Always realized only the first point, did not realize the second point. And from my own experience, a person is like a single stock, even if the personal energy is great, but also limited, there will be fortune or misfortune, just like the stock price, large and small fluctuations can not be avoided, so in order to make life smoother, should be more to make friends with, which is like asset allocation, do not put the eggs in a basket, through a lot of people, a guarantee of their own life, the moment of crisis eight parties help. The following is organized from the Harvard Financial Report. The following content is collated from the Harvard Financial Quotient Lessons as well as the Puppy Money Money.
A person's financial intelligence is also manifested in his network of relationships, successful people are good at running a network, not only to make friends, but also to make other people for my use. And the work is also so, the beginning of the work rely on hard work, rely on the ability. Later you want to make a million dollars a year, undoubtedly all rely on contacts. Your friends in the industry are CEOs of various companies, so you're at least a VP. If you do not know anyone, it is unlikely to give you an executive position.
Niu Gensheng in Yili when there is a slogan, called the wealth dispersed people gathered, the wealth gathered is dispersed, he often divided their bonuses to the team underneath, which caused a bunch of diehard, diehard to follow him, these people also became the backbone of the later he set up Mengniu.
So the investment in contacts is a profitable business, especially young people, when you do not have money, your friends have just started their careers, and with the passage of time, even if you do not grow, there are certainly many of your friends to success. So the feelings you have established before will appear more precious, if you wait for people to be successful and then go to friendship, this time people will think you have some plans, feelings but not so pure.
So it is recommended that everyone, young to make friends widely, and even at the beginning of the salary income, do not consider investment and finance, because you base low, even if the money can not earn much, not as good as all take to make friends. This time to know more people, is definitely a profitable investment. It's not likely that there will be rain on any of the clouds, so you'll be able to use them at work later. The front promotion and salary increase will usually be particularly fast, a few things to do well, maybe a year time, your income can be several times. That's a gain you're unlikely to get by investing your money. Turns out that's what makes you stand out. Set aside a monthly dating fund.
In fact, the network and wealth is the same, are idle to save, busy with, if now on the pendant now tie the ears and eyes, it is certainly too late and not in time.
Networks and your opportunities are directly proportional to the wider the network, the more likely you are to succeed, he is the wealth and success of the admission ticket, the more rich people, the more rich people he knows. On the contrary, the more you are closed, the more house! Then the less chance of success. Smart people save their connections when they are working for someone else, and then release them when they want to start their own business and make their own career. This way there is less risk and the greater the return.
So how do you save contacts? Many people have this question, why others have good connections, but I am very bad, others can know a lot of industry cattle, I do not know one?
In fact, the simplest way to reserve contacts is to suffer, to put it bluntly, so that others owe you. As the old saying goes, it's a blessing to suffer, and that's the truth. A person who always suffers losses will let others owe him more and more favors and finally wait until he wants to use the time, these contacts will be zero deposit.
And there is a law of interpersonal communication, as Franklin said in his autobiography: who if a grace with you, will be the second grace with you, and its willingness to be benefited by your less than also. From this perspective, it's okay to look for others to do a little favor. This is a bit similar to the bank credit card, you usually often use the quota, then the crisis can be more borrowed, but if you usually do not use a little, the crisis when the bank will not lend you money.
And the most unlucky is that those who never take advantage of small advantages and refuse to suffer, to take advantage of all the small advantages, the results of the final use of people, others know that this is a love of taking advantage of small people, so no one will help him.
So the world is balanced, don't be catty for the loss, often at a loss when you can at least see clearly a person's original face, if this is a love of taking advantage of people, you can not interact with him, if this person knows the kindness of repayment, is a person who knows how to be grateful, it's great, you let him take advantage of you, he must always think of repayment, so you're equivalent to a favor. The first thing that you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do that.
And the shopping mall has a saying, there is no forever friends, only forever interests, you have tethered the interests together, which is more reliable than simply eating and drinking feelings.
The benefits of networking are endless, take our simple fruit business, you do not have to be on the goods, and then pulled to the market to sell? Sell out to make money? If you want to do this business, first of all you have to have enough money to go on the goods before, but if you know a fruit wholesaler, he is likely to say that you first take to sell, sold out of the two of us and then settled. So you become an empty glove, take his fruit to sell, sell how much, and then in accordance with the wholesale price to his settlement. This can be a great deal, equivalent to become a no-cost business.
