When I was a kid, I thought I wasn't pretty enough or pleasing to the eye. In order to avoid being disliked, I never took the initiative to make friends with people, even if it is an existing friend, but also easily dare not say more than one sentence, for fear that if I accidentally say the wrong thing, people will think: this person is ugly and stupid, why do not you avoid a little farther away?
One day, my mom bought me a pair of small jade butterfly hairpin and praised me for wearing it like a princess. How easy it is to satisfy a child's vanity. At that moment, I really felt that I had become a princess, or the smallest one in the king's highness.
So, in the afternoon I put on the little jade butterfly hairpin, I happily flew in the eyes of my classmates admiration, talking around, everyone also talked with me in the heat of the day, surprised at the original I am so thoughtful.
Near the end of the school day, intoxicated in happiness, I can not help but secretly sigh: "This hair card is really charming ah, everyone actually began to like me."
Just then, my desk suddenly said: "Hey, you wear a beautiful hairpin today." The words fell, the other talents gathered around to discover the hair card.
It turned out that what attracted them was not a small jade butterfly hairpin, and what brought me good luck was not a small jade butterfly hairpin, but what really changed the situation for me was a heart that exuded happiness from the inside out.
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There was an architect who couldn't produce a satisfactory design, and was criticized by his clients for being too old-fashioned, lacking in creativity, and failing to surprise people.
The designer felt very aggrieved, because he is not an irresponsible guy, on the contrary, he has been a complete workaholic, often working overtime to catch up with the prototype, but God never favored him. On the contrary, look at those young people in the company, they are busy chatting, dinners and appointments, but often come up with a program that makes the client applauded.
Over time, the designer began to suspect that he wasn't cut out for the job, so he went to his boss and quit.
He told his boss that he was struggling to do his job and was afraid that he would not be able to do it. Instead, the boss asked him, "What kind of flowers are growing in the flower beds downstairs in our company?"
He was a bit confused, and didn't know what the boss was asking him for, and he was in a hurry downstairs every day, so he didn't notice what flowers were planted in the flower beds.
The boss sighed and added, "How about this, you stick around for another month, and, for that month, I'm asking you to hold your daughter for three minutes every day."
A month, which is nothing to his career in the workplace, and three minutes, which is nothing to the day he spends, he agreed.
In the beginning, he held his daughter hastily for three minutes and then put her to bed. Gradually, he realized that three minutes was no longer enough, because his daughter had more and more to say to him, he had to hold a little longer. Later, the designer himself began to enjoy this task, and liked to gossip with his naive daughter.
One time, his daughter exaggeratedly raised her arm to show him her bruise in the corner of the house. Previously, she never pampered her father in this way, because he was always sullen and busy with his work.
Soon after, the designer submitted a new proposal to the client, he designed a kind of interior without corners of the house, not only the shape of the peculiar, refreshing, but also very gentle and cozy, very secure, is suitable for young couples who are ready to have a baby.
This solution was unanimously approved by the company and the client, and became the classic case of the year. The designer no longer wants to quit his job, because he has learned to enjoy the fun of life with a new attitude. And, he has seen, the company downstairs in the flower bed, planted with beautiful roses.
3
My neighbor's aunt is nearly seventy years old this year, will play tai chi, but also love to dance, is a cheerful old lady.
Before the annual vacation, she suddenly came to knock on the door, asked me to go to the market to bring some vegetables to her, it turned out that she hurt her leg.
I just remembered to say hello: "Where are you going to spend the New Year?"
"Where else, right here." This old lady who lives alone smiled.
She lost her husband in her youth and brought up her son all by herself, but his son left before her, leaving her with the sadness of a gray-haired person sending a black-haired person away. She was left with no one to turn to.
She told me that at first she couldn't figure out why fate would be so unfair to her. She was sad all day and sighed, and her days got darker and darker.
One time she was walking on the road, a little girl accidentally touched her, the girl cried out in fear, looked up at her, but also lightly inhaled a mouthful of cold air, and then backed up two steps and ran away.
She went home and looked in the mirror, and realized that she was dressed in black, her face was pale and cold, and it was indeed chilling. No wonder the world treated her coldly from morning to night, and no one gave her a good face. If her son knew, how sad would he be?
From then on, she started to pull herself together, focusing on three meals a day, trying to participate in community activities, and making herself healthy and healthy. She has more friends, her life is also lively, and even the people on the road no longer look at her coldly. She found that the days became less difficult.
Whether you're experiencing the cold shoulder of others or the injustice of fate, if life goes on and pain doesn't help, why not please yourself?
If you can't bring happiness to yourself, then you can't bring happiness to the world, and if you can't bring happiness to the world, then the world's feedback to your happiness will be even less. To break this vicious circle, you have to start from your own happiness.
The so-called pleasing oneself is the ability to produce happiness. We can only love the world by ourselves and others if we first delight ourselves and radiate joy. Otherwise, if you can't even love yourself or your family well, how can you ask the world to treat you gently?
So, when you want to please the world, you might as well learn to please yourself first, and then you will realize that pleasing the world is not as hard as you think.