The first time, there is no other way, can only rely on time to slowly dilute the inner sadness, it is not hard to get out of, and, the more effort the more sad, perhaps because my son was small, I need to take out most of the energy to take care of him, so the pain of the time is relatively reduced to a certain extent, also helped me gradually out of the predicament.
This time, the work thing, but also a not too small difficulties, there is no other way, can only seriously step by step toward the front, as long as the direction of the right, probably one day will slowly across the past, I think perhaps this is also a kind of self-consolation, but at present, in addition to hard work and perseverance, there is no other way.
Life has been through a lot of hard work, and it's tough to live one.
In 1999, the unit bankruptcy workers laid off, the husband's company bankruptcy. Husband and wife are capable of the same forest birds, the great difficulties fly separately, the man went back to his hometown and lover over, leaving his wife and children.
A laid-off woman with a child in pre-school, in order to survive and children's tuition fees, and then the hard and tired work on the job, in the construction team ling over the ash bucket, under the cement, in the mountains to open up the land for planting vegetables planting food, and finally tired of back pain, only to go to set up stalls, eleven o'clock at noon before arriving at school to pick up the child to go home to eat, and then in the afternoon rush to the class to take the child to school. After the street stalls, the child directly to the street to eat, every night of the year and wazi go back to cook at nine o'clock every night and eat a after the child to do homework, I wash clothes outside on the sink to wash, to touch to twelve o'clock to sleep to get sleep, and so on year after year to the child junior high school biyei and then on the high school, in order for children to study at ease, children live in school.
In the fall lo day stalls, all year round spring, summer, fall and winter temperatures have to hold out. Until the child was admitted to the university four years of undergraduate college graduation, I called the child again to graduate school, the child did not take the test, said his mother is too tired, too hard, said to go to find a job, so that his mother to take it easy.
It's not easy to live a life of personal, bitter on bitter and a little sweet, the child is good, did not let down the mother of his hopes, I have not been tired for nineteen years.
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Anyone's life can not be smooth sailing, are ditch bumps all the way over, but the life of the son of the poor and cold, but also have to withstand more than ordinary people more difficult steep slopes, more cold years, more hungry sleepless nights ......
Two than the life of an unforgettable event, gave me at any time do not fall down, rolled forward The power of ----- the 1970s, when I topped my own hunger for a few hours backpack running home, my mother opened the lid of the pot, shoveled a handful of boiled soft wheat grains, I held the grains of wheat a few times in the belly ...... mother told me no more, the pot to stay an older brother and brother who have not yet returned home. Although not eaten full, but the heart are not panic, strange is not wheat harvest season, the mother of the grain, and why to give us brothers to eat wheat grain? After more than a month to realize that the family broke grain, we eat wheat grain is the first night mother to the people borrowed dry wheat, soaked overnight the next day to cook soft to our diet ...... know that our parents raised us difficult, after school and then hungry and hard to endure, silently back up the bamboo basket to the ground to forage for pig food, and by the way, you can find a bit of lettuce can be hungry to eat! ......
In 1990, I traveled to a different country to make a living, and my family was busy in a different country, but my income was poor! In the spring of 1992, I received a letter from my parents, three days after the early death of my grandparents to go back to the monument, planned to have a few dozens of dollars on the road, but returned home to know that the day pushed back a few days, had to wait at home, to be the end of the matter away from home, only to know that the fare is only enough for two-thirds of the mileage, I really don't know how to do it? Silently out of the house, just to go out of the village suddenly heard shouting, turn around to see is the mother, she handed over fifty dollars, when the mother Shaw thin wrinkled skin in the hands of the money, tears hit the orbital dike hastily bid farewell to the kind eyes on the road, twilight dark very arrived at the destination, more than three hundred miles I was silent ......
Perhaps it is from a young poor life experience. The experience, so that I have the courage and strength to overcome the plight, so difficult days have come, although the current road is very steep, although not good to eat can be eaten, compared to that hungry and cold yesterday is nothing! And what storms and difficulties can not be overcome?
The most difficult time in life, I rely on adjusting the mindset of self-transcendence, come through!
I had surgery for cancer, and the comforting words of my friends and family at that time were like a boot to the head, which didn't do much for me.
These are the first time I've ever seen a computer that was used in the past, and I've never seen a computer that was used in the past that wasn't used in the past, so I've never seen one that was used in the past!
Tumors are not afraid of medicine, but in the face of optimism and Zen enlightenment, they really often look at the wind and go.
If you are in the most difficult time of your life like me, please join me in chanting -
"Linjiang Xian?
The falling leaves and the west wind can break the intestines, the slanting sun and I who contempt?
I will not kneel down in this life.
In the fall, there are thousands of willows in the water, and in the spring, there are thousands of butterflies in the mountains.
The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do it.
The first thing you need to do is to get a good deal on a wine.
The first thing I want to do is to leave my bag behind, and then I'll take over the sky.
