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Everyday is a new zhi start to be able to enjoy dao days in peace. Don't let your dreams become distant, and don't let the years become dull, because every day has a new calling, wanting to paint the waves inside the time.
Every day on the road, there will always be a desire, accompanied by the body; although not want to face the hardships do not know, but there can not be a fluke. And love, like a blooming flower left behind by the dream, filled with every corner, left behind is the heart of the obsession. Open the heart, looking at the time as water, but want to be intoxicated, there will always be a stone slowly fall, leaving behind is the struggle, is the struggle, is the self, in the constant strife, but will leave behind a haze. Experiencing the bitterness, there will also be apprehension, there will also be speculation. Do not want to keep my indifference every day, stiff face left behind the joy, but also has a few points of life flat.
The white clouds in the sky are constantly flying, but I feel that time is like water. Many, many images of the wind and clouds, left in my face. You can hear the sound of the waves ringing continuously, and you can see the waves whistling continuously. Perhaps, this is the ebb and flow inside life and the promise of the years. There are spectacular, in the continuous meandering; there are also lingering, in the continuous stretching; know that life can not be a dream, at all times with a beautiful swing; those confused, in the continuous wandering, leaving the excitement, so that the heart began to ups and downs and downs. This is the romance of the years, but also the splendor of the days, but also the life inside the stay, and attachment.
It was thought to have been the experience of years of refinement, can let a lot of time to stay in the heart. The heart tough, no more much innocence, but will have a deep; this is the experience of life, but also the days of romance. Time in the non-turn, each day seems to be all become so simple; those tough, leaving regrets; look back, those years in the constant stay. A lot of things will be different as I grow up, and each day will have a new hope. Years in a slow walk, accompanied by my footsteps, leaving behind the time inside the blur, and those times inside the fall, the slow flow is the water waves.
Each day will have a different flow, each day will leave a different experience. A lot of experience has become a cloud of smoke, but the wind has left a slight cold, the sun left a lot of warmth. This is life, this is life. Quietly walking alone, quietly savoring, savoring the loneliness, savoring the hesitation, savoring the melancholy, savoring the hesitation. The mood is constantly getting fresher and fresher, and most of those things will stay in the twinkling of an eye. The footsteps will not likely have any change, because this is my life paper, in constantly leaving the ripples, but also in constantly leaving the beautiful splendor.
The winds and clouds of life, will have questions, but also constantly in the heart left a kiss. Not all the trust left around, because many of the ideas have unlimited, can only be stuck in the past a moment. This is not a memory flashback, but a euphemism for days. Each day may be a new beginning, each day will leave a new footprint, each day has a new hope. A lot of sadness, in the constant wandering; and those sweet, but will leave a gap, and then began to diffuse the whole heart, so that the heart in the constant reminiscence; and then began to drive away the ridicule left inside the time, stand up the chest to show pride, and self-confidence smile.
Every day is a new beginning, and you can enjoy it quietly. Don't let your dreams become distant, and don't let the years become dull, because every day has a new call to paint the waves of time. Each one will experience exhaustion, each one will experience tiredness, each one will leave tears. Time, will make my efforts in the continuous back and forth; my perseverance, can see the quiet of the day, can see the loneliness, can see the silence inside the time; but also will see a new hope, also will make a new miracle. This is a new day, but also has a new beauty.
I was in the early morning haze of sleep, I heard the virtuous wife up especially early, she cleaned up a bit, then out of the room.
After an hour, I woke up at dawn. I washed up as usual and walked straight to the fast food restaurant not far north of the street.
At this time, only to see the street next to the fast food stalls, fast food stores are crowded, dining table diners sit without a seat. A family of various fast food, flavors from all over the nose, really let you do not know which flavor to choose, I feel a little hungry, just walk into a fast food restaurant.
This is a fast-food chain, named the old Taiwan door steamed buns, noodles authentic, safe. After a full meal, I took a slow walk around the perimeter and returned to the store to start a new day of busyness.
The busy morning went by really fast, in the busy, lunch was eaten in a hurry, hasty, until the evening, business is busy all day, only calm and steady.
Dinner table set with a virtuous wife to do home-cooked meals, only to feel a familiar flavor, take a closer look, it was a bowl of acacia leaf porridge in front of me, I immediately felt a burst of surprise, there is a kind of reminiscence of the oil came to life ......
Eat is fragrant, learned that the virtuous wife early in the morning went to the demolition of the waste of the empty tree fall. Climbed the branches and picked some fresh acacia leaves, when she was so happy, really have a heart.
Then again that acacia leaf porridge to eat, bitter with astringent, astringent with fragrant, fragrant with salty, salty with light ...... The porridge also has soybeans, spring buds, eat up a really refreshing, appetizing, can be said than any fast-food restaurant snacks are 100 times stronger.
