Glad to answer this question.
I'm wondering how happy you are to have a daughter in your first pregnancy and a son in your second! And to be depressed? How happy! Is your husband also willing to not be a son? You guys are so weird. It's hard for other families to have a boy and a girl. You've been blessed with a perfect match! Why two daughters? How young is the eldest? What does she know? I don't know what to do with her, but I'm sure she'll listen.
Hurry up and be happy! A son and a daughter to make a "good" word, you have not heard! You two have had a good day, congratulations! I'm not predestined, the truth is a girl and a boy, how nice! Why are you so against boys? Everything a boy has, a girl doesn't. When you grow up, you spend your money and your heart, and end up giving them away in a sedan chair. It's okay if you choose a good family, but if it's not as good as you'd like, you'll be upset! Even though women's rights are more prevalent nowadays, how many children take their mother's name? The first is the one with the mother's name, and the second is the one with the mother's name.
It's no use talking about it, but when the baby is born, you'll be able to call it "son, son, son," and it won't bother you anymore. Besides, they are all their own flesh, how can they still be depressed? Go ahead and be happy! Your husband won't be at home for long, and you'll be so happy to have a little man to protect your mother and sister! In the future you'll not only be a grandma, but a grandmother, too, how wonderful! What's the concept of "grandma"? It means that your family has taken over the household book, and you are in your son's family, no matter what the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is, it's your family. Grandma, on the other hand, is not, and it's hard to please.
I'm with my oldest grandson at the moment, he just fell asleep, less than two weeks old, tired and happy. My daughter-in-law is pregnant again, and we're both hoping for a girl, but I can't get bent out of shape. So I told my daughter-in-law that it's the same for both boys and girls, so we'll take whatever comes our way. In any case, the importation of a new member of the family is the best omen. Happiness comes suddenly and logically. How nice for you! Is it you? Or does your husband feel the same way? Your husband should want to have a boy, and it is not a family planning era, want a girl again!
Four months pregnant, you have to take care of your body, keep a good mood, and give birth to a healthy baby is a big deal. In the past, I've always advised people that a girl is good, but now that you've switched over, I don't know what to say. Anyway, I hope you think about it, male or female, it's life, it's a mother's favorite. You will give him your greatest mother's love, he will return you an unexpected world.
Not to mention that you can't guarantee that it will be a boy, and if it is a girl, you'll be lost. So like I said, a boy or a girl is the same, it's a living, breathing life that comes through your body, and you have no choice but to love it and take responsibility for it. Be obedient! Take good care of your body and wait for another new life to surprise you! (If the economic conditions do not allow, you can ask both parents for help, or they come to help bring up the child can also ah!)
The above is my answer, I don't know if it fits your situation? I'm not sure if this is the right answer for your situation.
This morning, I went to the grocery store to buy vegetables, and saw a young couple selling vegetables while looking at a pair of twin sons less than two years old, both of them were full of fatigue, but caused a lot of envy of the people who buy vegetables! I couldn't help but ask the young couple how they felt, and the young father said, "There's another daughter at home! These two are the second child, originally I only wanted a son, who knew that there were two of them in one go! Tired is a little tired, but also very good ah!"
I don't understand how you think? Nowadays, a lot of people who want to have a second child want to have a boy and a girl, and you have a daughter and you're pregnant with a son, so you should have been too happy to be happy! Your daughter is 5 years old, she should not have any knowledge of gender, she wants a sister but just a casual remark, I believe when she is a little older, she should prefer a younger brother. In addition, the birth of a boy or a girl is not a matter of who wants to be able to get what they want, God's gift, regardless of the man or woman should be happy to go on!
More than one child tired is sure, but with boys and girls have little to do, and then the experience of raising children, accompanied by the process of child growth is also a valuable experience and wealth of life, raising a boy and a girl will be a different experience, our life because of the children's companion to become more colorful, raising children is also in the achievement of their own, pay at the same time, harvest will be more than the same, but also the children will be more than the children's experience. While paying, you will gain more. Parents raise children small, children will certainly accompany their parents old, the cycle of life, the meaning of life is so, our parents are also so raised us, otherwise the human race could not have existed thousands of years!
