Around 35 years of age in the workplace, regardless of work experience or material basis have been in the precipitation stage, but confusion in the heart, only more than the rookies.
It is said that if you want to become immortal and achieve Taoism, in addition to the hard work of cultivation, cultivation to a certain point, you have to cross the heart robbery, cross the flying immortal, otherwise you will be wasted in the present moment for the rest of your life.
Most of the 30-40 year olds are at the stage where they are not up and down.
A little bit of crisis, a little bit of anxiety, sandwiched in the middle can not move. The reality of the helplessness, to change through the psychological level of construction, like the ferry robbery, relying on a kind of courage, and their own life wisdom. The past, is the sea and the sky.
At the age of 35, I have always been "reliable", gave us a surprise.
Resigning from my job, I went to Columbia to study for a full-time MBA.
The kids and my passport are ready, and I'll be starting school in September.
Being a mid-level manager in a multinational company before quitting my job, I was very well off financially and had a very colorful life, and suddenly deciding to leave and go back to school sounds like a choice for a young man in his early twenties (laughs).
But you have to do what you really want to do in your life.
Before that, my life had been quiet and steady, studying hard, going to a prestigious school, joining a foreign company, and becoming a senior employee. The family is very satisfied, friends and relatives are very envious, they do not feel anything, the time flies past, and has become the current situation.
Suddenly, I felt that I did not have any core competitiveness, and a strong sense of crisis arose. I suddenly woke up in the middle of the night and jumped out of an idea: go abroad to study.
The more I thought about it, the more excited I got, until I lost sleep.
The next step is to study, take exams, and apply to schools. When I got the acceptance letter, I was so happy that I exploded. It's like a fish that has been diving all its life, suddenly swimming to the surface and getting its first breath of fresh air.
Husband was reluctant to go to New York with the kids while he stayed in China, and the separation was a big challenge for us.
But nothing can stop me now.
After being a good boy for more than 30 years, I suddenly wanted to be different and ruthless.
My life, basically, is under control, sounds pretty cocky doesn't it.
It's not about being in control, it's about knowing what you want and what you don't want.
Want to wear the most beautiful dress, go to the top floor of the China World Trade Center pub wine tasting, lipstick with TF, CPB, YSL Star, a wall of cabinets full of average price of 50,000 bags... ...? So go to learn financial investment, the second year of work, I borrowed money from my parents plus savings as a down payment, decisively bought a house, 8,000 a square foot, a long time poor to eat dirt. Last year, sold, made a big profit, and bought a set in Tongzhou, since then announced financial freedom.
If it's a matter of getting through, then I'm convinced: Truth is be rich.
This is the secret.
Wanting to be a bully, capable of crushing it, I took my own money and went to a $10,000/week business course, taking classes at Wharton to small forums at Stanford, and then visiting my new boss in San Francisco. Busy as hell, but extraordinarily fulfilling.
Are you asking me if I'm getting my money's worth?
I made it to C LEVEL at the multinational company that everyone knows the name of. ?
Want to live a more meaningful life and cherish what I have now, so I insisted on going to volunteer, the orphanage like a second home, insisted on ten years, changed the director of the three, and I am still there.
Preparing to go back home before changing to a new job, I took my mom and dad on a short trip to see the sights together. Want a broader career outlook and an even better future, so have decided to jump ship to a similar smaller company.
September, Hong Kong, new challenges.
Salary is actually not as good as before, but higher title "New APAC".
For me, it's very attractive.
Never forgot that the purpose of being in control of your life is to be able to make choices more freely.
Which do you choose, work or love?
? I choose the latter.
To be able to live a stable life in a small home with the love of my life is the greatest happiness, and I'm still a bit more nerdy and peaceful at heart.
Who says you have to do what you have to do for your career?
Public relations is a very stressful and deep-rooted business, and everyone is in a very anxious state. I used to rely on cigarettes and coffee at night to refresh myself, and I had neurological headaches and lost my hair by the handful.
I was so attached to my family and she was so good-tempered that she made my home look like a dynamite barrel, and both of us were so anxious that we almost had to talk about divorce. My daughter-in-law and I were both relieved when we decided to jump ship and come to the big research company we are now with.
In fact, this kind of compromising job-hopping is destined to miss some great opportunities, and many of my friends can't understand that, in their brave and refined thinking, there is a chance not to go on, and they will definitely regret it in the future, but it's just a little bit of sacrifices and compromises, which can always be made up in the future.
But love can't wait.
I rely on my hometown, I am fond of Beijing, I like my own cozy nest, and the green plants on the south balcony.
Each of us has our own choices, and we don't regret them, because after all, we have to live for ourselves.
The reason I realized I needed to change was because my first child was born.
The little life is so amazing. The little face, the chubby arms and legs, the whole thing is a "cute" word. You watch him grow day by day, unconsciously want to do something, this is the parents heart it. I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do that, but I'm going to be able to do it," he said.
In fact, before, I didn't even have the idea of rising up, just to maintain the status quo.
The startup that I worked for was acquired by Tencent, and after three weeks as a visual director, I couldn't keep up with the pace of work, so I ran away. The company's investment in the B round of the startup to dig me, decisively refused, the position on the promotion of small, not much fun. Now start to try to change, try to step into an unfamiliar field, began to have some of their own breakthrough.
My children are my biggest incentive to change.
Life at 40 was very much on track, and then he came along and threw a weight down and upset the delicate balance of life.
The equivalent of ushering in an uncertain stimulus on a sure track.
It feels pretty good, too.
That's right, I'm the stay-at-home mom everyone is clamoring not to be. Shortly before I left my job, I was on the promotion list and my boss asked me if I wanted to reconsider my decision to quit. I said it was okay, I thought about it. Returning to the family was the final decision.
Ditching everything in the workplace and coming to the unfamiliar field of housework and childcare on my own, or at such an age as 37, my girlfriends say I'm crazy. I gave up a higher salary than my husband's, and started from scratch as a full-time wife, and also worried about how to get out of touch with society, and I heard too many stories of yellow faces, so it's hard not to have a sense of crisis.
But then realized that returning to the family is not the same as circling yourself there, only that you have turned the page in your life, different stages of life to have different specialties, and now the focus of the career is home.
So in addition to taking my kids to various classes and being active, I also pulled in my neighbors and new friends around me to get things going. Organizing charity events, having cooking salons, having parties and dancing, practicing yoga together ...... and promoting square dancing, the foreign grandmothers are having quite a bit of fun.
A person with an interest in life has rich spiritual food inside and can easily find their own position in life.
I am much more famous than my husband in the community. Once he went to buy something without money, the attendant at the mini-mart said I know you, you are Susan's husband, pay next time, take her sweetie pie back first. His jaw dropped, he didn't realize his wife was so open to the American imperialism and said, you are so bossy.
They are in their early to mid-35s, each confused and wonderful in their own way.
In fact, too much storytelling is still someone else's story, and you and I around 35 years old still have to live our own days and face our own lives. But even so, their story, but also shattered those "35 years old more and more tired" moan.
Whether it's hard work or confusion, the middle-aged us, will always get through this heart robbery, posture calm, inner certainty.
Even if you are carrying more and more weight, you always have to go on, how did you say? The whole life of a person is like traveling with a heavy load.