We also heard a sentence, and then poor to poor to the rich pile, some people say, how can the rich people will take us to play, it is actually not difficult to mix to the rich circle, mainly to see people have no need for you, such as some journalists are very poor poor, but behind them there is a halo of the media, so a lot of rich people in fact, will be with a media reporter to keep in touch with a relatively good. There are also some lawyers are not very rich, but the rich need legal help, so they are willing to keep in touch with them, similar to a lot more, such as civil servants, such as teachers, and even dietitians and massage therapists and so on. The rich man has a need for you and you can break into his circle. Or maybe you are a salesman of a big company, and some rich people of small companies have to beg you to do things. So this is also a resource that can be utilized, in short, you yourself have a halo the best, if you do not have a halo think about their own work background family background, there is no halo, if you are a rich group of people do not need at all, then try to sell the physical, such as going to the golf course to pick up the ball, Peter Lynch also entered the circle of the rich, know the owner of the Fidelity Fund, and also gave him a job opportunity.
In addition, the establishment of contacts but also know how to leverage, there is a six-degree space theory, which says that you know anyone in the world, up to the middle of the excessive 6 people. So maybe your mission is to make friends with the rich B, but you can start with the poor A, because A and B are very good friends. This kind of borrowing can often get you twice the results with half the effort as well, and everyone actually has to stock up on a few know-it-alls around them, the kind of people who are good at making connections. They may know a lot of people, and you just need to maintain a good relationship with him, he will be able to introduce you to a steady stream of useful contacts. People like that are your shortcut to developing connections.
But make friends with others, some people always like to hold a thick leg, or good to wear a pair of pants, which is very dangerous, good connections called heart have you, and not necessarily must be together every day, the vast majority of cases too close relationship, but harmful, often walk by the river where there is no wet shoes, you stick to a piece of the day it is inevitable that there will be unpleasant, which belongs to the over-investment, and it may be that one of your The other side will be upset if you don't think about it. Then feelings instead of cracks. So be sure to keep a good distance.
Now communication is very developed, a variety of circles are being established, then you want to become what kind of person, you have to mix to what circle inside to go, if your circle of friends, all are walking the dog aunt, at best you are a neighborhood committee director, or square dance organizer. So we have a wide range of contacts at the same time, we should also consciously enhance their own network grade, clearly distinguish which people are useful to me, which people are consuming me, I should learn from which people, to which people to take warning. You have a goal in order to target, so more conducive to you squeeze into the circle you want. For example, Lao Qi's circle, part of the media, the other part of the investment, I want to try to squeeze into the circle of investment, and the netroots media people, just the aura I can use. As for the others, there are accompanied me to play football, as well as family relatives before classmates, colleagues are all accompanied me to eat and play, these will not be my purpose, I want to do the circle positioning is in the investment circle, the media influence is the largest, the same in the media circle, the investment of the most professional. This is my positioning. So what is your positioning?
We all know that Bill Gates is the richest man, but few people know that Bill Gates' mother is a director of IBM, and it was through his mother's relationship that he got the first big order. Warren Buffett's dad is a congressional official, can directly find the kind of Goldman Sachs CEO. These relationships you have? If not, it's time to stock up on your own.
A person who wants to succeed in the first to do self-control, modesty, do not speak boldly, to know how to respect a person you hate. Even that pig of an aunt of his, you should try your best to be polite, and the main character wonders why he should be so stupid. Kim explains that if someone doesn't like you, it's largely because you didn't behave well enough. And by offending him, you are undoubtedly getting yourself into trouble. By being polite to everyone who annoys you, you're actually cutting yourself out of trouble.
Secondly, you can't always complain that fate is unfair, almost nothing is fair in life, so it's useless to complain, but to think of solutions.
The third point is to never talk bad about others behind their backs. What you say behind your back will definitely reach the other person's ears, and doing so will not do you any good personally.
Mocking a person is a very bad habit, proving that you see all your eyes on a person's shortcomings and mistakes, and your life is gray from then on. Over time you lose the ability to aesthetize and gradually become a spitter. Successful people are not as broad-minded as they are, but they often look at what is good, and face business and others with a positive attitude. So he becomes more and more open and positive.