(The spectrum according to Long Yusheng Su Shi body, new rhyme)
(Lyrics postscript: the word first draft, when the author was doing surgery on the eve of cutting intestines, hospitals and Xiangshan not far away from each other, walking alone outside the park, long song "dreaming of swimming in Tianmu Yin Liufei" a number of times, the strong gas filled with the heart, and momentarily forget about the world's trials and tribulations. I really want to thank Taibai! (Today's revised draft, and springtime, and even more emotions!)
The most difficult time, think about this life really have several times the most difficult time.
And ex-husband just married, his family in rural areas, penniless, froze with the strength of the effort, opened up a small store, the days began to be a little better, came a seven-year itch, had an affair, the idea of the child is small, and he cried bitterly and wrote a guarantee, forgave him, and continue to live.
Desperately trying to make money, bought a store, three cars, got, the second seven-year itch, came a marital derailment, the hall to the female customers that night.
The days of torment and struggle, let a person suffering, and ultimately decided that instead of their own pain, it is better to let go.
A person if the heart is not in, even if the pickpocket people do not let go is useless, in vain to let themselves deep into the pain. We don't have to punish ourselves for other people's mistakes, torture ourselves, make ourselves unhappy, let go of others, but also in the redemption of oneself.
All those years I fought very hard
Drunken Flower Yin / text
Looking at my son, sometimes I really envy his happiness and possession, sometimes I also wonder what kind of life and future he will be? He has a great sense of superiority, will he be able to take responsibility in the future? The lack of years of refinement he will be strong to walk their own way? I often feel that I have experienced people, but that experience is not enough to let me have the comfort of success, he will not even I can not go beyond it?
I caught the last bus of the university allocation, but also to catch the graduation of the two-way choice, exactly, there is nothing to allocate, they have to find their own way of survival. I remember the first job is to do a sanitary napkin brand sales work, we were called the shopkeeper, that is a strange city not far from home, although not far, but also counted the beginning of my wandering road. The conditions there are very poor, with a few boxes of sanitary napkins stacked up is my bed, in the heat of the day, every night suffering from mosquito bites, perhaps destined to be austerity, then a feeling of confusion, what dreams and planning, are submerged in the daily early morning and late at night, only to know that they should work, should make money to earn their own living. The joy of a new job seems to have forgotten the harsh conditions. It is a very small unit, only my supervisor two people, catch him married that year, took a month's vacation, a person days although lonely, but also at ease.
Wife is a college classmate, then or girlfriend, although the two places apart, but the most happy is that his girlfriend can come to see me once a month, I was paid 400 yuan, 200 yuan a month to the girlfriend's travel expenses, my living expenses are only 200 yuan, to eat something good, I remember that the end of the month in the pocket is only 5 dollars, has eaten a week in the office supervisor left behind! Noodles, fortunately, there are two bags of sauce, the only stove is a fire to cook noodles is often burned off the line of the electric stove, each time you have to wait for the wire to cool down, reconnect before you can burn, sometimes a series of several times; that night half of the noodle cooking, and as expected, broken, mixed feelings, looking at the four walls of the lone, simply kicked over the only 5 yuan to the street to buy a bottle of beer, ate ten strings of skewers (at that time, the skewers were only 30 cents). The skewers were only 30 cents at that time), which feels cheap now, but for me it was like a New Year's Eve extravagance when I was a kid. I remember that night eating very cool, the night is also extraordinarily beautiful, that kind of sound feeling as if a rare spontaneity. Late at night standing in the middle of the square, looking at the flow of traffic, looking into the distance, that far away from the bright and dim lights, I do not know whether it is hope or darkness, the cold wind bitterly cold and lonely tears cry: "I will be successful" ......
Everyone is a small man But small people can be plain, not mediocre, this is my law of action. It is this kind of fight that I feel I have not wasted those years. I don't know if this truth exists in other fields as well. I'm looking at my son and wondering if I'm trying to make him happier or if he doesn't have to walk that hard road anymore.
People in the most difficult time encountered things, most people will eat meals, sleep, sleep, worry, only a very small number of people, the sleep on sleep, the food on eat, this is not only related to the character of the people, but also with people's experience, cultivation, when you meet the above appeared in those symptoms, what to do?
1 to solve the problem
First go to the hospital to check to see if there is no organic lesions, there is no big problem, then rest assured, is not resting well, you can let the doctor prescribe some fire, tranquilizing medicine, is not too much pressure, or there is a matter of the heart is not resolved, if you know the root of their own disease in which the problem is dealt with first, the symptoms also disappeared.
2 Cultivation
The most prone to the above symptoms, a little thing immediately want to solve, a little work want to finish immediately, if not finished, they can not eat, sleep unsteadily, so it is recommended that this character of the people, nothing to practice yoga, embroidery cross-stitch, you can grind your temperament for a long time, and slowly there are changes, the people, do not be in a hurry to encounter things, move your brain, there will be a way to solve the problem, and the people will not be in a hurry, but will have a way to solve the problem. Use your brain, there will be a way to solve
3 exercise
In the morning you can go out to run, play badminton, you can walk with your family at night, you can also go to the square dance, practicing Tai Chi, before going to bed you can also practise yoga on the bed, exercise is everywhere, as long as you are mindful of the movement at any time and any place, the body works out well to eat and eat, the quality of sleep will also be improved. The best way to do this is to have a good body workout and a good meal. The body weak people do not forget to exercise ah!
