exhaustion", but in the "Tao" of starting from the beginning to the end, parents' endless kindness and children's lack of filial piety ..... Everything must start and end, persistence is the most important thing, and so is filial piety. ......
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