Listen more and talk less. If you want to be a good talker, start by learning to be a good listener. You need to learn to encourage others to talk more about themselves and listen to their advice so that you can be more objective and make good decisions. In the past, when I decided to use a salesman, I would pick two or three customers to do some tests, and if one of them criticized "talking too much", I would never hire that person. In fact, the reason is very simple: too much talk is a bad thing, and instead of exposing your own shortcomings, you should choose your words carefully, because people tend to appreciate people who have a lot of knowledge but don't brag about it.
What you must be careful of is: don't exaggerate, and don't jump the gun with others. Be respectful of the other person and wait for them to finish their sentence before you make your point.
Relationships are actually a form of wealth, and for you to be kind to others is called saving, and is the equivalent of raising your own goose. And if you hurt others it's the equivalent of taking money out, and many successful people keep raising their own geese while losers keep taking money out of their own connections. The truth is that the gap between what one person can do compared to another is not that big. In the end the gap between people is often in their ability to be socially active, and connections are the main manifestation of that ability to be socially active. A high-level employee into the job, certainly not because he can work more shifts, business can be how skilled, certainly because he knows more people, can solve more problems. These are also one of the manifestations of wealth.
So how do you get connections? This is the same as doing business to make money, think first, what others need, you can do something for others. Old Qi often cited the example of a bunch of big money in a piece, someone has to put down the posture to run contact, and who can do this thing, who enjoys a bunch of big money connections. Do people do not want to do, take the pain and suffering themselves, and even pay a little money does not matter. The most important thing is to bring convenience to others, so that you yourself become a paid, others can not be separated from the person, this is the networking. You always want to take advantage of others, always want to have something to find others to help, others are not stupid, you have no use for him, why he with you good, this relationship can not be long. As the saying goes, there is no permanent friend, only permanent interests, no interests between you, or no consistent interests, it is difficult to have a real network. At best, it's just a drinking buddy.
Why is it said that the first to do and then do things, because people do a good job of contacts will come, contacts have, harm is still afraid of not doing things? Then about how to do people, here is the 7-point guideline to develop a good character.
First of all, friendly and affable, have a strong desire not to easily hurt others, respect for others.
The second is to be courageous, self-determination, look at things positively, look more at what I have rather than what I have lost, and give the responsibility to the other person while definitely giving the right to the other person as well.
Third, treat others well, praise others more, if you can't praise them, don't say anything. Try not to criticize others.
Fourth, help to give, wish everyone all the best, more help to others, in fact, is for their own savings network. So you should be happy when someone asks you to help.
Fifth, the heart of gratitude, the heart of gratitude in order to do human kindness.
Sixth, study diligently. Let reading become a habit, turn learning into a life, learn more to think more, so as to keep up with the times. In a changing society, the only thing you can do is to keep up with the times.
Seventh, trustworthy, trust from the beginning to keep every promise, such as a person who is not punctual, usually do not deserve the trust of others. A person who loves to brag also tends to have his integrity damaged.
It is important to face life, and all its hardships, with a positive attitude. And seize any opportunity to accumulate themselves, anything is a kind of experience, there is always a positive aspect of him. Either you can accumulate experience, or you can accumulate wealth, either in times of trouble, expand your network is also good.
As long as you go to every day with a positive mindset, take everything seriously, and uphold good habits, you will be able to take a step closer to success.
This isn't about success, it's not about teaching you that you can succeed if you work hard, it's about telling you the rules of being a human being. Find the positives in everything, like for Lippi, leading China to the World Cup. It's a completely impossible task, but it seems that as long as they win against South Korea, everyone is satisfied, as long as it's better than the previous few performances, Chinese fans are not that demanding. What's more, there's a lot of money to be made again, and for Lippi, who has been in the soccer world all his life, he doesn't need Chinese soccer to endorse him anymore. Even if he loses, people will still think that the national soccer team is just not good enough, and not say that Lippi water. And as for the national soccer team? Being able to get Lippi's guidance is definitely very beneficial for gaining experience. Which players do not want to have Ripi's recommendation it, such a network will be very favorable to the future of the soccer career, so it is bound to be three military. So any aspect to think, there are always positive factors, if not Gao Hongbo with the team's results are too poor, can let the Association of the pain of changing Lippi? So the poor results also become a positive factor.