How to get the other party to contact you actively after breaking up?

Remember, after breaking up, whether you want to contact each other or get back together comes from the second attraction. How to achieve secondary attraction, we must first master these three methods:

First: reduce emotional needs and reduce contradictions between the two sides. When you have a higher sense of demand, you lose the initiative. On the contrary, when your sense of demand is lower, the initiative is in your hands, which is my most nervous time. When you show a strong sense of demand, it means that your value is low. If you want to save your love, you should divert your attention. You should have your own pace of life, such as traveling, reading, learning to cook, doing more things you like and trying new things. Avoid doing something that causes the other person's disgust, which will cause more contradictions between you. So don't be aggressive and reduce possible conflicts between the two sides.

Second, leave room for both sides, enhance their own value, learn to give each other more time and space, and properly use theoretical skills. Being with each other all the time will only add more pressure to each other and make them rationalize your breakup. So, don't keep pestering each other, but attract each other again with your charm. Enhance your own value, understand each other's needs, and make your own changes become each other's needs. For example, make a brand-new change in appearance and improve your own shortcomings. Broaden the circle of friends, cultivate temperament and enrich life. Let the other person feel fresh about you and contact you actively.

Third: create opportunities to attract each other again and attract each other again. Don't take the initiative to contact each other when you are not talking, but you can attract each other's attention through the display of your circle of friends. How to show high value in the circle of friends? Make life interesting, do more things you like and try new things. Going to places that the other person wants to go but has never been to, taking beautiful photos and showing them in a circle of friends will arouse the other person's interest. If she wants to know your recent situation, she will often contact you on her own initiative.

You should learn to look at yourself and improve yourself. Reduce the sense of demand, reduce the contradiction between the two sides, enhance your charm, and let the other side contact you actively, and the chances of recovery will be greatly improved.

I'm Zhou Xiaopeng, the psychological counselor and emotional mentor of Love Wars. Please contact me if you have any emotional problems!