He was disheveled and unshaven, sitting on the steps at the gate of the community, shouting for divorce, heartless and so on
At this time, more and more people come out to enjoy the cool after dinner, and more and more people are watching around Uncle Jin.
Uncle Jin, who has a runny nose and tears, smells sour all over, and his clothes have been wet with sweat many times. In addition, his crying really made the listener sad and the audience shed tears.
0 1, divorced at the age of 69, wife is too heartless?
Uncle Jin introduced himself. He is 69 years old. He was forced to divorce by his wife six months ago. Now he only eats one meal every two days and hasn't washed his clothes for half a month. He looks like a lonely old man.
Think about that year, the husband and wife were also poor couples. Who ever thought that when he was old, his wife came to see him and provoked the relationship between his daughter and him? He is really pitiful now.
He chose to sit here and cry because his wife moved to this community to live with her daughter after divorce. His wife loves to dance square dance, which is her only place to go. He tried to stop her and ask her why she was so rude. What is her intention!
Just as everyone was crying, an aunt in her early 60 s came to the community, holding a round fan in her hand and wearing a red silk dance dress. At first glance, she went to catch the square dance.
Hearing Uncle Jin's cry, the aunt quickened her pace. She got angry when she came near.
Obviously, she is the heartless ex-wife of Uncle Jin.
After listening to Uncle Jin's questioning and the neighborhood's discussion, Aunt got angry and confronted Uncle Jin confidently.
According to my aunt, when she was young, she didn't mind that Uncle Jin had many brothers and sisters and was poor. She married Uncle Jin in the bullpen and lived in a shabby house of the village brigade. Only three years later, she had three thatched cottages of her own.
In order to improve her life, she goes out early and comes back late, works hard and scrimps, but her husband relies on him to study for a few days, is educated and proud, never works in the fields or does housework, and his daily mind is to find friends and friends to drink and talk about business.
"At that time, there was no running water in the countryside. I go to the water tower in the center of the village to fetch water every day, and he sleeps in the bed. In the winter when I was seven months pregnant, I still had to carry water. The road was slippery and wet, so I stepped on it and fell on a big horse. The baby is motionless in the belly. I want to go to the hospital for examination, but he won't take me. I begged others to take me to the county for B-ultrasound. Induced labor is more deadly than giving birth to a child. But he didn't look at me and blamed me for being useless and losing my son. " Aunt said, tears streaming down.
Later, the husband finally found a way to start a business, and his income gradually increased, which made him look down on his aunt even more.
Once a man finds fault with his woman, he will get into trouble.
"In the fifth year after marriage, I finally gave birth to my first daughter, but in the second month, a woman came to me, claiming to be bullied by my husband, and left evidence for me to compensate or bring my husband to justice. In the countryside in the 1980s, I was an ignorant woman with a child under the full moon. What other choice do I have? I borrowed 500 yuan from the east and 500 yuan from the west, but at that time, the 500 yuan was the living expenses of my children and me for nearly three years. But when I think about it, I feel like swallowing a live fly. " Aunt said, and stared at Uncle Jin, who bowed his head and said nothing, which shows that what Aunt said is true.
Aunt introduced that in the later days, she was bent on thinking that her husband would correct, and she tried to run business with her husband. Life is booming and enviable.
In-laws and husband want to add another man to their family, so menstruation is pregnant again.
After five months of pregnancy, her husband personally took her to an acquaintance and had a B-ultrasound. As soon as she saw that it was a girl, she immediately asked for an abortion, but menstruation refused. Since then, her husband has naturally rejected her.
After the aunt gave birth to the baby, the husband was even more depressed. He simply pointed out that he was living with a woman outside to show revenge.
My aunt is busy with business while taking care of two children.
"Do you ever remember that when your business went bankrupt, your lover's woman cheated you for thousands and then disappeared; Do you ever remember that when your child was in high school, you gambled and lost, and the whole family had no food? I've been pushing a tricycle for ten years, getting up early and getting greedy. One winter, on a snowy morning, I asked you to help me push the cart. You were tired and didn't get up. I push my own cart, just a small slope, up and down, and play downhill. Climbing for an hour, sweating in winter, has passed the peak of breakfast. Did not earn the expected 100 yuan, secretly wiped the tears all morning. It rains heavily in summer, so I called you to pick me up. You are afraid of getting wet. I drove into a ditch. Passers-by picked me up and fell into a clay figurine. I cried all the way to thank that person. " Aunt sobbed and said.
Later, my husband's career turned red, and the old problems were made again.
