In life, we will meet all kinds of people and encounter difficult things.
If your character is too strong, you will be easily hurt; if your character is too weak, you will not be able to achieve great things.
As Kee Xiaolan of the Qing Dynasty said:
Mature women know that it is easy to be a man and not lose the bottom line; to do things with principles and flexibility.
Overly rigid easy to fold, too soft will be destroyed, just and soft to get twice the result with half the effort. If you're not square, you're too worldly; if you're square, you're not round, you'll have a hard time making progress.
Cylindrical and square is the way of doing things, but also a life bag, can let the woman in the interpersonal interaction in a smooth, in the family and career in an invincible position.
Women with a square face and a ruler
The Dream of the Red Chamber has a classic couplet: "All things are learned, and human beings are practiced that article."
This couplet is like a true reflection of Ping'er's behavior.
Jiafu's interpersonal relationships are complex, and there are many smart women, but only Ping'er's high emotional intelligence makes people happy and convinced.
She not only speaks decently and does things thoroughly, but also grasps the bottom line.
One time Mrs. Wang lost something in the house, I do not know who the thief is, Phoenix to force a confession, so that the maids "cushioned tile kneeling in the sun, tea and rice are not given to eat", scared the girls out of their wits.
Ping'er is not good directly for the maids excused, they sympathetically said to Phoenix:
The words out, Phoenix instantly rested his anger and let go of the innocent maids were spared, but also to let the thieves confessed to their crimes.
Someone once said: "To convince people, a good word is often more effective than gold."
Ping'er is not only able to speak to the hearts of others, but also able to take into account the overall situation.
Phoenix and Bao Yu to the Ningguo Mansion guests, Jia Rong's wife and brother Qin Zhong is also in, Ping'er know Phoenix and Qin Keqing's relationship with the close, they prepared a generous gift to let people send, not only Phoenix face, but also to give face to the other side.
The world is lamenting the difficulty of being a human being and the exhaustion of doing things, but if you can understand the human heart, realize the human nature, you can also be successful.
There are a lot of rules and regulations in the house of Jia, so it's not enough to be able to take care of other people and serve the master, but Ping'er doesn't go against the grain.
Mrs. Wang's Poria Cream is stolen by Caiyun, the maid Liu Wu'er is locked up as a thief, and Phoenix wants to throw her mother out with a slap on the wrist.
Ping'er feels that there is injustice in this matter, and secretly investigates and rescues the wrongly accused Liu Wu'er.
Once, Ping'er's bracelet was stolen by Baoyu's little girl, she cared about Baoyu's face and was afraid of implicating the reputation of other maids, and finally chose to put the matter to rest.
Precisely because Ping'er is kind, does not do things blindly, and has a bottom line, she was raised by Jia Lian to be the main wife after Phoenix's death.
Life in the world, there are many temptations and risks, we must know right from wrong, to judge the situation, so that there is a ruler in the heart, to do things have degrees.
Dealing with people, and then hate people, and then angry things, do not strong pull hard touch, try to deal with the euphemistic way.
Cylindrical inner square is a woman's practice, do not say hard words, do not do soft things, see through not to say through, to give people room for error, that is, you can stick to the bottom line, but also can properly solve the problem.
The woman who is square on the outside and square on the inside has a way of dealing with things
Huang Yanpei, a famous educator, once said:
This sentence is used to describe Zhang Youyi's person is more than appropriate, she looks at the exterior of the soft, low brow of her husband, no complaints about the life of the people, but inwardly it is a strong, proud people.
She was ordered by her parents to marry Xu Zhimo, a talented man, and the two families were a good match, but Xu Zhimo was disgusted with her, saying she was a "bumpkin".
After the marriage, Xu Zhimo in order to study abroad, fulfill his parents' wish, and Zhang Youyi gave birth to their first child.
Soon after the birth of his first son, he left his wife and children to study in England, and Zhang Youyi took care of him to accompany his son.
Xu Zhimo did not appreciate this, but fell in love with Lin Huiyin, a woman he met in a foreign country.
Zhang Yuyi's patience and concessions to her husband, in the hope that he would come back to her, were only rewarded with hurt after hurt.
