Why do some people rise to greatness and others fall into poverty?
In this world, there are talented "poor people" everywhere. They are talented, learned five cars, and even have the ability to get into the ground, but why did they end up in a poor, nothing to do? But why did they end up poor and accomplishing nothing? And why did many people who did not have much talent achieve success and success? Why are our lives so different when we have two shoulders and one head?
The reason for this is the human condition! To a certain extent, whether or not to understand the world of human affairs, decide a person's life is a flying, or poor and downtrodden!
All successful people, without exception, understand this. They read the nature of society and the unspoken rules of interpersonal communication, know what the other side needs, know what the other side of the brain is thinking - to catch the fish, you have to think like a fish! You can hardly see him running around, but in the immobility, he has already realized his life goals. What is the code of their success? In fact, it is very simple, the four words of human feelings only!
People who come out to mix, must understand the world! This is the most basic requirement. If you don't know the world, what else can a person do? Because from the beginning is doomed to no success, so tossed down is just a waste of energy. And a person on the use of human feelings, even if the beginning of the ability to poor some, out of the mix or a great hope, because as long as he mastered this unique skill, sooner or later can usher in the fate of the turnaround. Even if you are a martial arts master, if you don't know the way of the world, you won't be able to mix for a long time, and you will surely get to the point of no way out. This is the truth. If you use your brain a little bit to think about it, you can come up with a lot of facts around you. You will find that the really smart people do things just right, watertight, not only reap the benefits, but also fell a good name; while some people are knife mouth and tofu heart, a lot of help others, but no one said he was good, and cultivated a lot of enemies in the side. This is mostly due to the lack of understanding of the human condition.
Born easy, live easy, life is not easy. Everyone must face cruel competition! Because of the lack of understanding of human feelings, many meritorious and famous generals in history who have made great achievements have ended up being put to death - they did not fall under the enemy's sword, but died unjustly in the hands of their own people. Blood spattered, brains smeared, there is no place in the world to sell regret pills. Even if there is, it is too late for regrets. Their glorious life ended so hastily. The advice is written in blood and brains, how can we not understand it?
It's hard to mix well, and it's even harder to mix well. If you're not careful, you'll be destitute and unable to accomplish anything. If your career is not successful, even if you are talented and educated, you will be reduced to shit! If your career is successful, even if you are a drunkard, you will be touted as a genius! This is the cruelty of reality, the coldness of people and the coldness of the world. There are too many people in China, and the pressure to survive is too great. If you want to make a good living and make a name for yourself, you have to know a little bit about the rules of the game of "mixing". Indeed, life is like a game, do not know the rules of the game, people will eventually die a very ugly, and the rules of the game to use the purely skilled people, in order to play the game in the game, play happily, play out everything they want!
The world has no permanent friends, no permanent enemies, only permanent interests. The essence of human interaction is actually the exchange of interests. If you do not understand the principle of exchange of benefits, all the benefits are their own monopoly, then even if the amazing talent can only be reduced to useless white paper!
Never look down on those who look vulgar now. A few years later, they may be the least vulgar people.
There is no food for the too exposed - all the people who do great things, should practice good "hide and expose" the work. When the wisdom of the wisdom, when the stupid is stupid. If necessary, and even pretend to be an "imbecile", do a "confused people", are wise.
The old man on the footbridge stalls fortune-telling, casually get a beard can pretend to be a master, fool those who seem to be very smart people. Why do they get away with it? The nature of human beings tend to avoid bad luck. This innate nature, not read a few days "Three Character Classic" can be completely erased and eliminated. If you can find a normal person in this world who doesn't know how to avoid evil, I can give you a million dollars without hesitation!
From an alternative perspective, the human nature of disliking the poor and loving the rich drives social development. If everyone likes to be poor and backward, then who is still willing to engage in physical labor? Who is still willing to engage in mental creativity? Where will there be food, clothing, utilities and shelter? Society will then stagnate or even regress! Therefore, we should regard the dislike of poverty and love for the rich as a socially normal phenomenon.
