Baby summer vacation with grandma back to the countryside good?
Xiao Zhang's mother did not have time to take care of the child in the summer vacation, so thought of sending the baby to the countryside grandparents, but the mother has some doubts ......
Doubt one: spoiled by grandparents. Generally speaking, children go to their grandparents' home to return from vacation, life self-care ability will have regression. That's because the elderly always like to spoil the children, the package replacement for more, to buy a lot of snacks for the children, in the nap and on its unrestrained, the law of life will become more chaotic, so parents generally feel that and grandparents after the summer vacation back to the child is more difficult to bring some.
Doubt two: more mosquitoes in the countryside. The countryside is full of flowers and trees, mosquitoes and insects, small chapter mom worried about the baby by mosquito bites is also the concern of many parents.
Nonetheless, it's good to send your kids to the countryside to experience rural life.
Benefit one: get close to nature and experience rural life. Nowadays, children in the city rarely have the opportunity to get close to nature, to the countryside to walk, the child can change a kind of environment, embrace nature, experience the countryside life.
Benefit two: experience the joy of labor. If you can encourage grandparents to let the child do some simple farm work, through the practice of letting the child know the hard-won food and pay and harvest of life, appropriate to let the child suffer a little bit for the child is a good exercise Oh!
Benefit three: enhance the affection. You can bring your children to meet and reunite with their relatives in rural areas to enhance emotional exchanges and have a family vacation.
Benefit four: physical fitness. Children to the countryside after physical labor and the wind and sun, can be strong, strengthen the immune system, reduce the disease.
It's a dereliction of duty to allow the elderly to bring up their children like this The children should be satisfied and know how to appreciate the old man's efforts. The first thing that you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world. But as a parent, you can't just give in and go to the end. The elderly have some really unreliable behavior, in their eyes look nothing, but the child is very harmful! At this time, you don't be embarrassed, you must stand up and communicate with the elderly. Especially the following kinds of behavior, if the elderly in the family treat the child this way, must be timely to stop! 1, worried about the child hungry, old to him stuffed with food Why is the child always refuse to eat well? The first thing you need to do is to look at how the old man feeds his children. The child is obviously full of food, but the spoon forced the child to eat a few more mouths; The child is obviously happy to play, every once in a while to interrupt the child's game, to his mouth on the mouth of a mouthful of bananas, bread, and so on; The child is really too full to eat, on the threat of threatening, intimidating, and forcing the child to eat ... ... All day long you worry that your child is not full, turning eating into a kind of coercion, leading to the child's desire for food, the love of food in the gradual disappearance. You can't expect a child who never feels hungry to take the initiative to eat properly. 2, afraid of the child cold, always let him wear more The world of grandparents, always afraid of the child is frozen, by the wind blowing. The weather in the twenties, go to a friend's house, grandparents wearing short-sleeved, but to the child wrapped three pieces of clothing, said it is easy to catch cold in the spring. I can understand the love of grandparents, all things have to have a limit, wear less will catch a cold, wear more will still be sick! The child is trapped in thick clothes, the heat can not be emitted, resulting in higher and higher body temperatures, and a long period of high temperatures leading to high fever, dehydration, hypoxia, coma, and even respiratory and circulatory failure, covering the dangerous muffled heat syndrome, the situation is serious and will let the child die! In addition, the child wears too much, not only will lead to muffled heat syndrome, but also may be covered with prickly heat and other skin diseases, and even dehydration shock, and may make the baby more susceptible to disease. 3, superstitious folk remedies The old man is a bit superstitious, the child is sick, we can understand their pain, not much intervention. But if it is a superstitious earth prescription, this is difficult to get! Duo mom has a friend, the child coughing for half a month is not good, the mother-in-law specifically to go to the countryside to find a cure for the cough of the prescription, which know only to eat a back, the child on the diarrhea and diarrhea. It is a medicine that is poisonous, perhaps some of the local remedies are effective, but it is often only unknown to the body of the harm. For these unknown ingredients, the dose of unknown drugs, you can let the child eat into the stomach? 4, big and small to help the baby to do home if there are old people with children, will have this trouble. It's a good thing that the old man loves his children, but if he's spoiled, he's going to spoil his children. A friend's child was brought up by his mother-in-law, and at the age of four, he could not eat on his own or go to the bathroom on his own, and was disliked by his teacher at the kindergarten interview! The first time I saw this, I was able to see the woman's face, and I was able to see the woman's face. Indeed, the child spoiled no self-care ability, not only affect him to go to kindergarten problem. It also affects his independence and ability to do things, and no one wants their child to be a clumsy and dependent crybaby. 5, back and the child said bad things about the mother and mother-in-law have any contradictions, we do not want the child also involved, do not want the child in the grandmother and mother between the left and right difficult. But there is no shortage of mothers-in-law in the world who will say bad things to their children about their mothers, instigate their children to say bad things about their mothers with snacks, and even threaten their children, "Your mother doesn't want you anymore!" Maybe the mother-in-law is just a little mouthy, and doesn't mean much harm. But when the mother, to see this behavior is really very angry! It doesn't just stir up the parent-child relationship, but it can also lead to the child becoming two-faced in order to curry favor with both sides and get more benefits. I want the relationship with my child to be honest and free of disagreements, and all the time, if my mother-in-law does this, I will definitely stop it. 6, all day to the child said "can not move", "can not touch" The old man, after all, old, can not often take the child out of the house. