A confident woman, do not have to go to great lengths to torture her husband's nerves to gauge the temperature of his love; also do not have to beat around the bush and dare not directly express their own views on him. Reason is not in the words more, a good understanding, reasonable wife, will win the husband's love.
Smart women don't complain
No matter what situation we are in, if we only know how to complain incessantly, then it is destined to be unhelpful, and will only make things worse, and this is by no means our original intention.
In general, women seem to act as if they need comfort more than men, as if they desperately want it. Unfortunately, many men don't realize this because men themselves are far less concerned about what's going on around them than women are, and he simply doesn't notice the daily changes in food and the way his loved one dresses, and therefore can't afford to think about appreciating it.
If a woman is always forcing her partner to praise her, or complaining that he's not being gentle enough, the result may be that he's deliberately avoiding her, or being hostile to you! The wise woman's approach is to give him generously the praise he expects first, and if he is really unresponsive to things around him, you should gently try to let him know what you think. If you just put on a rather aggrieved look, then you get only his resentment.
In addition, you have to remember that no man wants to be seen as an unsophisticated boy, so do not scold your husband in the same way as a mother scolds her child. You should remember a general rule: with gentleness and wit you can easily win, accusation and coercion are doomed to failure.
No man is born a good man, but a wise and tolerant woman can create a good man by gradual penetration. A wise woman should do is to let the man unknowingly accept your point of view, at the same time he himself can learn a lot of things from. If you accuse him of being a hard ass, then everything is off the table, and not only will he not learn anything, he won't be a good man either.
In addition to complaining about their loved ones, there are many women who seem to be dissatisfied with everything they do, complaining about this today and that tomorrow, as if they don't say anything to complain about for a moment, they can't feel the balance of their psyche. In fact, these complaints not only hurt their own, but also hurt others.
Complaints are like burning a balloon with cigarettes, so that others and themselves are deflated. No one wants to be near a whiner for fear that he or she will be infected. Complaining will make you lose your courage and all your friends.
A great man once said: to make a difference is the highest state of life. Complaining, on the other hand, is doing nothing, avoiding responsibility, abandoning obligations, and sinking into self-absorption.
It is often said that to put down is to be happy. Instead of complaining, it would be better to put it down, with a transcendent and open-minded to face everything, so ushered in will be another new scene. There are many things in the world is worthless, complaining is one of them. So, smart women should learn not to complain.
Happiness Inspiration
If a wife is always forcing her husband to praise herself, or complaining about her husband's lack of tenderness, the result may be that her husband's deliberate avoidance, () or hostility to you.
What smart women never say to their husbands
Often a wife's biggest complaint about her husband is that he doesn't say anything to her at all, while his most consistent view is that saying too much causes arguments.
As close as couples are, they can't talk out of turn. Otherwise, it is either a needless family dispute, or become a husband in the eyes of the incomprehensible woman. There are some things that a smart woman would never say to her husband.
Do not ask about the past
Mature people do not ask about the past, smart people do not ask about the present, open-minded people do not ask about the future.
People who are in love should be trusting and not suspicious, and should be tolerant and not demanding.
Since you love him, you should give him a loose environment; since you love him, you should keep one point of the past for him, keep one point of dignity, along with his secret to love. It is useless to ask about the past, if he thinks he needs to tell you, he himself will say; if he does not want to say, even if you ask him he is not willing to answer, and may also lie to deceive you to put his secret in the wind, not in the heart, each other will feel relaxed.
Do not ask if love
Once a man said: At first, my wife asked me if I love her, I am full of tenderness to tell her that I love you, and then more often than not, I answered the numbness, the heart is really annoyed, but I can not rush and she feels like a routine.
The romance in the woman's heart is often a nightmare in the man's mouth. If there is not a sentence I love you, women will be on edge. And from a young age, we should be educated to show that Yang just now is not unmanly men, there is a deep-rooted notion: I love you hanging on the lips, is the behavior of the sissy! So they would rather express their love in other ways. Men think that working hard and earning money is the best proof of love for their wives.
Women love sweet words, but if you want a perfunctory answer, ask your husband every day if he loves you. Smart women, know how to keep their mouths shut and learn to feel with their hearts.