Why should others give you their hard-earned lunch? In other words, would you give your hard-earned lunch to someone else? If you don't think so, then why believe that someone else can do it? So instead of placing unfounded hopes on others, why don't you work hard and earn your own lunch?
In the face of those who are silent and do not show their anger, we need to be very careful in what we say and do, and not be in a hurry to expose our cards to him. These people's city is often very deep, the mind is also more, if you speak and do not think, it is easy for him to seize the handle, in turn, to take advantage of you!
Most of the friends and family can only be with the suffering, but can not **** enjoy the blessing. The boss and employees, most of them can only enjoy the same blessings, but can not **** difficulties.
People are not afraid of not smart, afraid of too smart. Smart over the top will be blind, they will be unmanned, they will not know the sky, forgetfulness, this time seems to be very smart people in fact, has been equal to half a fool!
The vast majority of the ancient and modern people who have been in trouble are shrewd people, and now people are afraid that they can not be shrewd to the extreme, which is stupid.
A beautiful woman starts to get ugly when she shows off her beauty. A smart man starts to become stupid when he flaunts his smarts! A talented man starts to become worthless when he flaunts his talent!
If 10% profit is reasonable, you could have gotten 11%, but it's better to take 9% because that's the only way you'll get subsequent business coming in.
People who are in officialdom must be careful and watchful at all times. Even if you have glorified most of your life, if you make a big mistake at the end, your life may be ruined like this. Life is so marvelous. Being a human being is like planting a field, and the final harvest is the criterion for evaluation.
"If you take the top, you get the middle; if you take the middle, you get the bottom; if you take the bottom, you get nothing." It means that if the expectation is first-rate at the beginning, the final result achieved may be only middle-rate; if the expectation is only middle-rate at the beginning, the final result achieved can only be end-rate; if the expectation is only end-rate, the final result may not get anything at all.
In some special occasions, some smart people, take the initiative to give the lead position to others, and their willingness to be a supporting role. This is not a failure, and can even be said that this is a strategic win, he let out just a protagonist of the false name, but to win is the real benefit.
There is a saying: "Calling for what is missing." Although the Chinese people call for mediocrity, but in practice they go to extremes everywhere. It is precisely for this reason that the state is now advocating a harmonious society, the core meaning of which is mediocrity, so that the world will not be radicalized and go to extremes.
For a Chinese person, life is as valuable as face. If you give him enough face, he will give you everything! But if you hurt his face and self-esteem, he will hate you with a passion and push you completely against him!
Don't criticize others in an emotional way, especially on a case-by-case basis, and avoid evaluating others' personalities, interests, and family upbringing. Criticism is more constructive when it is accompanied by solutions, while recognizing the strengths of others. In addition, it is often more effective to use humor when criticizing.
The love of sweet talk is everyone's weakness, and it's easy to fall for it, no matter who you are. Almost all women in the world love to listen to sweet words, and many women marry the wrong person precisely because of a man's sweet words.
The most brilliant emotional investment skill is to send charcoal in the snow, not icing on the cake.
At first, give your subordinates a downward spiral, let them know you are great, and then slowly relax the scale, so that they appreciate your concessions and easy-going. This is the CEO's management wisdom.
No matter how hard the other side's words are to hear, we have to let the other side finish his words and listen to what he really wants to express.
God always loves those who are silent and patient. We don't have to be jealous of others when we see them in their youth. As long as you are persistent in your work, positive and conscientious, everyone will usher in their own success!
To catch a fish, think like a fish. No matter how much you personally like strawberries, the fish won't pay any attention to it; only if you bait it with earthworms, which are the favorite of the fish itself, will it take the bait.
A person who does a favor to others, and does not keep it in his mind, and does not publicize it for others to praise, then even a bucket of corn can be given in return for ten thousand buckets of corn. A person who helps others with his possessions and always asks others to return the favor to him, then even if he gives ten thousand taels of gold, he can hardly get a penny of merit.