Yes, the beautiful season, there are many edible wild vegetables and leaves, so that we have had the experience of people have to remember, reminisce and yearn for ......
A dinner of wine and rice, I inhaled y, got up and went out to the street.
This is a county within the Elm Hill Road, wide road on both sides of a tall acacia tree, every year to the acacia tree spraying insecticide, its long style of strange, tiger-backed, it is a scenic spot in the hometown, in the light of the irradiation, the color is soft, three-dimensional sense of the eye-catching, the fresh air is always emanating from a share of the original taste straight to the heart, that is, the acacia leaf is the taste of the fragrance!
The moment I finished watching this movie I suddenly felt that affection is the most precious thing in the world, only can not get it will cherish, just like that only money in the eyes of the man and the head of the wind, in order to make a splash surprisingly want to build the city's tallest office building, for this at all costs, but also delayed his daughter's birthday, and the result? Accidentally fell off a high building, half dead, but the soul miraculously possessed in the pet cat he bought for his daughter.
The affection thing, it's easy to get something, a cat has limited ability, but still fights for his family, and his family loves him, he feels the love of his family, and understands that he usually doesn't convey his love to his family in time, and that's why he makes his family feel that he only loves to be in the limelight... Then be a good cat, and try to make his master happy.
In the end, fate gave him a perfect result, the usurper's defeat and his son's brave jump, oh, he thought his son was going to jump, so he followed him, and he saved himself, and let that cat's last life stay in the family that loved him.
The story is moving and thought provoking, you ignore your family and you will be ignored by them.
We have learned how to make a living, how to improve our skills, how to be a fish out of water in the workplace, but we have not learned how to love someone. This is Fudan philosophy teacher Yu Guo said in the program "life is really different", I am impressed, because the ability to love is not only the innate psychological factors at the same time also have to work hard to learn, while learning and growing.
Some people say, I lost the ability to love after the loss of love, in fact, most people say this sentence when there is no ability to love a person, because the ability to love a person is not because of the loss of love, this ability will disappear, the loss of love is a kind of psychological trauma, if you can't learn to repair the trauma, then it is also very difficult for you to revitalize to learn to love a person, so the ability to love a person is the ability to learn to love yourself before you can love others, you can learn to learn to love a person, so the ability to love people is the ability to learn to love yourself before you can love others. The first thing you need to do is to learn to love yourself before you can love someone else, and if you have love within yourself, then you will bring good love to the other person.
For people from broken families, this ability to love is even more lacking, because the ability to love actually contains many psychological factors, the ability to improve self-esteem, the ability to self-differentiation and self-integration, the ability to know themselves, and the maturity of these psychological conditions on the one hand, and the parents' upbringing on the other hand, so if the parents have a bad relationship, it is difficult for the children of such a family to form an independent personality, and it is difficult to express love. So if the relationship between the parents is not good, then it is difficult for the children of such families to form an independent personality and to express love. Another important aspect is the parent-child attachment relationship, the parent-child attachment relationship is the most important age of three years old, this stage is the most important stage for a person to develop a secure attachment personality, this stage is not grasped, then he will have problems in dealing with intimate relationships later.
There is a book called The Art of Love, in which Fromm points out that immature love is, I love you because I need you, and mature love is, I need you because I love you. Most people are in the immature love is to compensate for their own hours missing mother love, so in the other half of the body to get compensation, so Mr. Wu Zhihong will say, people in this life is looking for mother, but the other half is not possible, and mother as unconditional to the beginning to the end of the love us, so so intimate relationship is very difficult to deal with. Just like the bank will only lend money to those who have money, love will only happen to those who don't lack love, so all the compensated love to maintain the intimacy is very tiring.
So if you want to learn how to love someone, then you have to develop a secure personality, that security comes from the care of your mother when you were young, from an independent personality, the right values. So a person who struggles for the value of his own life, his inner sense of abundance, he has a very strong sense of security against the negative things in society, can walk their own want to walk the road, proud of the world. So under the premise of loving others, let yourself learn to love yourself, give yourself enough inner security, and at the same time let yourself live as a source of light then you will bring energy, so the best love should be a kind of energy projection, you can see the light in him to see the warmth, and you are also very much the light and warmth, and at the same time, while introspection while learning and growing at the same time, and together to create each other's world.
I never seem to have much of a say in how people interact with each other.
As a typical example of a hothead with a short temper, I can easily get angry over a small matter, or even say something irreversible due to my anger at the time, which can hurt someone's heart.
To be honest, it's annoying. When I'm calm enough, how much adrenaline is released when I lash out, and how much regret and self-loathing I feel at that moment.
Happiness, anger, sadness, and joy, the four human self-emotions. No one can order you not to be angry, just as no one can stop you from laughing and coming up for air.