Do not poke his tricks
Yes, the man's tricks, perhaps for romance, perhaps to win the hearts of loved ones, perhaps to meet the self-esteem, this time the woman do not poke, as long as the lover to get happy, and occasionally play stupid and what is difficult for him!
Do not do long tongue woman
Some people always like to move the right and wrong, say three, as if not to say something on the uncomfortable, can not hear other people's homes on the sleep and food. But please keep one principle in mind when satisfying your curiosity: don't spread those words that hurt others. Even if you can't stop someone from saying it, it's okay to have heard it, and you can't go on saying it to others yourself, because the tongue is the most poisonous thing in the world.
Do not expose each other
Dr. Peiberschwartz, a professor of sociology at the University of Washington in Seattle and author of Love Among Equals: How to Truly Make Marriage Equal, points out that by using words like always or never, it's unlikely that your husband will be able to have a normal conversation with you at this moment.
Dr. Herwald Markman, PhD, professor of psychology at the University of Denver and author of Fighting for Marriage: The Laws of Avoiding Divorce and Making Love Last, argues that often a wife's biggest complaint about her husband is that he doesn't talk to her at all, and the most consistent view of husbands is that talking too much causes arguments. So if you want your husband to not only listen to you but communicate with you more, he advises, always be at peace.
Happiness motivation
Marriage is a beaker, and the two people who enter it are actually the two active elements. How to find another element without recognizing yourself, then it is very likely that you find a good element, but this good element and you do not react, or even generate an evil reaction.
1. Complaints are like bad breath, when it comes out of other people's mouths, we notice it; but when it comes out of our own mouths, we can turn a deaf ear to it.
2. If you want other people to change, you yourself must change first.
3. When you're with someone else and your conversation starts to turn negative, just sit back and observe. Don't jump the gun or try to change others.
4. Success is going from failure to failure and remaining passionate.
5. If you want someone or the current situation to change, that's complaining. If you want everything to be different, that's complaining, not just stating facts.
6. People who don't have self-confidence want to escape by complaining.
7. People who are insecure, who question their own importance, and who are unsure of their self-worth, are the ones who brag and complain.
8, whatever you desire, you are entitled to. Stop making excuses and move quickly toward your dreams.
9. Be honest with your emotions and rest in your insecurities.
10, Don't complain to make yourself special. You need to be awake to the truth: you are already special.
11. As you become more sure of yourself, others, and your life situation, you will attract more things that bring you joy.
12. Seek guidance for yourself so that what you say is constructive, not destructive. If you have nothing to say, keep silent.
13. Silence allows you to be introspective and reflective, to choose your words carefully, and to say what you want to say to send creative energy, rather than letting your insecurities drive you to a long, stinking rant.
14. In fact, you can express your expectations without complaining about the situation to get the results you want.
15. You have the right to get what you deserve. To get there, don't keep talking about it or focusing on it at all. You should have to think about the problem on a higher level and watch it get solved. Just talk about your desires, just talk to someone who can provide a solution. You'll shorten the wait, get your needs met faster, and be happier in the process.
16, some people are to see the current situation, and then ask why it is so? I dream of the unseen and ask why it is not so.
17. Our thoughts create our lives, and our words show what we think.
18. In every moment, you are creating a life with your most focused thoughts.
19, When you become a happier person, you raise the overall level of happiness in the world. You'll transmit shockwaves of optimism and hope that ****tune with others whose ideas see eye to eye. You'll create unbridled anticipation for a better future with everyone.
20, if you shout "pain", the damage will appear; if you complain, you will meet more want to complain. This is the "law of attraction" in action. When you go through these stages, when you give up complaining, when you stop paying attention to the harm and cry "pain", your life will bloom like a beautiful spring flower.
21. To be a happy person, to be in control of your own thoughts, to begin to live your life according to your own plans, you need a very high threshold to allow yourself to express grief, pain or dissatisfaction.
22. Complaining is: expressing grief, pain and dissatisfaction.
23, you find yourself in a bunch of grumbling crowd? Are you surrounded by whiners? Well, I'd like to offer a message to help you make sense of the situation - usually, we approach people who are similar to us and avoid people who are different from us.
24. People who are similar, whether they are equally complaining or equally grateful, are attracted to each other. Those who are not similar will repel each other. We are all creatures of energy, and energy that vibrates at different frequencies cannot be harmonized and intermingled.