4 Positive and optimistic
Every day to face life with a positive and optimistic attitude, wake up, we will smile to ourselves and say, a new day begins, looking at the sun just rising, facing the cool breeze, we will smile. We have to hold a grateful mind to nature, to family to be friendly and caring, to colleagues to help each other, to do our duty to the work, the heart is full of sunshine.
5 open-minded
Being a person who will be annoyed, encountered things, open-minded, they will unblock their emotions, you can talk to a close friend, you can also write a diary, write down their heart, you can also ask for advice, so that netizens to help you analyze the situation, after all, more than one person involved in more than one line of thought, and sometimes, the upset are a person's psychology in the trouble, can not think about it! To rise to the occasion, adhere to their original intention, the courage to go before, little by little to break through, think about other ways, you can also ask for advice, can not be anxious, calm down, every day there is progress. There is no can't pass, only can't pass the person, as long as you want, you must be able to do.
7 life is full
time to organize properly, what time to do, have a plan, have a goal, when you do things in order, there is no time to think of other things, and do not have to worry about missing points of other things, so that only need to be completed one by one seriously. Put the usual work are good, leisure time can chat, read a book, listen to music, the evening can go out for free activities, accompany the loved ones to take a walk, talk. The days passed easily and happily.
It's true that life is unpredictable, and that people can get hurt at any time. Three years ago, my child was killed in a car accident, and I was devastated. I was so upset that I had to cry all day long.
However, in the face of my parents in their eighties, who are aging and need me to take care of them, I feel that the responsibility of life has not yet been fulfilled, or to be strong, and only choose to look forward to go on step by step.
Because of the support and encouragement of relatives and friends around me, my past students have also been concerned about and cared about my family through various channels, so in order not to let them continue to worry about me, my family and I chose to re-establish the confidence of life, and gave birth to a second child.
Now, we have laughter in our lives again, and our days are colorful again. Although it is impossible for us to get rid of the pain and grief of losing a child in this life, but after all, we have embarked on a new journey, we must continue to pay, to nurture and educate our second child with care, and to lead her to adulthood and success.
All in all, to survive the most difficult time in life, my realization is to take responsibility, think more about others, in fact, everyone needs me, I am strong, we do not have to worry and worry about me.
Speaking of life's most difficult moments, the most profound experience is only three kinds of situations, one is difficult to live, the second is economic difficulties, and the third is difficult circumstances. Speaking of life difficulties, can simply become a word "poor", now life is better, but once those poor days, every time I think about it is not inevitable still absolutely chilling. Elderly people to support, children to go to school, the most afraid of a disease or something, no money for treatment, no time to take care of, for fear of delaying earning money, for fear of not being able to afford to buy supplements. But even if you are poor, you still have to live, right? The solution is what people think of, living supplies can not afford to buy on credit, when in an emergency, borrowing money, ordinary life on the frugal use. No matter how poor, the credibility is the capital.
Furthermore, there are economic difficulties, no very lucrative career, no money to invest. There are a lot of careers to earn money, but everyone's situation is different, different opportunities, sometimes because of family difficulties, some will be because of the body and education and the ability to limit, can only be engaged in some hard and low-wage occupations. Although you have ambition, you have not been able to break free from the quagmire of poverty. Although you have superhuman talent, can not meet a good opportunity, there is no money to invest in a good project, but also equal to nothing, there is a saying that if the poor can earn a lot of money, then the rich go to earn who's money ah! This time to see hope, firmly believe that the patient will recover, the child will grow up, the industry will turn around, the status will improve, have confidence in order to have the power to change, God is fair, as long as the feet to struggle, I believe that the salted fish will also have to turn over.
The third situation is the situation is difficult, investment in the cause will fail, the most believe that people will abandon you, the family changes, this time will make you struggle, how to do, this is to sharpen your time to come. Don't be discouraged, these are temporary, if down, then that you completely failed. As long as you are brave to face, all the less than firm to carry down, then you win not only success but also respect. As long as they do not give up, success is only a matter of time.
Life is not easy, the most difficult moment in life is not more than a small age without the company of the mother, care, concern, care.
I vaguely remember that I was still in elementary school, should be exactly the age of carefree, unfortunately, life and I opened a big joke, parents quarrel, mother left me. I thought my mother would be back soon, but I didn't expect to hear from her for a week. I knew my mother was really gone. So I was no longer in the mood to play, no longer eat properly, every day to find a place where no one, a person in tears. But that didn't solve anything, it only tortured me to the point where I was no longer human. So I started to pull myself together, learned to take care of myself every day, and studied hard. This way, I can get my mother back when I have the ability to do so in the future.
Other people after school someone to pick up I did not, other people rained parents send umbrella I did not, other people days cold parents send cotton clothes I did not ...... There is a saying that you lose will one day always come back in another way, God in the closure of a door for you, at the same time, will also be for you to open a window. Such an environment makes me more self-reliant and self-reliant, and makes me more mature and brave. Thank you for that time. And thank you for not being crushed at that time!