Unspoken rules 1: Don't take notes in books easily.
In China, teachers and parents are very willing, even happy to see students commenting on books. This proves that children are working hard in their studies.
However, it can't be like this in America. Of course, if you don't want to sell or recycle your books, you can scribble on them. You know, American textbooks are very expensive, reaching three digits at every turn.
If the original price of an old book with no obvious traces of use is 100, if you are lucky, it is no problem to sell it at 70 dollars according to the new condition. However, if there are traces of notes or fluorescent strokes in the book, it may be defined as "acceptable" and the cost will not exceed that of 30 yuan.
Rule 2: Don't say "that" easily, especially in the subway. ...
As we all know, Americans often take racial discrimination very seriously, and calling blacks "Negro" or "Nigga" is a taboo.
So our spoken English "that" in China may sound like a "nigger" in the ears of foreigners who don't understand it ... If the other person is a grumpy black aunt ... the picture is too beautiful to describe.
Rule 3: Don't take off your shoes and tie your shoelaces in front of classmates or others.
Americans are casual, or as China says, careless, but Americans are very particular about some details of life. You can't break their rules.
For example, you can't take off your shoes in front of unfamiliar classmates. This is a very rude behavior for Americans. Of course, you can take off your shoes in your bedroom or between couples.
In America, if a girl takes off her shoes in front of a boy (carpet at home doesn't count! ), there is another meaning that you can do whatever you want ~ don't forget to seize the opportunity, male compatriots ~
Rule 4: Don't just call a teacher, call a professor.
In American universities, teachers are generally called professors rather than teachers (some professors with doctorates prefer to be called doctors), which is very important for face-saving Americans.
After all, they prefer titles with high positions, and professors sound more enjoyable. Therefore, you should not just call him a teacher in front of the teacher, but a professor.
I once had a lovely American friend who addressed her professor as a lady instead of a professor at the beginning of her email. As a result, her professor flew into a rage in his reply. "You call me lady. Do you think I am not professional enough to be your professor? If you have a problem, just say it. If you don't mind, don't use Ms next time. "
Rule 5: Don't dance with the same sex easily.
As far as American accepted social etiquette is concerned, the same sex can't both dance. If you just go to America to mingle with your classmates, and you choose to dance in pairs with your same-sex friends, then they will look at you with curiosity. Why?
Because they are thinking, "Asians are quite open now, and they dare to come out in public." So if you don't want to be misunderstood, don't choose to dance with the same sex.
Rule 6: Don't take the subway alone at night (for safety, remember this rule)
The United States is often considered to be very good at public security, but anyone with a little experience will deny this view. Especially at night, in the subways of big cities, there is violence and bloodshed everywhere.
The underground subway in the United States is quite chaotic, and it is a gathering place for the underworld at night. Addicts, thieves, hooligans and drug dealers all gather here, which looks chilling.
If something happens in the subway at night, the American police will not sympathize with you, nor will they help you solve the problem enthusiastically, but will blame you. Why do you go to the subway at night?
Rule 7: Don't be too modest.
In China, modesty is regarded as a virtue. After all, people think that if you are not modest, you will look superior. But after you arrive in America, don't think that your modesty will also be regarded as a virtue by Americans.
If you are good at something, don't be modest and say that you can't. For example, when you communicate with Americans, you say that your English is not good, but in later communication, the other party finds that you can speak fluent and authentic English, so the other party will think that you are a hypocritical person and not worth interacting with. Americans will think you are lying, and you are a hypocritical and pretentious person.
Bian Xiao had a friend who studied in a university with 10 students and got 97/ 100 in a very difficult chemistry class. You know, the average grade of the whole class is only in their early 60 s
His friend asked him how he did in the exam, and he said modestly, "Not bad". His friend continued to complain to him, "This exam is too difficult. I only have 6x. What about you? " "97 ..." "Shit" ... So, when you are in America, if you are really outstanding in one aspect, then you should bravely and generously accept their praise.
Rule 8: Don't ride with strangers.
We all know that Americans are really enthusiastic, but don't be fooled by their enthusiasm. Sometimes there is a terrible conspiracy behind American enthusiasm. So, don't see someone rushing to give you a ride, just be happy.
Because it is possible that these people rob money in this way, or humiliate you in other ways. In this regard, especially girls should pay more attention. Don't be fooled by handsome and tall Americans. If you get in their car, you may be a sheep in their mouth and be dealt with casually by them. Money is a small matter, but life is a big thing.
Rule 9: Don't say' I'm sorry' easily.
In China, if we make a mistake, we usually say, I'm sorry, or I'm sorry. In fact, in America, you can't just say things like' I'm sorry'. Why, because in America, this sentence means that you admit that the main responsibility for this mistake is you, not the other party.
If you say this in some controversial events, the other party will hold you accountable. At that time, don't be a mute and eat Huang Lian, you will only suffer.
Rule 10: Don't stick out your tongue in front of unfamiliar classmates.
When we are in China, if we are embarrassed or embarrassed, we will spit out our tongues and miss the embarrassment. It will be lovely.
But when you are in America, don't do this, especially in front of unfamiliar classmates. Because Americans believe that sticking out your tongue in front of others is impolite and unsightly, giving people a feeling of vulgarity and hooliganism. Even they will extend this action to look down on people, so adult students should never do this.
Hidden rules 1 1: Girls should not always laugh.
Smiling can bring friendship. We think that in any summer vacation, smiling will not only bring us a good mood, but also make people around us feel comfortable. But it's different in America. Especially for girls, you must remember that you can't always smile in front of men.
Because Americans will think that your smile means that you agree or promise something. Therefore, they often misunderstand your smile and then have a problem with you. Of course, ambiguity is an experience after all.
Unspoken rules 12: avoid talking, only talk about what you are interested in.
China students like to show off, that is, they are particularly willing to talk about topics they want to talk about, but when others talk about topics they are not interested in, they are very impatient.
In fact, when we get together in America, or when we are with our classmates, we also talk about some things. Of course, in this way, you will talk about things that both of you are interested in. Even if the other person says something you are not interested in, you should discuss it with him, otherwise the other person will think that you are impolite or that you are simply a person who lacks knowledge.
In America, art and sports are the most talked about topics. Death is the last topic they want to talk about.
Unspoken rule 13: don't take the initiative to pay for your classmates.
It is the custom in China that it is normal for people to invite each other to dinner if they are good friends, but it is not good in the United States.
If you do this, they will be psychologically unacceptable when you are in the United States. Because Americans think that if you pay the money, they will owe you a favor and have to always consider when or when is the right opportunity to repay you.
So, if you go out with American friends, you'd better do your own thing, spend your own money, spend your own money, and don't think about them.
Unspoken rule 14: Don't give gifts indiscriminately.
Generally, we in China will send gifts or greeting cards to our classmates to show our friendship or other needs. But in the United States, except for formal occasions, such as birthdays and special days, gifts can be given to classmates, and it is best not to give them at other times.
Because in America, they will feel psychological pressure when they receive gifts on unusual days, thinking that you are asking him for help or have other purposes.
I remembered a piece of news ... once an international student didn't know what to think and sent a sculpture to his professor. That's not the point ... the point is that the sculpture is shaped like a clenched fist ... and then the neurotic professor thinks that the student is threatening him! Then I reported it to the school, and finally the school Committee unanimously decided to expel the international student. ......
Of course, if you don't know what to give them on their special day, just send flowers. Flowers are the most popular gifts for Americans. Of course, perfume and electronic products are also good gifts.