Think about it, how lucky you are, how many people will envy you, and you will definitely be happy!
Don't be too anxious, in fact, think about it from another angle, you have two children, so lucky! Don't just think about the burden, the financial pressure, maybe this baby is the prosperous parents! When he is born, everything will go smoothly for your family, and the economy will go up a notch...More money will be spent, less money will be spent, as long as the family is safe and harmonious, it's good! Adjust your mindset, give your second baby a good pregnancy environment, don't wait for your second baby to be born and then go to chagrin shouldn't be sad during pregnancy, depression, let the second baby character affected! Come on, everything will be fine...
You're either going to make people think you're being pretentious by asking this question, or it's going to feel like you're announcing to everyone that you're carrying a son with your second child.Some of the more hypocritical people have daughters, and when they are pregnant with their second child, they are particularly stressed out and try to find ways to have a son.
However, after having a son, they will say all kinds of daughter is better than the son, and also in the treatment, let people look at the daughter is better than the son.
The purpose is not to let the daughter feel that there is a younger brother on her bad, mom and dad all the love to the younger brother, really think that this mom and dad when the good tired ah.
To know, this way, the son is getting older, will feel that parents to sister better, not good for themselves, although the daughter has also grown up, but, will feel that mom and dad to their own good is a matter of course, she will not care about the younger brother is good.
Back to the point, since you feel that the second child is a son, did not feel happy, but feel depressed, then you can not give birth to a child ah, anyway, to make a "good" word, and did not let you feel happy, but let you often depressed.
If you can tell the sex of your child at four months, then what else can you do?
So, since you have a daughter and a son, you should be happier, instead of saying that you wanted a daughter, and my daughter wanted a sister, but it turned out to be a son.
Lastly, although what you said will make people feel more emotional, I still hope that you can adjust your mindset, no longer depressed, and hope that your baby is safe and healthy for a lifetime.
The second pregnancy four months found a son, want to cry, and now still often depressed, how to do?
Thinking differently
A daughter, a son, you should feel happy, a child, a daughter, that's a good word. Most people who have a daughter are eager to have a son, and you have to think about the son is the successor. Anyway, the birth of a boy or girl these are in the moment of pregnancy to start to decide, not by the female decision, is determined by the male sex chromosomes, with fate, let nature take its course, as long as the child health on the good, more to the benefit of thinking.
Throw away the desire to continue to want a daughter
The brain should not be immersed in the I want a daughter to be a daughter, the daughter is the China Merchants Bank, the son is the construction bank, the daughter and the son of the inculcation of the education is also different, relaxation of the mood of the face, throw away the kind of negative thinking. In fact, the gender issue of whether you want a girl or a boy does not bother you per se, but the emotions that come with it make you lose yourself, and your negative emotions and thoughts are self-created. Therefore, eliminate negative thoughts and welcome the arrival of your second child well.
Shift your emotions and avoid stimuli.Listen to fetal music: Four months of the second child is a mid-pregnancy, you can listen to fetal music every night before going to bed, choose the piano music, the volume of the music do not put too much, 55 decibels.
Confession therapy: Find someone close to you to talk to, either a friend or a classmate or a friend of yours to tell you this idea, so that he can help you get rid of the confusion and get rid of the pain.
Exercise: moderate exercise, exercise the brain secretion of dopamine endopeptide substances, so that the inner calm down, pay attention to the combination of work and rest.
Diet: Mid-pregnancy dietary attention, avoid eating spicy stimulating greasy food, supplemental calcium and iron elements and protein food. Such as bananas, apples, walnuts, lean meat, beef, cherries, eggs, dairy products and so on. Eat well diet can also change your mood, reasonable collocation, nutritional balance.
