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"The Return of the Child" is a grotesque movie that continues the usual style of director David Fincher. The movie is based on the novel of the same name by the great American writer F. Scott Fitzgerald, and has a Douban rating of 8.9.
The film tells the story of the hero, Benjamin Button, who was born with the image of an 80-year-old man. His mother died in childbirth, and his father, who saw him as a monster, abandoned him in front of a nursing home. He is adopted by Queenie, a kindly black female caretaker, and grows up in the nursing home before deciding to go to sea at the age of 17 and experiencing a series of journeys in his life. The strange story of his gradual rejuvenation as the years go by and his eventual return to baby form and his quiet passing in the arms of his pale lover, Daisy.
Benjamin's life is full of legends, and he is a miracle in himself.
The fate of counter-growth did not affect his mind, and he approached the world with a kind, warm heart.
The Return of the Child takes Benjamin's feelings as its narrative thread.
It opens with Daisy having her daughter read Benjamin's diary. The story of Benjamin's life is introduced.
When Daisy was a child, she visited her grandmother in an old people's home and met Benjamin, who was about the same age as herself. Her azure eyes were y imprinted on Benjamin's heart. Later, Benjamin went to sea as a sailor at the age of seventeen, and on the way, he met Elizabeth, an English noblewoman with taste and insight who had had many interesting experiences. The ****ing of souls made them often talk from late at night to early in the morning, but reality told her that it was destined to be a fruitless relationship. So Elizabeth left.
When Benjamin was 26 years old, he returned to his hometown to find Daisy, but Daisy had a life of her own by this time. After Daisy's car accident, the two really came together. After that, they had a daughter, in order not to drag Daisy, Benjamin sold the family property to leave them, he chose to leave.
A decade later, when Benjamin returned, Daisy already had a husband, and after a brief reunion, Benjamin once again chose to leave. When Daisy's husband died, she was contacted by someone from the adoption agency, who told her that Benjamin had reverted to a child and was suffering from severe Alzheimer's disease. Daisy decides to stay there and care for Benjamin until Benjamin dies in Daisy's arms.
Return to Childhood breaks away from traditional narratives by organically linking self-remembering and self-description. It triggers Daisy's slow reminiscence, fully demonstrates the moving love between Daisy and Benjamin, and also shows Daisy's infinite desire for love at the end of her life.
Benjamin has met many people in his life: the funny dwarf, the captain with his dream of being an artist, the old lady who talks about the piano, and the father who decides to recognize him. All of these people have had a great impact on him, but I would like to talk about the impact that these three women have had on Benjamin, and how their model of getting along with each other has inspired contemporary views on intimacy and love.
As soon as his real father saw Benjamin, he chose to throw him away, completely forgetting his wife's instructions to "give him a place to stay." Perhaps it was fate that favored Queenie with her inability to have children, so she felt that Benjamin was a child brought to her by God.
She describes Benjamin as "ugly as an old potty, but a child of God."
It was Queenie who gave Benjamin a second life. She gave Benjamin a name, she took care of Benjamin, she raised Benjamin, and she gave Benjamin an environment that didn't contradict his appearance.
One of Queenie's oft-repeated quotes is "You can never know the future."
She encouraged Benjamin throughout his early years, telling him "You're not like other kids."
I think it was such a special mother who gave Benjamin a cozy upbringing and molded a kind and generous character in him from an early age.
Unlike many parents in China, Queenie lets go, and when Benjamin decides to go to sea at the age of 17, Queenie doesn't stand in his way, but lets him experience life.
Many parents cry that they don't have the **** to talk about with their kids, and that as soon as their kids go to college they start to alienate themselves and don't call them ...... Behind these problems, is it a reflection of the problems between parents and children getting along? Is it because the parents tied the child too tightly and planned most of his life for him, so the child wants to run away from his parents?
FanDeng talk show, many parents asked a similar question, FanDeng teacher gave the same method as Queenie. Go and let go, life without parental intervention does not have to be worse. We all want to be in control of our own lives.
When Benjamin returned a few years later, Queenie asked, "Did you have any valuable experiences? Seeing pain? There was joy, too."
Raising a child is not just about raising him, it's about encouraging him, being patient with him, and giving him enough love as he grows. When he grows up, know how to let go. Let your child see pain and see joy.
This kind and full of wisdom of the woman ah, in the growth of Benjamin not only succeeded in playing the role of mother, or a successful enlightenment teacher.
Benjamin said in his diary, "I will never forget his blue eyes." When they first met, they were both teenagers, and there was no difference in the size of their hearts, but Benjamin's appearance stood in the way of their friendship.
Daisy's grandmother wouldn't let Daisy play with Benjamin and told him "You should be ashamed."
Meeting the right person, but not at the right time, dooms the romance.
As teenagers, they were on different sides of the world, with Benjamin sailing and Daisy dancing. They each had their own lives. The only contact is a postcard sent by Benjamin from each place.
When they meet again, Daisy has grown into a beautiful woman, and her smile is so charming that she has become the "most beautiful woman" in Benjamin's mind. She danced in the moonlight, swaying.
But it's still not the right time, and the two miss each other again.
Daisy's car accident was a turning point in their relationship, and when she recovered, she returned to New Orleans. At this point, the two were finally of similar ages, Benjamin, 47, and Daisy, 43.
"We would have picnics in the living room. We'd eat when we wanted to eat and sleep when we wanted to sleep. We vowed never to fall into a routine or a cliché, never to go to bed or get up on time."
These days, as Benjamin describes them, were some of the happiest he and Daisy ever had together. Daisy never minded that he was special and gave him the truest love.
