Dad said he was very suspicious when he was young and always worried that mom would be abducted. Because at that time he was still just an ironworker, and his face was all full of pimples, while mom worked in the labor unit of the labor service company. Anyone who lived through that era knows that the labor unit was in charge of the distribution of youth and collective work, and it was very popular. Mom was so young and pretty that at my fifth grade parent-teacher conference, my classmates thought she was my older sister. Dad said that he was very suspicious of both his mom's male colleagues and the men who came to beg her for jobs. This suspicion of his also infected Grandma. Once, a male colleague came to the house to talk to Mom about a job, and Grandma spat after the man left, saying, "Shame on you." In the face of dad's suspicion again and again, mom was both angry and sad, but also unjustifiably subjected to grandma's spitting and accusations, mom felt really can't go on, she wanted to get a divorce. But when she saw my brother and me, she thought that she could only take one of the two children, and how could she feel comfortable with the other one at dad's side? For our sake, mom stayed. Dad later told us that he actually knew that mom was a very traditional woman and would not have anything with other men. He just couldn't help but be suspicious because of his own low self-esteem, feeling that the gap between him and his mom was too big, and fearing that he would lose her.
There are many instances of paranoia not just in life, but in books and TV shows.
Othello, one of Shakespeare's four great tragedies, has a male protagonist who listens to other people's slander and suspects that his wife has been unfaithful to him, so he kills her and finally kills himself in remorse.
The TV series "My First Half Life" Luo Zijun suspected that her husband had given jewelry to other female colleagues, and made a big fuss in her husband's company, which proved to be just a misunderstanding, but also made her husband lose face.
In the face of such instances, we are always accusing those who are suspicious, they are indeed at fault, because their suspicion has led to so many negative consequences. But has anyone ever wondered why they are so suspicious, and in the face of their suspicion, what remedies have been done by those who are suspected of being suspicious?
2. The way to face the suspicious partner
Mother in order to avoid the father's suspicion, try to reduce the opportunity to get along with other men, even if it is a unit party, friends invited, mother can push on the push, mother from the past is also able to sing and dance, but for the sake of family harmony, no longer cause the father's suspicion, and gradually closed themselves up. I remember one time they quarreled, Dad likes to go to the square dance, let Mom go together, Mom refused, Dad was very angry, Mom said: "Why did I become like this, you do not know?" Dad was speechless.
Desdemona in Othello also never saw herself or the other person clearly in her relationship. Naive, naive, uninformed in front of her inferiority narrow-minded jealous husband, empty love, when Othello appeared a different attitude, she appears even a little blind confidence, never want to share the other side of Othello, but also can not really walk into the marriage will have to face the reality of the problem, and finally ended up in a fateful end.
My First Half Life