25. Healthy communication is: talk directly to the person with whom you have a problem, and only talk to that person. To talk to another person is to complain. This will create a triangle of problems and will continue to create problems without solving them.
26. It feels like people often complain because you do too.
27, one of the main reasons we gossip or complain is to make ourselves look better in comparison. "At least I'm not as bad as so-and-so." When I point out your flaws, I'm implying that I don't have such flaws, so I'm better than you.
28, Complaining is boasting, and no one likes a braggart.
29, you will notice that another person has these shortcomings, because you yourself have.
30, you will see these advantages in others because you yourself have them, which is also your trait.
31. You don't just create your own reality through your thoughts and words, but you also influence those around you.
32. Being aware of how much complaining is going on around you will help you realize that you may be inviting and then voicing complaints through your own involvement.
33. Our words have great power. When we change the words that come out of our mouths, we begin to change our lives.
34, if you start to adopt can stimulate the heart of the positive energy of naming, to call the people and things in life, you will find that they will no longer annoy you, but also give you substantial help.
35. Criticism can't solve problems, but rather amplify them.
36. Criticism is a complaint with a sharp edge, usually directed at someone with the intention of belittling that person.
37. Appreciation can motivate people to perform better, in order to get more appreciation; criticism is depleting, when we belittle others, in fact, is also in the tacit acceptance of the person in the future is still the same.
38, when you complain, in fact, is in the exclusion of their own name want things; your complaints will push away, expel you say you want things. So, give yourself positive hints. Smile and go sing life.
39, our external world, is the reflection of their own inner world; our relationship with others, also stems from our relationship with themselves. You can't be better to others than you are to yourself, it all starts with you.
40, and other people together to talk, do not complain with him.
41, success is from failure to failure, but also still do not change the enthusiasm.
42, people who are insecure, question their importance, and are unsure of their self-worth are the ones who brag and complain.
43, if you study the biographies of successful people, you will find that the reason for their success is not to exclude the challenges of life, but to face the challenges of life. They accepted what happened to them and used it to help them grow. They stopped telling everyone how much they were wronged and started looking for the blessings in the challenges.
44. Your attitude, which is the outward expression of your inner thinking, determines how people relate to you.
45, do not let negative people, deprive you of the pursuit of ideal life.
46, those who feel that complaining is a matter of course, can not get anywhere, only in the same unhappy starting point in place. Our focus has to be on the outcome of what we want to happen, not what we don't want.
47, in the busy life, as long as we smile in the face of life, the dusty heart open, so that the sound of complaints fade, naturally, will be extended and deep into the many dimensions of life, awakening us longing for change. Do not give up, do not complain, believe in yourself, seize the opportunity, everything is possible!
48, our perception of others, determines what kind of appearance they will present in front of us, as well as the relationship between us and them.
49. Happiness is in the moment, all around you.
50, find someone for whom you can cheer and cheer, and who is willing to do the same for you. Together, the two of you can make change happen.
51, when you value yourself and your world more, you show some kind of influence, and also recruit yourself to a wider source of wealth.
52, in the workplace, we are based on the ability to do things or create as to receive a salary; we get more or less, mostly depending on the level of their own professional talents. However, a person who spreads sunshine and joy in the office has the value of gold.
53, your attitude, that is, the external expression of your inner thinking, determines the relationship between people and you.
54, Blessings are neutral, and so is your ability to create a life, how you intend to use it, you will get the corresponding results.
55, if we do not deliberately choose what kind of life we want to live, we will follow the footsteps of others chaotic days.
A refined woman knows how to enjoy life, can afford to be rich, and will not want to give up on her when the man is rich.
Peaceful woman, not so obsessive, will not be hysterical, and will not cry.
A kind woman is the one who doesn't let a man worry and be afraid, and a man will never forget her. In front of such a woman, the man will not be wary, and can feel safe.
A good woman will tell her child that the man is his father, not his enemy, even after the breakup.
Woman, sexy pronoun. Woman, very fickle, one minute before and one minute after can make her change a decision. Women, pampered when it can be a gentle Persian cat, angry when it can be a terrible tigress. Women, always so sentimental, so I see pity.