There is this classic formula: desire - strength = degree of suffering. When desire far exceeds strength and cannot be realized no matter what, that is when a person suffers the most, and is prone to go off the deep end.
A person is often most dangerous when he is in the springtime.
Don't eat the good things alone, but share some of them
Where the path is narrow, leave one step to walk with others; when the flavor is strong, reduce it by three points to let others taste it. This is a very happy way of being involved in the world.
When the path is narrow, leave one step so that others can walk; when enjoying a good meal, give some to others to eat. This is the best way to achieve success in the world.
When I was a child, my father often warned me, "Don't eat the good stuff alone, and share some of it appropriately, or else your buddies won't play with you, and other people will hate you, and squeeze you to one side when you have benefits." At that time, I understand these words, half-believe, half-doubt, so always because of the small things with people to fight.
When I grew up and stepped into society, the reality of the grind and complex interpersonal relationships, let me completely understand the profound meaning of this sentence.
Only when a person understands this truth can he or she have an epiphany of the reasons why successful people are successful. For example, when children get together to play a game, one of them gets hungry and takes out a delicious pastry from his bag just in time for everyone to see. At this point, he has two choices: share some with everyone or eat it all by himself. The choice is made in an instant, but it can lead to a very different outcome in a lifetime.
1. Share it with everyone. The little ones loved and embraced him because of the treats he got. From this moment on, he stood out among this group of peers and became the rightful leader of this small group, becoming a strong caller in the future.
2. Keep it all to yourself. You can eat it all in your own mouth like no one else is watching. The pastry is his, and that's fine. But everyone treats him like a cheapskate and no one plays with him in the future. He's lost an opportunity to be the alpha wolf on the team, and he's lost the trust of the team and turned down another narrow alley. Growing up along this trajectory, he will likely be average in the future.
An unthinking choice determines a person's life. Understanding this, will you still despise the necessary sharing? You should know that not everything is a narrow way to win. Knowing how to share with others at the right time can benefit everyone, and in the end, you will wear the laurels of a winner!
To get along with each other, many times it is not a single choice question - there is you without him, but a number of choices, can be a win-win situation. Some people don't get it, they only know fish out of water, either you die or I live. Examples of fighting for fame and fortune and dying together are often played out around us. This kind of people never realize that a step aside when necessary can bring greater benefits to themselves.
A young civil servant, graduated from a prestigious school, talented, everywhere he goes with a point of view, the air. He feels that everyone else is like a useless mole cricket, not worthy of comparing with himself. "I'm the most capable, so I deserve the most." He always thinks this way, does not share his benefits with his colleagues, and takes all the credit for everything.
What happened? Colleagues in the department joined hands to form an alliance with this "outstanding talent" to compete, and together they demolished his corner, dragged him down, and gave him trouble everywhere, no matter how unselfish you are, and do your best, we just don't cooperate. The fact is that the government has not yet made a decision on the matter, and it has not yet made a decision on the matter, and it has not yet made a decision on the matter!
In the end, the young man's work is certainly not good, and everywhere he goes, he hits a wall, and his talent is trapped in his belly, and he can't show it, and he doesn't even have a place to complain! So, the leadership of the pain, colleagues do not pity, he in front of everyone did not fall good impression. To this point, the unit assigned to him that chair should be taken back.
The only want to benefit from the exclusive but fell into nothing, you say poor not poor? There is a saying: "There is no eternal friend in the world, there is no eternal enemy, only eternal interests." This saying indicates that the fundamental problem of interaction between countries and between people is the distribution of benefits. If you know how to distribute interests, you have actually realized the essence of human nature and the truth of society.
There is a saying in "The Vegetable Roots of Tan" that says, "Human feelings are recurring, and the world is a rugged place. The first thing you need to do is to take a step back from the world, and the second thing you need to do is to let the world go." It means that the world is capricious and the road of life is rugged. In the road of life can not go where, we must know the reasoning of a step back; in the place where you can go, must also give people three points of convenience, so that we can turn misfortune into good fortune, smooth sailing.