But there will always be times and occasions when you need to exercise restraint, even patience.
There's a particularly classic line from Modern Family that I've come to believe is true: it's better to let go of what you're holding onto than to let go of what you're holding onto.
There are no perfect people in the world, and the rest need not be repeated. If I am surrounded by people with a gentle temper, who consistently maintains his good character and never gets angry or anxious, I will not be more affectionate to him, on the contrary, I may feel very uneasy in my heart.
In fact, I'd rather say that no one would be very annoyed with someone who gets angry over something, unless it's really particularly irrational and unprovoked.
More often than not, what people want to see is a fire after that you do not care about the past without a divide. Instead of saying that we don't like people who are angry, it's better to say that we don't like the cold violence after an argument.
There is always the analogy of the mirror, such as "broken mirror will not be healed" and so on. But we all know that life is not just a shallow mirror, the human body, with the ability to think for themselves, the same, more with more self-repair ability.
It is true that those who hurt us should not be forgiven, but if it is only a trivial matter or a thoughtless act, it is not right to break out in a quarrel or even say that we should not get along with each other.
There is a lot of wasted time in a person's life, no matter how much time is wasted, so it's not wise to lose oneself because of a rift in the emotional world.
There are many things in life that are not as good as they should be. Or be left out, or be mocked, or be hit, or be bullied ...... At the right time, we always have to give some people and things with a hard blow, the defense of dreams, dignity, personality ...... After being hit back, we also need to properly learn to forget, not to cause secondary damage to themselves.
Heart full of anger people, even if the body does not have a thing will feel tired, this negative energy from within the body, it is easy to make a person's heart become dark without a trace of warmth. When you start to try to put down. That kind of physical and mental release of comfort, will certainly let you find the long-lost that self.
The one like a newborn baby, clean and pure self.
People who like to hold on to one thing will also make the people around them very tired, they may not want to lose you, and your cold face always makes people afraid to approach.
If you have traveled a long period of life, looking back, you will not also laugh at a certain period of time so twisted so difficult to get close to yourself? Will you also be annoyed at how you lost so many people you once valued "for no reason", so that they in your life in the next few decades, living as heard.
Everyone is an ordinary person, no superpowers, not Iron Man, thin flesh sometimes really vulnerable and easy to be hurt, such as you as I. But we can also not be ordinary, there are many other things that we can do to help us. But we can also not ordinary, have a lot of like-minded friends, love your family, happy with this life.
The people who have a grudge will always lose some small happiness, learn to let go and let go, even breathing feel much more comfortable. The first thing that you need to do is to let go of your mind and let go of your heart.
In the middle of May, the weather gradually warmed up, the lively and active two girls always sweaty, white and tender hands to the hair like a chicken nest, messy.
Wife took her to the haircut, originally thought that the two girls to make a fuss for a while, did not expect to get there, quite good, and actively cooperate with the hairdresser, changed a new hairstyle, turned into a "tomboy". When I came home from work at noon, she immediately flew out of her father's room to show me her new haircut, proudly wiggling her little butt in front of me.
I was about to change into my slippers, when she saw me, she rushed over to stop me and said, "Daddy, slippers are not good, be careful!" Her mom explained for her on the side, "She herself walked in the morning in the new duckling-shaped small slippers, fell a heel, also afraid of you fall a heel." At this time, the second girl saw my fingers stained with red ink on the correction of homework, immediately grabbed my fingers, screamed: "Dad, blood, blood ......" look at her face nervous and anxious look, my heart was greatly touched, is really the father's sweet little cotton jacket!
One day, the grandmother high blood pressure, tired, lying on the sofa rest. I came home from work, she ran out, put her finger up, put it on the side of her mouth, and whispered, "Shhh, grandma has a headache, don't make noise!" Such a little big child knows to be caring and considerate, what a well-behaved and understanding human being, and to know that she's only just thirty months old ah!
During the holidays, Erniu always likes to pull my hand towards the car while saying she wants me to take her out to play on the slide. The slides in the neighborhood are no longer enough for her, and she wants to go to the big one at the Thousand Crane Lake Park near her home.
I pulled her scooter and dragged her all the way to the park. Unfortunately, the large slide needs to pass through the rope ladder to go up, and her physical strength and can not keep up, simply can not climb up. She had to watch with envy as other little brothers and sisters, one by one, slid down, cheering them on from the sidelines, clapping and screaming, more joyful than the people playing.
Seeing the black swans in the pond in the park, Erniu greeted them loudly as if no one else was there: "Black swans, I'm coming!" When she left, she said loudly and unobtrusively, "Black swan, goodbye!" Sometimes they even give them a flying kiss, not caring about the stares of others.