A woman of interest, often a happy woman, at least a woman who can create happiness, so women, men happy to go, how can not stay?
Not every woman is fortunate enough to be a beautiful woman, but also fortunate enough not to be an ugly woman. In fact, the woman attracted men, first of all, is pleasing to the eye, rather than beautiful. Because some women are too focused on their own beauty, but always with the environment is not so coordinated.
A good woman knows how to leave a way out for herself, not to make things impossible.
The most feminine embodiment is reserved. How to be reserved, it is very simple, a raised hand, a head of hesitation, think before speaking, walk a little careful, hear a joke after a slow beat of the smile, all reflecting the woman's reserve.
A woman, if the image of their own slack, relaxed, sloppy, then her charm is also weakened.
Everyone, may be a lamp. Behind every window, there may be a star hidden. Whether it shines or not is up to you.
A frank woman is not humble, not flattering, not inferior.
A calm woman can always make a man feel peaceful and relaxed, so that when a man is sad, when he is tired or even too excited, he wants to be with her.
Life is said to be an investment, I believe, because women are always investing.
Women thirty will generally experience such three men: one you love, one loves you, one is married to you.
Intelligent women, know how to identify men, know what is good, what is not good, will not waste their heart and soul on men who are not suitable.
Intelligent, and a woman's education is not absolutely related, but a rational, a way of thinking.
It's hard to be a man, it's even harder to be a woman, and it's even harder to be a single woman!
A woman of thirty does not have to have a successful career, but must have something to do. The first thing you need to do is to make money, but it must be meaningful.
The natural woman is, not in order to make people feel reserved and pretend to be reserved. Not in order to give others the feeling of a lady and knit the brows.
Because I am a woman, is a woman like smoke, so I will always be floating; because I am a woman, a woman in need of love, so I'm lonely and isolated; because I am a woman, a woman has not yet withered, so I wrote such a monologue.
Exquisite woman, beautiful, precious, let a man feel hard-won, must be cherished.
Peaceful women, know how to protect themselves. Will not let themselves so easily disturbed by the outside world.
Reserved, that is, a woman to treat herself as a beautiful woman as a slight pride, a kind of thoughtful slow beat, a careful self-preciousness, a kind of reserved reserve that does not flow easily, reflecting the woman's cultivation. A woman who knows how to be reserved, often the most able to inspire men to take care of women's heroic plot, can reflect the man's demeanor, can make men have a strong desire to love this woman.
Exquisite woman, focusing on quality, delicate, so that men feel noble.
A frank woman, a deep understanding of the fact that impermanence, understand the changes in life is often not controlled by their own, so the sadness of the time will not deliberately hide, happy time know how to fully enjoy.
Intelligent women, not to show off their own education and knowledge of pride, but more focused on the use.
There are no ugly women in the world, only lazy women.
It is said that it is not easy to be a woman, and it is not easy to be a happy woman. There is no kind of happiness under the sky that can come at your fingertips, and it is not true that you have to go through the hard work of practicing and managing your happiness.
Woman thirty to read, love to listen to songs, like sports. The woman who reads the book knows more than to follow blindly, the woman who loves to listen to the song is very beautiful in the heart, and the woman who likes to exercise has vitality. In this way, a woman who is beautiful from inside to outside can be defeated.
1, you are still complaining that the world is not fair? Still complaining about the injustice of society? You really want to change yourself, do not complain, everything is what you say. Your choice, destined to your life
2, yearning for the light of life, self-sweeping dark entanglements, yearning for a happy smile, self-clearing depression and worry, yearning for a better day, self-extinguishing complaints and regrets, yearning for a happy tomorrow, self-catching decadent moments, and wishing you to open the umbrella of happiness with a bright tomorrow.
3, how much worry how much worry, how much helplessness in the heart, how many entanglements how much hate, how many regrets and increase hate, life has bitter and difficult, smile and face to see tomorrow, may your world a little less complaining, a little more brilliant, may your life a little less entanglement, a little more gorgeous.
4, failure and success will have the most, complaining about complaining can not have, depression and worry will always have, depression and entanglement can not have, confusion and contradiction will always have, gap gap can not have, dissatisfaction is not good will always have, complaining about the accumulation of grudges do not stay, may you go with the heart of the dashing, happy to accompany you to the flow.