Leaving a step to let three, not only to others to stay a way, but also to broaden the interpersonal resources of the wonderful policy. Today you let him a step, tomorrow he will return you two steps, equal to make a good friend, in the community to open a convenient door to success. If you do not understand the principle of equal benefit, all the benefits of their own monopoly, then even if the amazing talent can only be useless white paper! If you learn a little sharingism, the benefits of the benefits to all, so that everyone's psychology is balanced, so that everyone will certainly cooperate to assist you in the success of the smooth.
All successful "bulls" know this without exception. Most of them are throwing money away, so that the people who follow them can get benefits, so that they are willing to give up their lives and go through the fire. Even the shrewdest businessman, also practiced this concept. For example, a large project, obviously their ability to undertake, but also to pull partners to develop together, in order to show their "road to stay one step, taste to let three points" temperament, declaring that they are not the kind of people who cut off people's wealth, exclusive source of blessings of the people.
The fact is exactly the same, the most dangerous, we all have soup is the way of the king! This is the law of the world, is China for thousands of years has been practicing the "unspoken rules". Whether or not you know this law of the world, decide a person's life is a bumpy ride, or smooth sailing!
Too much exposure is easy to not eat
Eagle standing like a sleep, the tiger line like a disease, it is it grabbing people devouring people means of place. Therefore, a gentleman should not show his intelligence, not show his talent, and only then will he have the power to shoulder a great task.
The eagle stands as if asleep, and the tiger walks lazily as if sick, but in fact, this is the means by which they take food and eat people.
This is the first time that I have seen the world's first-ever eagle, and the first time that I have seen the world's first-ever tiger.
Too much exposure is easy to not eat - this is a fall through the old ancestors with blood and brains to write down the advice! Unfortunately, many people just don't understand this. They think they are too smart and capable, and look at everyone as tofu dregs, only they are a flower, and do not put anything in their eyes. This kind of person is most likely to run out of food and even lose their lives over it.
Everyone has heard of the phrase "real people don't show their faces, show their faces don't real people," which means that really smart people with great skills and hidden, never show off everywhere, but wait for the right time to make a splash. Talent is good, but the ability to be strong, but also can not be all day on the head to go around to show off. Just like wealth, of course it is good to have money, but will you wear gold and silver every day, carrying a suitcase of money to the street to show off?
Talent is the foundation of a person's success, a talented person can get a lot of performance opportunities, an incompetent person, even if again show off their own success is not possible. But a talented person is too showy self, suppression of other people's performance space, damage to the interests of others, will inevitably incur the unanimous cynicism of the crowd. If it develops to this point, his future and career will be very dangerous, and he may be pulled down at any time!
Zhuge Ke in the late Three Kingdoms period, is Zhuge Liang's older brother Zhuge Jin's son. After the famous family, strict family education, he showed at a very young age, talent, talent, everyone thought that his talent exceeded his father Zhuge Jin. However, instead of being happy to have such a good son, Zhuge Jin thought that Zhuge Ke would bring misfortune to the family. Why? Zhuge Jin said, "Ke is impatient, headstrong, and too fond of expressing himself, and his sharpness is too exposed, which will eventually lead to trouble." As my father expected, after Zhuge Ke grew up and took power, he was dictatorial, used his talents to suppress others, thought he was the best at everything, and saw no one else, which ultimately led to public anger, and was designed to be killed by the ministers, and his family was also killed.
In this world, people with outstanding talent who are ostracized can be found everywhere. They have talent in their hands, just like having a world-famous sword, they have to brag about it and wave it around in their hands, fearing that other people don't know about his amazing talent, and they foolishly make themselves a living target that people want to hit. They can't see the pit of fire under their feet, so they fall into it without realizing it.
