In life, we often say that children should avoid their mothers and women should avoid their fathers. In a short sentence, it shows the importance of parents helping their children to establish gender awareness.
However, many parents don't agree with this, thinking that children are too young to be curious about some actions of adults, so how to get there conveniently, including opening the toilet and changing clothes in front of the children.
Not long ago, a mother spit out her husband in a group of treasure mothers. The reason is that the husband is afraid of the heat in summer, and he is used to walking around the house in underwear every day, while the daughter has been in the kindergarten class, which is the sensitive period for the establishment of gender awareness.
Ma Bao thinks that her husband should dress neatly at home. Even if he is afraid of the heat, he should wear a pair of beach pants instead of just underwear. But Ma Bao's persuasion only brought her husband one sentence: How old is my daughter? What can she understand?
At that moment, Ma Bao felt that she couldn't communicate with her husband, but fortunately, she couldn't resist her chanting, and her husband finally compromised by "wearing pajamas at home".
Speaking of "appropriate restrictions" between parents and children, I can't help but think of a film and television drama clip that I brushed some time ago.
In the TV series, 10-year-old daughter has a very good relationship with her father, and father and daughter often chat and play together.
One day, my mother came back from shopping and took a casual look at the living room. It was this glimpse that made a bag of vegetables in my mother's hand fall to the ground.
It turned out that the father and daughter were playing clapping games on the sofa in the living room, but they were sitting too close. Dad is sitting in the middle of the sofa, and his daughter is sitting on his lap. Their faces are permeated with happy smiles.
This scene made my mother restless. Her reaction was very angry. She immediately stopped her daughter's behavior and shouted to her daughter: A girl of 10 is still sitting on her father's lap. Do you have any rules? What does this sound like?
The father and daughter looked at each other fiercely. In the father's eyes, it is normal for his daughter to sit on his lap and play, and his wife's reaction is really "excessive".
For her daughter, her mother's words are undoubtedly a kind of verbal violence, which makes her feel puzzled and at the same time somewhat ashamed and indignant.
After that, my mother ran to the balcony to open the window and shouted to the community, 10-year-old girl is still sitting on her father's lap. Is this more like it?
Seeing this, many people will think that this mother is somewhat "sick".
However, regardless of her personal design, the topic of "Can a 10-year-old daughter sit on her father's lap" has triggered discussions among countless netizens in the comment area.
Some people think that the 10-year-old girl is still playing on her father's lap, which is not intimacy but crossing the line, and must be corrected in time, otherwise it will cause the child's gender ambiguity, and it will be difficult to grasp the discretion in the future communication between men and women.
Some people think that the mother's reaction is really "excessive". Even if she thinks there is something wrong with her father and daughter, she should talk to her husband and daughter alone, instead of embarrassing the closest person in person.
This practice will hurt the daughter's self-esteem to a certain extent, and it will also make the relationship between father and daughter awkward.
@ Tired: 10-year-old girl has entered puberty, so it is definitely not appropriate to sit on her father's lap, but her mother's reaction is a bit extreme, typical of morbid mood.
@ Miss Almost: My baby knew the difference between men and women when he was 3 years old. When he was 6 years old, he slept in separate rooms with us, never changed clothes in front of us, locked the door when he went to the bathroom, and never sat on his lap when he was close to her father.
@ The wind blows the wheat waves: Who is wrong with this result? Parents are wrong! Female college students should avoid their fathers, even if their children don't understand adults, they should tell their children that this is wrong. Mother's reaction was so frightening that she didn't care about others' self-esteem.
For parents, we all want to keep a close relationship with our children, but as children grow up, this "intimacy" needs to become "intimacy".
That is to say, parents can have fun with their children, but parents should take the initiative to avoid physical contact involving some private parts.
In the guidance and education of children's gender awareness, parents should also pay attention to protecting their children's self-esteem, and don't label their unintentional behavior as "unruly" or "outrageous", let alone scold them for it.
Children know that "avoiding father and mother" is a reflection of mature thinking, and as parents, they should be guided to distinguish them from men and women at the stage when their children have just established gender awareness, and should not be separated from their children under the banner of love.
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