Xu Zhimo is as hot as fire to the goddess he adores, but as cold as ice to her; he talks eloquently with his friends, but is silent to her.
In order to get Lin Huiyin, Xu Zhimo persuaded his wife to have an abortion and forced her to sign a divorce agreement.
Zhang Yuyi was so chilled that she joined her brother, who was studying in Berlin, and gave birth to her second son.
In order to make a living, Zhang Youyi tried her best to enter the Pestalozzi College in Berlin, and got the qualification of early childhood education to be a kindergarten teacher, and also studied business management.
But fate was not kind to her. When her second son died at the age of three, she turned her grief into strength and returned to China to teach German at Soochow University, where she worked and studied every day.
After five years of biding her time abroad, she finally turned the tide at home.
She became vice president of the Shanghai Women's Commercial and Savings Bank, turned a profit into a profit, and set up Yunshang Clothing Company, which became a benchmark for fashion.
When Xu Zhimo is still in the marriage with Lu Xiaoman in the anxiety, she has been a leading businessman; when Xu Zhimo died in a plane crash, she also served for Xu Zhimo parents.
A wise woman will hold back for the sake of family harmony, and will also back down in marriage to give her children complete love.
Once forbearance becomes hurt, it will be secretly strong, quietly grow, and eventually meet a better self.
Cylindrical and square woman inside the heart of certainty, can be gentle like water will also be as solid as a rock, can swallow the aggression can also feed the pattern, in the trough of the time, in the high light of the time to save energy.
Women who are square on the outside and square on the inside have a way of life
Writer Martin once said:
Ni Ping, once a sister of CCTV, has encountered this dark period.
She was once a CCTV talker, the most beautiful goddess, won countless awards, the golden microphone a hold is 13 years, she hosted the Spring Festival Gala to the audience how much laughter.
On the surface of the bright and shiny her, behind the hidden how little known sorrow.
Her career has been a great success, and she has had a lot of ups and downs in her relationship. She has had a happy marriage, but her son was born only 4 months ago, and he was found to be suffering from congenital cataracts.
She quit the stage for her son's treatment, and sought treatment at many hospitals at home and abroad, because of her son's recurring illness, family conflicts, her marriage ended in failure.
The high cost of medication was too much for her to bear, and she and her son drifted around, filming and treating her son, sometimes to the point of exhaustion and collapse.
But she often used her grandmother's words to encourage herself:
So she was strong all the way, leaving the smile to others, dedicating her love to her children, and keeping her grievances and sufferings to herself.
For her son's health, she worked so hard that she fell into leg and waist disease, and her face was emaciated, bloated, and her former appearance no longer existed.
When her son's condition recovered, she returned to the stage to pick up the microphone in high spirits, the program host, she did not have a gorgeous wording, no glossy makeup, but a pair of years after the hammering of calm, calm and natural.
Although she is not rich, but for the disaster area, for the school donation of millions.
She is the first person to be awarded the honor of being the director of the film, and she is the first person to be awarded the honor of being the director of the film, and she is the first person to be awarded the honor of being the director of the film.
Strong women, will not complain about the cruelty of fate, will not blame others for the ruthlessness of all the misfortunes are trampled underfoot, like the river as courageous.
As Lao Zi said:
Women with a square face and a square heart, like water, low-profile, can tolerate the world, can help the world, soft as a trickle of water, strong, but also can be shocking waves.
Take the suffering as experience, experience into wealth, not show off when brilliant, not humble when the trough, after years of wasted time, the heart has blood and tears, but the face is not seen frost.
If a woman has too many edges, she will be hindered; if she is round and has no boundaries, she will be unstable.
Only a good grasp of the degree of squareness and roundness, outside the circle, inside the square, is the recipe for life.
To be soft is a kind of wisdom, broad-minded, temperament, know how to get in and out; to be rigid is a kind of vigor, have pride, have to bear.
It is the perfect blend of softness and strength, which is beneficial to both people.
Mature women, often the exterior of the rounded and transparent, the inner unbreakable, that is, the heart of the Bodhisattva also has the means of the diamond, the line is high and far.