Talent is like a double-edged sword, can stab others, will also stab themselves, so the use should be careful, usually should be inserted in the scabbard. Often, too much exposure will incur the villain's cynicism and trap. Anyone who is doing great things should practice "hiding and revealing" skills. Hong Yingming said in "Vegetable Roots Tan": "The article to do good, there is no other strange, but just right." The same applies to the use of talent: use it to the best advantage, just the right amount. When wisdom is wisdom, when stupid is stupid, stupid is also a kind of wisdom. If necessary, pretend to be an "imbecile", do a "confused person", are wise.
When a person encounters frustration, may be complaining about the cry - I am so talented, why did they fall into a poor, nothing to achieve the end? The sky is really unfair! Is God really unfair? No. It is because he does not know the basic rules of the world. It was all of his own making. When he faces defeat in life, should he not reflect on himself? Did he go too far? Is it that there is no one else in sight, that he is too prominent and ignores the feelings of all? Is it that he thinks he is so smart that everyone else is foolish? If a person reflects in this way, he can find the crux of the problem, and then treat the symptoms, and when the epiphany is clear, he will be truly mature!
Turning to the Twenty-Four Histories, we can easily find countless loyal officials and good generals who were killed by the villain's plotting and scheming. On the one hand, it is because the villain is too treacherous and cruel, on the other hand, why is it not because the victim does not understand the wisdom of the Jade S?lve's pearls? They were too ostentatious, too talented, and at the same time too arrogant to regard their colleagues around them, and it would be strange if such people did not lose their heads.
There is a saying in the Western world that "the French are smart enough to hide inside, and the Spanish are smart enough to show outside." The former is really smart, the latter is fake smart. In interpersonal communication, we must not be smart, we must learn to be really smart - do not only know the stretching do not know the curve; only know the advancement do not know the retreat; only know the self-expression, do not know to bide their time. In that case, even if we have a lot of talent, we will still be empty-handed!
Walking in the society, each of us should master this low-key stoicism. More thoughtful, less sharp, do not put the stomach of the "baby" like a bamboo tube as all out. If you don't understand this truth, there are more treasure in your belly, but also will eventually become someone else's bag!
Rabbits will bite when they are anxious, do not push your opponent to the brink of extinction
To weed out the evils of the world, to let him go a way. If you make one of them have nothing to accommodate, such as plugging the rat's hole, all the way to plug all the way, then all the good things are bitten through.
Eradicate evil, eliminate the villain, sometimes should leave them a way to reform. If you force the other party to have no foothold, it is like blocking all the exits that the mouse can escape, it will be in a desperate situation, all the good things will be chewed up for you.
Why is it that rabbits bite when they are anxious? You should know that rabbits are originally docile animals, and they will not fight back until they have to. But if it is pushed to the brink of extinction, it will inevitably throw its weight around!
It is because of this reason, the water dog can not fight, playing anxious will come up with you to fight. Poor enemy do not chase, because the beast is still fighting, dying, will cause unnecessary harm to you. Doing things to understand this basic common sense. Give the other side to leave a way out, you also benefit. Some people like to fall on the well, cut off all, the result, the opponent will never kill, their own foothold but more and more narrow.
During the Eastern Han Dynasty, general Dou Gu led an attack on the Xiong Nu. This Xiongnu cavalry, numbering only 500 men, darted in from the depths of the desert in order to take advantage of the fall harvest to rob the common people of their grain. But soon after they entered the pass, they were surrounded by Dou Gu's soldiers and horses in a valley. The Han army blocked the exits on both sides of the valley, yet after a dozen consecutive inward attacks, they failed to wipe out the measly 500 men. The Huns formed a circular formation and hid behind the rocks, constantly firing arrows outward, and the mouth of the valley lay covered with the bodies of Han soldiers.