Conclusion: the second child is a son should be happy, suggesting that they have a child with a daughter which is a very pleasant thing, keep the mood of the mood in order to give birth to a healthy and intelligent baby, do not think about the messy things, the normal heart.
Do not want to abort is, although their own flesh and blood is important, but compared to their own lives or life is important, after all, the stomach has not been born, so there will not be feelings, and now it is not born, you'll be depressed, and if the birth of the child, you and then nerves, holding the child jumped into a river, or something, and even their own lives and your baby girl are hitched, is not it? The loss is not worth the gain, so ah, life is just a few decades, or with their own will, do not like, do not want, do not condemn yourself!
If you're pregnant with a daughter, you're not depressed? The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new one, and you'll be able to do it in the morning. Daughter wants a sister you want to conceive a girl, if the daughter wants the moon is not to take the moon to her? Regardless of the girl boy you raise the child well, it is to be considered, pregnant with a boy shows that your destiny and his destiny, you do not adjust the mentality is actually nothing to find things to seek trouble.
I was the second child four months specifically to identify the gender, super want a daughter, there is a son, but the results of the second child is still a boy, then sad to cry out of the special disappointment, contacted the abortion is ready to abort, and then thought to look at his face again, do a four-dimensional ultrasound, saw his chin, suddenly feel the chin is so cute, and then went home. After the birth of a special surprise, white skin, good-looking, like a girl, now more than a year old, I give him to wear a small dress [cute], tie pigtails, surprisingly, even the neighbors across the street thought my family is a girl, go out, people say how about the little sister, I laughed and told people it was a little brother, they were surprised, completely unable to see. And he is very good, very good with me especially sticky, but also very smart, I do things he looked at the side, and then with me to learn, the learning ability is amazing, this is only 16 months, every day to help me sweep the floor to wash the clothes, but also rolled out the pasta, of course, is to help, every day to grab the hose to me to wash my feet, peeling their own eggs, as long as the music is played, and immediately began to dance, I will not dance at all, and he followed the square dancer to learn, I like him too much! I'm afraid that if I say it, someone will spray it. We are the odd ones out in other people's eyes.
I have a daughter, my husband does not want a second child, the daughter is more than a year old, accidentally have, then a bolt from the blue. I don't know how to describe it, just scared. I'm not sure how to describe it, I'm just scared. My mother-in-law helped me bring up my child, and she did a great job, and we got along just fine. But I was afraid that my second child would be a son. Really, we don't like sons, really. Don't spray me, my husband doesn't like son even more, I think in case it's a daughter, the two of us will grow up together and have someone to talk to, it's also quite good, but what if it's a son? We decided to have an abortion. The first time we went to the doctor said it was too early, so we waited until the embryo was about 40 days old. I cried on the way to the hospital because I was upset about what would happen if it was a daughter, and what if it was as cute as my firstborn. Then I thought, "What if it's a son? I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to get a good deal on this.
I think it's strange that we as a couple think this way. We just want to give all the love to one. Before I gave birth, my husband said that if I had a daughter, I wouldn't have any more, and if I had a son, I would have a daughter until I had a daughter. He just loves daughters. And, I think for myself, I don't want to be a mother-in-law, super not. I would like to help my daughter with the baby. I'm a bit controlling at times, and if I have a son, I'm sure I won't be able to get along with my daughter-in-law, and the family won't be able to get along.
I'm just talking about my own experience. I don't want to have a child, you must do a good job of measures, I experienced this time, my husband consulted a few hospitals, can you do male sterilization surgery. It seems to be a bit of side effects as well. I didn't agree. My husband loves me very much. Our family is very good. Just a personal experience, there are really not wishing to have two children in this world.
You can be really pretentious, not I say you, how many people want to get together a "good", are not looking forward to, you are also depressed, the child on your home, you have to treat him well, do not do anything stupid, there are countless people are envious of you! Do the wrong thing, regret a lifetime, the world has no regrets, by the way, there are also born out of male flopping female, so you'd better continue, let nature take its course, God has its own arrangements, good luck!