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots. However, many elderly people, worried about the danger, worried about the child to the house mess, watching the baby often put "can not move, can not touch!" You can understand that it's not easy for the elderly, but you can't let it go. You have to realize that the years that your child stays at home are critical years for the development of his body and brain. If you let your child stay on the floor and play with toys all day, it's hard for him to develop his motor skills, his ability to explore, and his curiosity. It's a good idea to tell the elderly about the benefits of allowing their children to "move more and touch more", and to work with them to clean up dangerous objects in their homes, and to allow their children to touch and explore some of these objects in a way that ensures their safety, and protects their curiosity and ability to explore. Don't let the old man take the blame for you if your child is not well brought up "Wear how much, the child is not sick only strange!" "Don't give your child too much sugar, it's not good for the teeth!" "If you're so obliging, the child will be spoiled by you!" ...... These words are not very familiar, yes, these are the words we often say to the elderly in the family, said out of the mouth do not think there is anything, but think carefully, each sentence is filled with our old man with a child nitpicking and complaining. Children did not bring good, is it really all the fault of the elderly? Before answering this question, ask yourself: Are we qualified to complain about the elderly? With the development of the times, we have the opportunity to receive better education, know how to use more advanced equipment to get the latest information on parenting, which makes us think that we know better than the old man to bring up the children, and thus to complain about their way of parenting. ☆ ☆ The child has a cold and a fever, the old man said do not be too nervous, we immediately retorted, "sick of course the first time to see a doctor!" ☆ child clamoring for candy, the old man soft heart to give the child sugar to eat, we will complain: "Why always give him sugar to eat!" ☆ take the child out, the old man picked up the child is going to go, we immediately stopped and said: "Now are using the stroller!" In fact, most of the old people are more experienced than we are in bringing up children, just that their methods are a bit backward, which can't be blamed on them. Even the methods we ourselves use now may be backward for the next generation, so who are we to complain about the elderly? The child is the responsibility of the parents The child is the parents, the child is naturally the responsibility of the parents, the old man is not obliged to help, perhaps we should reflect on: * The child is cold and cold, the old man is heartbroken, he would like to give the child more to wear, what are we doing at this time? *The child cried, the old man a soft heart, will not be able to help but give the child sugar, this time what we are doing? *The child wants this and that, the old man loves his grandchildren naturally do not hesitate to pay, this time what we are doing? Usually, we say, "I'm working to earn money to support the family." This reason is so strong that people can't refute it. Indeed, how can you support a home and provide a good living for your family without enough financial income? However, we must also recognize that from the moment we choose to "go to work to earn money to support the family", we lose a lot of time with the children, and can not take care of the children's education. So, if you're not sure what you're looking for, you're not going to be able to find a way to make it work. The old man just gave the child another kind of love We often say that the old man spoiled the child, in fact, it is not, the old man may spoil the child, but not spoiled the child, they just gave the child another kind of love. When we feel guilty for missing our children's growth because of our work, it is the love of the old people that makes us feel a little better. When we are not around the children, they at least have the love of grandparents or grandparents, this kind of love can not replace the love of parents, but also to the child's childhood left a lot of good warm memories. Therefore, in terms of bringing up children, the old man's pampering is simply love children, the emergence of children being spoiled, can only be said to be our own failure to educate and guide the children, the pot should not be carried by the elderly. Less complaining and more thankful The old man has worked hard for most of his life, and he should be able to enjoy a good life in his later years. So, we will give the children to the elderly to take care of, and feel that the joy of the family is also a kind of blessing. However, the old man's understanding of the enjoyment of happiness may be: in the morning to the park to play chess play Tai Chi, the afternoon about a few friends to sigh afternoon tea, the evening mood to go to the square dance, play boredom on a sunset red group tour ...... The reality of enjoyment of happiness is that: in the morning to send their grandchildren to school, the afternoon to pick up grandchildren The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to get them to work. Bringing up children is never an easy task, and the reason why the elderly intentionally take on this hard work is entirely out of love for their children and grandchildren, and we have to be grateful. If the old man's actions do hurt the child, he should calmly communicate with the old man and tell him the seriousness of his actions with examples, instead of complaining and blaming him. We as parents have to take the main responsibility if our children end up with this or that problem, after all, how can we blame others when our own children are not disciplined?