5, what is adaptation, from a good environment to a poor environment, do not blame God, the most important thing is not picky, do not complain, but rely on their own to change the environment for the better. In fact, life is a little simpler, a little happier. May you be happy and joyful!
6, compressed complaints, will be happy "hanging" in the ear; outlawed complaints, will be happy "hanging" in the top of the head; remove complaints, will be peaceful "Department" in the body; courageous and forward, will be the best way to go, will be the best way to go, will be the best way to go. We can go forward and leave the complaints in the sky. I'm not sure if you're going to be able to get a good look at the world, but I'm sure you'll be able to get a good look at the world without complaining!
7, the road of life ten million, the wind and clouds gathered and scattered waves, do not complain not discouraged, adhere to the truth to the right way! Optimistic and persistent, believe in yourself, there must be a road in this world, has been leading to the happiness of the eternal. I wish you a calm and relaxed happy, good luck and happiness run with you.
8, time day by day, life is but a few decades, rush the road of life, there are sweet and sour, bitter and happy, we have to complain less, more tolerance, grasp the happiness, cherish the time, adhere to the struggle, fly the dream.
9, complaining is iron, tolerance is steel, do not overcome the setbacks, the results will not ring. Complaints are clouds, beyond the lamp, there is no persistent love of firewood, there is no roaring success burning. No give and take, do not complain in order to make the cause of family life more wonderful. A plain heart, a cavity of simple love, all the life of the bold.
10, happy and happy is a lifetime, complaining negative is a lifetime, hard work is a lifetime, grasp the time is a lifetime. We need to complain less, cherish more, pass straight ahead, and strive to achieve in the cause, full of joy in life.
11, without the baptism of wind and rain, the victory can not show moving luster, not through the experience of frost, greatness can not be with the enduring companion, the spirit of the sea oats, flashing in the storm, the will of the poplar, in the snow and wind, don't complain, all the misfortunes and hardships, are for the final flow of light and color!
12, you know how to make yourself happy? That is not to complain about life, try to think of a solution. Do not complain about life's less than ideal, do not complain about the dream of very little. Try to be grateful for life, let's go together to be grateful for the trials and tribulations around us let us grow.
13, life is a table dish, sweet and sour, bitter and spicy flavors, savor; life is the scene, near and far, high and low various horizons, are wonderful. No matter when and where you are, stay away from complaints in order to embrace a happy tomorrow! I wish you happiness!
14, holding a happy person, the heart flows with joy and friendliness, smile bloomed in the face; holding a happy person, the heart contains the true love and love, sweet often hanging in the corner of the mouth; holding a grudge, the heart often harboring worry hate, indifference in the eyes condensation. Friends, quickly go to do a happy happy people, resentment can only destroy the beautiful life.
15, there is a kind of misfortune called grumbling, there is a kind of destruction called resentment, there is a kind of harm called resentment, there is a kind of injustice called resentment, there is a kind of trouble called "grudges" narrow road, there is a kind of danger called "grudges" each other, there is a kind of relief called tolerance. There is a kind of relief called tolerance. I wish you to use tolerance to dissolve complaints, to really embrace a happy life.
16, complaining is a rainstorm in the spring, destroying the flowers will open; complaining is a round of summer sun, irritating people's body and mind; complaining is a piece of fall leaves in the fall, predicting the loss of the upcoming; complaining is a wisp of cold winds in the winter, cold and harsh people to avoid; complaining is the enemy of your life, I hope that you will abandon as soon as possible, away from.
17, dealing with the combination of tolerance, and ultimately will bear the fruits of peace and harmony; career has reason to escort, and ultimately will get the favor of success and wealth; for the people who are often grateful heart, and ultimately will lead to the truth and friendship around; heart if you can stay away from complaining, your world will only be the wind blowing, the warmth of the sun shines.
18, worry, bear with me, the wind and waves; sadness, smile, smoke disappears; quarrel, let a let, the sea and the sky; complaining, think about it, reflect on their own, positive, unremitting efforts to improve themselves, success and wealth will certainly be in your favor.
19, life needs to be calculated, the mood needs to be atmosphere frank, life needs to be serious and careful, the character needs to be cheerful and smiling, less complaining and less entanglement, more happy, wishing you the world is full of color, wishing you a blue life.