Aunt devoted herself to the children's college entrance examination, graduation, employment, marriage and childbirth, and the husband and wife were strangers. Ten years have passed in an instant.
"Do you remember you coaxed me into helping my eldest daughter and her children? For three years, you have lived with others. You were 65 years old then. Now, where is the teenage woman who scolded me with you? You only eat once every two days and don't wash clothes once every half month. Why? Because I have been your nanny for most of my life, you are used to eating with your mouth open and your clothes reaching out. Now that we are divorced, I won't wait on you. What are your plans for coming here again? " Aunt asked.
Under the eyes of the public, Uncle Jin bowed his head, stood up, bowed his back and said nothing, dragging a pair of dirty and torn slippers away.
"Don't come to my daughter for me. I intend to live in a nursing home. Let the children live quietly for a few days. I will call the police if you come again. " Aunt shouted at the back.
Sure enough, the next day, someone saw the aunt's daughter put three or five boxes in the car and sent her to a nursing home.
02, half a year not to go home, is the daughter unfilial?
Not long after, I saw Uncle Kim again.
Near the Spring Festival, it is still at the gate of the community. Uncle Jin is wearing a thermal underwear with worn neckline and cuffs, a tattered and outdated old down jacket in the middle, with stains all over his body and a pair of cotton shoes on his pants.
"You this community, least 8,000 yuan a flat, she lives in a big house 140 flat, works in a high-end office building, puts on thousands of clothes, and has enough necessities! Who would have thought that I was her father and she was my daughter? I haven't seen her for six months. " Obviously, it is his daughter that Uncle Jin came to crusade this time.
However, like mother, like daughter, after the daughter came out, she didn't leave much face for her father.
"Now you're thinking, your daughter doesn't go home to see you for half a year. When you live with other women, it's about a year. Have you ever thought about going home to see your daughter? " Daughter's words are reproach, but it is hard to hide sadness.
"Now you see me sitting in a big office, living in a tall building and getting dressed. Who hit me and scolded me when I was a child? My daughter is worthless and lost money. " The daughter gnashed her teeth.
"After studying for more than ten years, you didn't pick me up once, and you got sick countless times. You didn't comfort me. " The daughter continued to complain.
"You may not remember. When I was in primary school, it rained heavily after school one day. I waited for my mother to pick me up at the school gate. You're with another woman and you pick up a little boy from school. I saw you, but you pretended not to see me, waiting for my mother to pick me up. In the heavy rain, I saw you sitting in a restaurant with that woman and boy, talking and laughing and ordering. " When the daughter finished, she was already crying.
What the daughter wanted to say was pulled back by her husband.
Later, the son-in-law came out to comfort: "Dad, you go back first. On the second day of the New Year's Day, we will go back to pay a New Year call to you. "
When the old man got up to leave, his daughter chased him out and said, "Don't bother my sister in Beijing, or tell me and I won't come to see you again."
Another sigh.
Some people lament that Uncle Jin's wife is heartless, some people feel sorry for his daughter's indifference, and some people feel sorry for Uncle Jin's old age, but think about it carefully, is this a pity or a deserved one?
03, written at the end:
Uncle Jin's experience is not a case.
Whether it is data survey or examples around us, active or passive divorce of the elderly has reached a climax in recent years.
Old divorce is a lifelong hatred, and it is also the robbery of every child in it. After completing the task of children's growth and family, two people who have been at odds all their lives broke up, which not only ruined their happiness for most of their lives, but also ruined their personality growth, marriage life and behavior.
The fault in marriage is often that when you are young, you are crazy and willful, hurting your family at will, but when you are old, you are leaning on the old and crying about grievances everywhere.
"I am most afraid that he will be kind and lonely when he is old. The hatred for him will be gone after half his life, and happiness will be ruined. Who is to blame? " A best friend once said this about his father.
"Why didn't he beat and scold me? I have been like this for most of my life. Now give me tea and water and ask for help. What should I do? " A netizen once left me a message.
"The most afraid of the wicked old. No matter how reasonable you are, there is nothing you can do about him. If this wicked man is your parents, you can only cry. " Another netizen left a message.
"Now, I am extremely dissatisfied with my marriage. I am divorced and have no courage and ability. My husband is like a copy of my father, and I have become my most hated biological mother. I am really afraid that my child will be the next me. " It's a message from another netizen
Therefore, this article is written to all young couples and parents through the story of Uncle Jin. As a husband and wife, don't give up at first; As parents, we must be careful from beginning to end.
Don't always shout pity, others just say they deserve it.
I hope the above words can encourage my readers.