Even when Benjamin developed Alzheimer's in his later years and reverted to a child's appearance, not recognizing Daisy at all, she insisted on taking care of him and accompanying him on the last journey of his life.
Daisy is a good woman, she does not care about the constraints of the world, completely respect their inner feelings, never because of Benjamin's appearance to leave him. I can't help but think of the hot urban drama "The Next Stop is Happiness" two days ago, in which He Fanshing is not easy to come together in the end precisely because she cares too much about other people's eyes and goes round and round with the person she likes. In love, can follow the feelings of the heart, is a very Li marvelous thing.
She is a brave woman who took on the responsibility of raising her children after Benjamin left and gave them a complete home.
She was also a kind woman who saw Benjamin go from old man to baby, and gave him warmth at the beginning and companionship at the end.
Most people have a first love before they meet the love of their life, which teaches us to love and grow.
Elizabeth plays such a role.
She is a woman who has seen a lot. She teaches Benjamin how to eat caviar to make it more flavorful. The two of them talk all night in the lobby of the hotel and seem to talk their way through this life.
Benjamin genuinely liked Elizabeth and the two had a wonderful time.
But the relationship is not destined to end well. Stolen feelings don't belong to you after all.
After Elizabeth left without saying goodbye, Benjamin accepted it without resentment. Later on television, he saw her realize her dream of many years, and then rejoiced in her success.
More than a lover, Elizabeth is like a friend of Benjamin's who has been away for a long time. Happy to meet, and not sad after parting.
The best way to deal with feelings should be the way they do, leaving with a "very high should meet you." There is no stalker, no grief, and no lightness of being. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands dirty.
The modern way of dealing with relationships is mostly to make a fuss, and in the end, the two people get hurt. If you can be like them, there will be a lot less worries.
Benjamin's life may seem mute and boring, but he was kind, loyal, generous, and generous
He was a good son
He forgave his father and told his adoptive mother, "You're my mother. He was a good husband
He chose the path of happiness for Daisy and left enough to get away
He was a good father
He loved his daughter and missed her and wanted to be there for her
There's a philosophical quote from the old lady who played the piano. "We are destined to lose the ones we love, otherwise how do we know how much they mean to us."
All human lives are characterized by gains and losses. The movie also depicts the sight of gain and loss many times.
The blind watchmaker loses his son but makes a magical clock; Benjamin's own father gains a son but loses his wife; Daisy loses her ballet but gains a beloved and a child; and Benjamin gains his youth but loses his lover.
This is life, you can not choose all the full gain, you have to take some not to take some not to take some should be open to face some loss, some loss on some gain.
Many people envy those who become famous at a young age, and envy them for being so young and having such great achievements. However, they have also lost the joy of childhood, when their peers were playing games, they had to catch flights to work.
The young age to bear this age should not bear the things, get the young to become famous, but also lost should be childish and innocent happiness.
The gain and the loss are never equal.
Human beings are community animals, do not like loneliness, any time we want to accompany is our instinct.
But people can't avoid loneliness, because you always have something different from others.
"Some people are destined to sit by the river. Some people have been struck by lightning seven times. Some people have an extraordinary talent for music. Some people are artists. Some people are good swimmers. Some people know how to make buttons. Some people know Shakespeare. Some are born mothers. Still others, destined to be dancers."
This monologue at the end of the movie is very poignant in saying that people are different from each other, and that everyone has different talents, different destinies, and is suited for different paths in life.
No matter what color or size, people are lonely, but it's not the loneliness that's scary, it's the fear of loneliness.
You will feel lonely in many situations: the path home from work; wake up on Saturday to see the sunshine morning; want to go somewhere when you find that there is no one around to accompany yourself .......
Feeling lonely is a normal part of the psyche, and it is by embracing loneliness that many people throughout the ages have left the world with monumental works.
Marx spent most of his life in the library and finished Capital; Tolstoy lived in a hut all the time, and even went out to roam in his old age, and wrote long novels such as War and Peace and Anna Karenina; Li Shizhen often slept outdoors in the field, searching for medicines to cure diseases and save people's lives, and wrote the pharmacological masterpiece Materia Medica in 27 years.
We also need to learn to accept our loneliness, even enjoy it, and meet and integrate with our true selves there.
A thing whether it is too late or too early for me will not stop you from becoming the person you want to be, the process should not have a time limit, do what you want to do. There can be changes or it can be set in stone, there are no conventions. It can be done brilliantly or it can suck. I hope you do the best you can, I hope you see things that surprise you, I hope you feel things you've never felt before, I hope you make friends with others who have a different point of view, I hope you live a life you're proud of, and I hope you have the courage to "start over" if you find out that's not the case
I love this quote!
Love this quote, it tells us what to do when we grow up.
Like Benjamin, who decides to leave Daisy's mother and daughter, he sets off for India, doing what he wants to do, meeting different people, and experiencing things he's never experienced before. More importantly, he doesn't give up on life and has the courage to start over.
San Mao once said, "Human beings are often young and old, young and confused, middle-aged people like to compare the achievements of others with their own, and therefore feel frustrated, and it is not easy to live to the old age is still a stupid child did not grow. We have been rough living, and the human life, then so passed."
Many people think that adulthood is growing up, in fact, not, growing up is a lifetime of things, in the process, we continue to learn, continue to accumulate experience, these experiences, is the most valuable wealth when we grow old.
Benjamin against the growth of life is rich in fantasy color, everyone can see their own shadow from his growth experience, experienced loneliness, darkness, sadness, feel the love, love, friendship. Even after all the vicissitudes of life in the end can still be as kind as a child, even if they can not keep each other to old age, but also live up to this moment to know each other meet.
Not to live up to the time, not to live up to life.