Previously, there is a history of domestic violence, swearing, no quality, I have no feelings with him, we are sexless marriage for a few years, originally wanted to wait for the child to go to college and then divorce, but now I can not hold on, do not want to go home to see him, how to do?
Seeing him is upsetting, you can go out for a trip once to take a break, or you can arrange your life in a colorful way to divert your attention from your husband.
1. Learn to love life
There are pleasures everywhere in life that you can find if you are in a relaxed mood.
You can go to a new hairstyle, buy a few new clothes, learn square dancing, listen to songs, nothing to learn to sing can be, so that their spirit is renewed, the mood will become good.
2. You can learn to cook and send videos
Cooking is easy and you do it every day. You can learn to send videos every day to record your daily life and keep yourself busy and have no time to think about anything else, so your life will be less boring and a lot more fun.
When you don't know how to do something, ask your child, children are very smart, and this knowledge is not a problem for them at all, and they must be very willing to give you a hand, and when you have something to do, you will feel that the days go by very quickly.
3. You can also learn to write something
When you have nothing to do, you can watch TV dramas and sketches, or you can write something casually to record your thoughts and moods, which will make you forget the unpleasant things.
If you really feel depressed, go out and travel once, let your mood completely relax, by the way, think about what kind of life you really want, think clearly and then go to do it.
If you feel unhappy living with your husband, leave, but talk to your children and don't break their hearts.
At 44, I'm not too old, but, basically, I have an old and young family, and there are a lot of things I can't let go of, so I simply can't leave in style.
I have a few questions that I want you to think about.
1. Will you be happy leaving your husband?
2. Will you be able to organize your life without your husband?
3. Have you thought about what you would face if you suddenly fell ill?
4. Can you live well without your husband?
5. Will your separation as a couple affect your children?
6. If divorced, would you remarry?
7. If you don't meet a man who satisfies you, will your quality of life be high?
8. If you can't find a suitable man, do you plan to grow old alone?
9. Do you have a stable income?
10. Do you have money for retirement?
11. What is your health condition?
In fact, there are a lot of such questions, quiet time you can quietly think about it, you can also talk to your best friend, and then listen to other people's marriage stories, in my opinion, marital happiness is not absolute, but are all relative, a family, if there is a 1/10 life is happy, it is already very good, 100% happy marriage does not exist.
No matter how many shortcomings your husband has, at least now he is still with you, your family is still intact, if you divorce your husband, your home has fallen apart and no longer exist.
If you think clearly and feel that you will live well away from your husband and have the confidence and courage to find happiness, you can do what you want, but how many divorced, 2-married couples are happy? Probably not even 1%.