What is the best way to deal with mistress?
1, put down your thoughts
The love of the third party does not belong to your love, and getting a share of others' love is just a fruitless love, so you should make up your mind to let go. Cann't let go, not love, but the ideological realm.
2, long pain is not as good as short pain.
The third party is also experiencing a relationship, a kind of giving and paying, and has enjoyed the process of loving and being loved, so it is difficult to let go easily. But short-term pain is only a moment, which is easier than enduring long-term pain.
3. Don't be forced.
Give up the so-called love in front of you and find your own love. Maybe you will feel that the other person is in your heart and no one can replace it, so you will be a third party. But if you don't give up now, how do you know you will have more love? Just like the other person has his own love, how can he meet you?
4. Emotional transfer.
Put yourself into the feelings of being a third party and transfer to other aspects. For example, travel, study, live, work, study and do what you want. When you do this, you will feel that it is not difficult to give up a relationship, and you will give up this relationship sooner or later.
Step 5 stay away.
Stay away from the lover who doesn't belong to you, leave the space where you live, study and work with each other until you are far away from your heart.
6. be firm.
If you want to let go, you must be firm, don't waver at all, and don't keep in touch with each other. Give up each other completely from your own heart. No matter whether people are psychologically or physically injured, the most painful thing is the first day. If you endure the initial pain, you can endure it later.
I am a mistress, and I love him very much. What should I do?
First of all, stop blaming yourself! You are right, but the wrong person is the one who lied to you!
Of course, this does not mean that you are really right. You know, there must be a reason to be a mistress. Maybe you should think about what's wrong with yourself when you rule out true love. Why are you being cheated? Because too many girls confide anonymously on social media, saying that they are mistresses and deeply condemn themselves, they even use alcohol to relieve their pain and even gradually fall into depression. You long for a lifetime of love, but the person you love is bloody. You will lose trust in others, and you will doubt everything anyone says, so you look cold-blooded, but you are too hurt to open your heart to others. You don't want to talk about feelings with others, as if you've never been hurt.
But the pain won't go away immediately. Maybe you're still haunting him. Maybe you still have sweet fantasies. If that person spends the rest of his life with you and holds your hand to the end of his life, it is also very warm.
However, people who really love you won't let you be a mistress. Even if he tells you affectionately that he loves you the most and only has you in his heart, he doesn't really love you even if he tears himself. He is the most selfish person in the world!
His family may have a wife who takes care of the family from morning till night, or a wife who shares joys and sorrows with him. But with the growth of age, her youth passed away, and she became no longer fresh and full of vitality. There may be a naughty child at home who clamors for his father to buy toys every day. Of course, he will only tell you that I have no feelings for her and I don't want to go back to that home. He is in trouble.
Maybe I'll tell you that I want to marry you. I'm ready to have a showdown with the yellow-faced woman at home. I'll come to see you with the divorce papers. Do not give up on me! We will have our own family, and I will give you happiness. Sweet words are sometimes the most poisonous poison, even drugs, which slowly corrode your heart and make you feel that your existence is justified. The yellow-faced woman in his family is the hateful person. For the happiness of both of you, you should stick to it. But perhaps the more disgusting fact is that he has many extramarital flowers just like you. And you are just one of them.
Only when you leave him can you be truly happy. Only by learning to love yourself can you find your true happiness. Yes, I finally want you to leave him and leave this relationship that can't be called love. This is a blasphemy against love. If you yearn for marriage, it is even more blasphemous.
What if I become a mistress?
1, accept the fact
Let go of your good memories with each other, recognize that the other person is an inappropriate person, reflect on your role in this triangular relationship, correctly understand this relationship, and correctly understand the future assumption of wrong feelings. I believe that most of them will not have a good result with married women.
2. No contact
Don't let yourself and the person who broke up continue to suffer, don't contact again, don't ask friends of both sides and pay attention to each other's recent situation, don't go to places you often go to, you can be sad, but you must jump out of these emotions. Zhang Ailing said, "Forgetting a person only needs two things, one is time and the other is new love." At that time, it was not recommended to enter the next relationship immediately, and everything needed a transition.
3. Don't blame yourself too much.
You didn't mean to be a third party, so you don't have to feel guilty. Maybe someone will come to trouble you and your life. Don't be angry, explain patiently. Anyway, you have a clear conscience. It's not your fault.
Which girls are easy to be mistresses?
1, a girl who lacks fatherly love! In the process of growing up, they did not enjoy the warmth of their father's love, so they especially longed for "love" when they grew up. Mature and steady men can give them emotional support. Married men are more careful and take care of women, filling the gap in love.
2, a girl with beautiful appearance and simple thinking! Teacher Yang was very young when he was a junior. She just stepped into the entertainment circle, facing the complicated vanity fair, and wanted to find a shoulder to lean on.
3. A "material woman" who pursues fame and fortune excessively! This kind of discussion is not done, which is different from voluntary, because it is difficult to distinguish between "being a mistress" and a real mistress.