20, don't give up, don't relax, struggle hard to be positive, don't get nervous, don't get entangled, try to work hard, don't get entangled, don't complain, try to stretch the mood, such as the mood by the mood, satisfied with the mediation, I wish your world is more beautiful.
21, a little more responsibility, a little less blame, unity; a little more gratitude, a little less grumbling, harmony; a little more reflection, a little less error, wisdom; may you be a little more self-improvement and self-sufficiency, a little less whining and complaining, success is in front of you.
22, give up is easy, because the failure to make efforts in the rear; complaining is easy, because mediocrity often do so. A happy life is to be determined, to be strong, to be unconvinced, to not complain! Wish my friend a happy life forever!
23, the same world, different people appreciate different scenery; the same piece of scenery, different ideas derived from different life. It is optimistic, to meet the beautiful; or complain, waiting for the sinking! Smart you, know how to choose. I wish you happiness!
24, happy people, know the secret of happiness, from not letting themselves fall into the vortex of complaints; sad people, incapable of grasping their own destiny, always entangled with complaints. My friend, you should be happy, I wish you all the best!
25, life, there are two "scoundrels", as long as you and "blame" on the side, and "complain" for the sake of Wu. "Victory" and "success" with you "no edge", or tandem on the "calm", parallel on the "Diligence"! This way the "light" of life will be bright!
26, we can not waste time, we waste only ourselves. Therefore, do not waste time complaining about our life, the complaints into gratitude, gratitude to those who hurt, ridiculed us, they let us grow, let us understand the beauty of life! Let's have a life without complaining!
27, according to the happy kingdom of the law of the 10,000 provisions: Miles if there is a "complaining" mood molecules escaped into the optimism, open-mindedness, the atmosphere of the country, for the counterattack, so that the happy people depressed, whining, and even radicalized people. Sentenced to life imprisonment with immediate execution for eternity. I wish the majority of happy citizens, all happy and pleasant, live a million years also young.
28, don't use crying to wear down the self, because tears can drown the happy; don't use complaining instead of telling, because the saliva will kill the spelling; to use the passion to sail the helm, because the future will be sunny! Friends, after reading the text message you have to re-energize!
29, the life of the ship, such as the intention is not always in, disillusionment is the norm, if always complaining, a lifetime of time, will be wasted, forget to appreciate the fragrance of the dry spring, forget to ignite the enthusiasm of the hot summer, forget to taste the sweet fruit in the yellow autumn, forget to breathe the cold winter of the pure! Friends, stop complaining, stop missing!
30, "evaporate" complaints, to give life more expectations; "filter" impatience, to give life more free; "elimination" sadness, to give the world more More lovely; "load" happy, to their own every day wonderful. I'm not complaining, I'm not complaining, I'm living a good life, I'm happy.
31, life is short, whining, complaining, wasting time, in the matter of no good; not as progressive, do things on their own initiative, have the courage to solve the problem; goal of ideal, by you to achieve; so attentive, away from complaining, Fang into a great ambition, can bear the heavy responsibility; people in the husband, respected, everything as expected, no smooth. I wish you to grasp the road of life, play a different and wonderful music.
32, suffer is blessed, impulse is the devil; happy is supposed to, complaining will only be contrary to the wishes of the people; efforts are true, hope will be released to fly; refueling friends, do not complain, do not be depressed, happiness and joy will belong to you!
33, spring, do not complain of dry; summer, do not complain of sweltering heat; autumn, do not complain of sadness; winter, do not complain of cold, four seasons of peace of mind, all things gas and. Complaints, back to yesterday, happy, belonging to today, looking forward to tomorrow. I hope that you can get rid of the complaints, and work hard to move forward.
34, complaining about people can not achieve anything, every day full of whining; complaining about stealing your time, life is meaningless; complaining about hurting friends and family colleagues, friendship ruined; complaining about changing people's lives, become mediocre and incompetent; please stop complaining, take steps forward, the world will become more beautiful for you.
35, never despair, never complain, firm and persistent, love what I love, no complaints, life is not extinguished, more than the struggle, blessing of good friends, happy and optimistic, every day, the sky is blue, struggling for a life of happiness and success.