If I have always been positive, it must be a lie. Everyone will have this experience (especially those with bad childhood). Some people may choose not to face it, some people may pay too much attention to the dead end, but some people can handle the psychological burden well and have a wonderful life.
Everyone will encounter a series of problems in the process of growing up, and what attitude to treat these problems will affect our life. I have experienced adversity myself, and I have had days of being upset, aimless and insecure, and I have tried to live a smooth but inexplicable upset life. In this process, I summed up the following eight ways to help me adjust my mood! If you want to get out of depression by yourself, you can refer to it.
Of course, if you feel trapped and need to consult a psychologist, go ahead. People in China tend to have some prejudice against seeing a psychiatrist, thinking that all the people who see a psychiatrist are mental or psychological diseases (mental illness in our concept). But it's really no big deal. Psychotherapists participate in teaching counseling in many foreign schools in order to make children's psychological growth healthier!
The most important thing is to adjust your mentality and always believe that "when God closes a door for you, he will open a window for you". Everything has two sides, depending on what kind of mentality you look at it.
That reader may be too focused on past misfortunes. Why did this happen to me? Why did someone do this to me? Why am I so unlucky? If you keep this idea, you will become very negative over time. When your mind is negative, you will feel negative about everything, and you will not explore the meaningful side of life.
For example, your boss may talk business with you in a louder voice. If you have fallen into negative thinking at this time, you may be particularly sensitive to this matter. Originally, a small matter will be infinitely magnified by your thoughts, causing psychological burden on yourself, so you feel that unfortunate things happen to yourself one after another. According to the law of attraction, if you think that bad things will attract bad things, it will get you deeper and deeper.
It is difficult and unrealistic to instantly adjust from the mentality of eliminating accumulation to a positive mentality. The key point is to realize that you need to adjust your mentality, make up your mind to adjust, and learn to observe and reflect on your true inner reaction, so as not to get deeper and deeper, and slowly adjust and change your mentality!
Do more aerobic exercise. I read a psychological research report, which said that most depression can be solved through exercise. Because exercise can make the body produce amine polyphenols, which is a chemical secreted by the central nervous system of the brain when it is stimulated. It has a calming effect, can relieve pain, and the key is to make people feel happy.
This method is very practical. I have experienced depression for a long time several times, and I also talked about it in the history of grassroots struggle. I find that exercise can help me get out of depression and psychological trough. Later, I learned to exercise regularly to keep myself in good shape.
Keeping a diary is also one of the methods I used, and the effect is obvious. In fact, it is a process of inner communication and reflection. You can vent your feelings through a diary, and you don't have to be afraid to reveal your secrets or hurt others. Diary can not only help you vent your anger, but also help you grow up. But please remember to encourage yourself with positive words in your diary and give yourself affirmation, which will help you even more.
There is also a kind of diary, which tends to help you think deeply about the causes of some problems and let you find out what is bothering you.
Join a social group. Many people with depression don't like to go out to socialize. They like to stay at home. Staying alone for a long time is prone to accidents. People are social animals, and socializing is actually one of people's basic needs. When communicating with people, we will find emotional sustenance. Some people have been depressed for a long time, but they may feel particularly good after chatting with friends for an afternoon. Why? Mainly because our emotions have been vented in the process of social interaction and our basic needs have been met. It would be better if friends could give you some advice and comfort.
Remember! Your friend is not a trash can. Don't pour bitter water as soon as you meet. When you feel comfortable, it is when your friend is depressed. Nobody likes this feeling!
I was deeply touched by this and was fascinated by it for a while. I basically watch the sun at home on weekends, and I don't have to eat anything. This state lasted for two or three weeks, and I found myself depressed and didn't want to do anything. But there was nothing wrong with my life and work during that time. Later I learned that it was because I was isolated from the world for too long.
When you are in a bad state, you should force yourself to go out, attend some activities, lectures, or join a social group. When choosing social groups, you'd better choose positive ones, because a positive environment can change your mentality. If you don't listen to my advice and join the underworld, then I will commit a crime!
Travel is really unbearable. You can take a vacation and go out to relax. The biggest advantage of traveling is that you can change your environment and mentality immediately. Although it costs money, the effect is obvious. Remember that there are two ways to travel: one is active travel and the other is leisure travel.
If you are depressed and depressed, choose the active type. It's easy to forget all the problems and troubles on such a trip, because there are so many new and interesting things that I can't stop every day. It's easy to get rid of emotional death in the past when you are busy. Make a promise to yourself before traveling, be crazy, enjoy the whole process, and remember to review the changes in your mood when you come back to find that feeling of relaxation.
If you are under too much work pressure and think too much, then choose the leisure type. For example, lying on the beach, listening to the cry of the sea, blowing the wind, basking in the sun, calming your brain, relaxing yourself and charging yourself. If you are tired from work, don't let the full schedule consume your energy.
Listening to music and singing music are the closest friends of human mind, because the frequency of music sound waves will cause the brain to react. Beautiful music can improve the excitement of cerebral cortex, promote human body to secrete some active substances beneficial to health, and regulate blood flow in human body. The rhythm of music also affects the secretion of hormones and adrenaline. Studies have shown that people will secrete more steroids when they are nervous, and the steroid secretion will decrease after listening to relaxing music, which is why many people now use music therapy to help people get rid of depression.
I suggest you listen to some soothing music when you are stressed, and choose some fast-paced music when you are depressed. However, the choice of music is still different. If you are already very sad and still listening to some sad love songs that are lovelorn, your mood may become more and more depressed.
This method of dancing is also from the book Positive Energy, because I don't dance myself and I haven't tried it. According to the theory of behavioral psychology, people's external behavior will also affect a person's heart, not just the inner thoughts that determine the external behavior. According to this theory, when you are in a bad mood, forcing yourself to smile will make you feel better. And dance is the best external behavior to stimulate inner happiness.
I quite agree that people are usually in high spirits when dancing, in fact, it is because the movements of limbs stimulate the brain to call up excited emotions. Now we know why square dance is so popular with middle-aged and elderly people. If there is no square dance, there may be hundreds of millions of parents nagging their children every day in China.
Give yourself a short-term goal. You are depressed, you are confused, and sometimes you have nothing to do!
You can ignore everything, first set a short-term goal that is harmless to yourself and find something to do for yourself. When you have a goal, you are more likely to concentrate and less likely to be distracted. Long-term goals will be better, and short-term goals don't matter. At least this goal can pull you out of the emotional trap, and you may find yourself after this time. Looking for the meaning and sense of direction of life from three aspects? There are some suggestions on how to find your own direction in life.
I hope these suggestions can help you. If you have a good idea, you can leave me a message and learn from each other.