Seeing a pile of panda toys on the lawn that hadn't yet been set up, she rushed over with a smile, her pure laughter ringing through the sky. When I looked at her again, she was actually carrying the ears of the baby pandas with both hands and struggling to move them up, she wanted to make the pandas sit in a row. The big one couldn't move it, so she dragged me to help. The small ones in the front, the big ones in the back, one by one arranged, stand in the middle of their own, do a victory pose, let me take a picture, stink a little.
Coming to the crane side, Erniu excitedly hugged the crane's neck, and then did an action I would not have thought of, she actually kissed the crane a mouthful. I was impressed by her naive and innocent gesture, but unfortunately I was not able to take a picture of it, and asked her to kiss it again, but she refused to do so.
Seeing the bobbing head and tail of the motorized dinosaur, and hearing the mournful hissing sound, Erniu asked me to hold it from afar. The bold children gathered around the dinosaur, touching the tail and paws. I wanted to put her down so she could get close too, but she was too scared to come down, and when I forced her to do so, her feet shrank upward and she just wouldn't stand up. I took her little hand and went to pet her not even dare, so I had to carry her away.
Compared to the past, the second girl is now more lively, every day, chattering to follow you, this is what, that is what, everything to participate in, to where to be the protagonist. As soon as you hear your cell phone ring, you will quickly come to your front. The most familiar is the "sugar bean square dance" logo symbols, small hands on the screen messy point, point on the excited smile, follow the music beat hand dance. It's hard to finish what you started, and often her mom and I would force the phone to turn off, ending with her crying. It's just like watching TV, you can't stop watching it, and sometimes you have to watch it until 10pm, so you have to force it to end as well, ending with her crying again. It was heartbreaking to see her still sobbing in her sleep, again, but had to harden my heart for her healthy growth.
Thank you, Munchkin Ernie, for giving us such a wonderful life!
The speeding train headed towards Zhaoqing, the sound of travelers' conversations came from time to time in the compartment, and I just sat quietly, looking out the window at the rows of scenery that were going backwards and forwards, my thoughts were all over the place. The sky is blue, clear, pieces of white clouds hanging in front of my eyes, I can not help but feel: "How long, have not seen the sky like this?"
Memory once again surfaced such an image: the grain in the sun's light emitted a glittering light, I was lying on a long bench, carrying a book in my arms. I wasn't reading, I was looking at the white clouds drifting lazily across the sky, so beautiful and free. The weather was hot, but there was always a slight breeze blowing, bringing some coolness to this summer.
It was a busy farming season, and I remember clearly that when I was working in the fields with my mom and dad, the sweat beads were pouring down, and the tips of the grasses were cutting into our skin, itching and hurting. So even when the sweat blurred our vision, we often didn't bother to wipe it off, we just wanted to finish harvesting the rice and return home to recuperate.
I was the youngest child in the family, and most of the time I was assigned to stay at home to cook and dry the grains. I was happy, even in those hard times, I was highly favored.
I should have been considered a sensible child, and I would have tried to do my best at home. Only, the neighboring family raised pigeons, those white guys, often fly to steal our family's grain, so I have to hide in a cool corner guarding, at any time to prevent their sneak attack ......
I began to miss the days of that time, although it is very hard and tiring, but the heart is not distracted, look at the sky is the sky, look at the cloud is the cloud, the years are long And now, when I look at the blue sky and white clouds outside the window, all I can think of is Gu Cheng's "Far and Near".
"You, for a while, look at me, and for a while you look at the clouds. I think, you are far away when you look at me, and close when you look at the clouds."
About this verse, I was in high school. Standing together with my favorite person, that even if I was only a stone's throw away from him, there was the feeling of being far away from the sky. I glared at the sky, he talked to others, I understood that is far and close.
And now it's the same, around the colleagues, they can always talk to each other at any time, but I just listen silently. I am not so withdrawn to this point, although the words are not much, but at least is able to communicate with people normally, but why has it become so now?
The boss said I was shy and formal, and I couldn't argue with that, I was really like that in front of them. They are the elders, and the other coworkers are all married and have their own independent families. It is difficult for me to find a suitable topic of conversation with them in our daily interactions. The generation gap may exist, but I think it's mainly because I'm not very sociable myself.
These days, I've been struggling with this, whether to give up or stick with it. Later, I talked to Fang about the confusion in my mind, and she told me, "If you are young, you should try more, and after you have made a real effort yourself, then you can come back to discuss the question of whether it is suitable or not."
Thinking too much, it is inevitable to be in a fickle mood, and this is a mistake. Why don't you calm down, do things properly, and see how it ends up in the back. The carefree nature of the childhood is not back, landscape was given more definition by himself, only the sky that piece of white clouds, or that light and free, mesmerizing, if you can not go with it, how about picking a piece of assuredly on it.