Seeing this, Dou Gu ordered his men to remove the soldiers from one side of the exit, leaving the other side open. His men were puzzled: "General, the enemy army is surrounded by a heavy siege, so they can't fly out even if they put their wings on it! Besides, there are only a few hundred men! If we attack for a few more days, we can surely wipe them out! I wonder why you are letting them escape?" "Of course not to let them escape." Dou Gu said, "Now that they have no way to retreat, they are bound to move forward and fight to the death. Besides, the grass and trees in the valley are flourishing and there is plenty of water, so they can't be trapped. If we wear them out like this for a long time, even if our army wins a great victory in the end, we will have already suffered heavy casualties, that's why we have to let them out and cut them down in the chase."
The situation was just as Dou Gu expected, after this Xiong Nu troop escaped from the valley, seeing a way out, they desperately fled to the north as if they were birds of prey, their formation was scattered, their hearts were in turmoil, and nobody thought of turning back to fight with the Han army again. The Han cavalry led by Dou Gu then kept a certain distance behind them, constantly shooting with bows and arrows, and in less than a day, they wiped out this invading enemy.
The soldier who puts his life in danger. It's easy to understand that if we push the enemy to the brink of extinction and don't see any hope, they'll go for broke instead, and come to a dead end with us. At this time the enemy is a tiger, each backwater. We want to win the war is not so easy! Even if we win in the end, we have already paid a huge price and can not get any benefits.
In history, there are many examples of people who have been killed in battle. During the Spring and Autumn Period, the Yan general Le Yi sent troops to attack Qi, and only the city of Jimo was not captured. They surrounded the city and attacked it to death. At that time, the Qi army was on the verge of death, and suddenly Tian Dan, a famous general of Qi, raised his arm and shouted, "The country is about to die, how can we still have a home?" All the soldiers were determined to die for their country, and they recovered all the lost territory in one battle. Let's assume that if Yan's army had let the other side live when they attacked Jimo, they would have fled for their lives, and there would have been no morale at all. Even if they fought again in another place, the other side was like a bird in fear because of the experience of defeat, and it was the easiest enemy to deal with, which could be called the weakest link. The company's business is to provide the best possible service to its customers," he said.
The same is true in the business world. Mengniu president Niu Gensheng said: "Do not push your competitors to the brink of extinction, and do not easily provoke him ...... to damage a thousand people, since the depletion of eight hundred stupid things do not do!" Things are often so, when we are aggressive, the opponent forced to no way out of the time, often their own hair can not be rich, and will even lose all the money. This is because when the opponent has no way out, he is bound to give us a fatal blow with a frantic strategy like a rabbit stomping on a hawk! In this way, even if we defeat our opponent, we ourselves are also hurt badly. In that case, it would not be a victory, but rather an undefeated defeat.
Shanghai has a trading company boss, business is particularly powerful, the use of "big fish eat small fish" annexation strategy, the local large and small enterprises all eat into the belly, the formation of a local monopoly of the big group. One of his favorite poems is Mao Zedong's "It is better to pursue the poor and courageous than to learn from the king". He was ruthless and left no room for manoeuvre, so he expanded very quickly.
But this move has offended many people, especially those who have lost their current fortunes and have no chance of finding another way to make a living. In the company's business is booming, the reputation of the peak, some of his opponents were defeated by his collection of evidence of collusion between business and the Government in a certain investment, backdoor operation, reported to the Economic Investigation Department. This overbearing business empire, so in a moment collapsed.
The same reasoning applies to people in the world. We will always run into all kinds of people, many people may reveal weaknesses and mistakes, this time if you step by step, seize the mistakes of others to fight in the end, do not give a little face, but also do not give each other a little step down. In this way, the other side will go toe-to-toe with you, tearing the face of the fight to the end, either he died or you died! Between you not only can not do normal friends, may become a generation of enemies. This is very unfavorable to the expansion of your network circle, will seriously affect the development of your future career.
We must know "never push the opponent to the end of the road," the law of the world. For those who do not hurt the small error, should be generous to the other side of an adjustment to correct the space, if necessary, can even help each other to cover up a little. In this way, you reap not only the heartfelt gratitude, but also the crowd of die-hard support!