Previously in a company, know a lecturer.
I remember the first time I saw her, she was on the podium, glowing and eloquent look, really fascinated me.
Listening to colleagues, she is the company's gold medal lecturer, responsible for the training of newcomers, the boss especially valued her, and our age difference.
Later, after slowly getting acquainted, I asked her this question: "Look at you every day is very happy, there is nothing to worry about?"
She was slightly stunned, just for a moment, as if touching something sad, smile frozen in the face, and then told me a thing:
When I was in junior high school, one day she received a bad news, her brother died on the spot in a car accident.
She couldn't have imagined that her brother, who was still alive and kicking before she went to school, would go away without even saying goodbye, so quietly.
She could never accept that her handsome and doting brother would be separated from her from now on. Her heart was like a knife, tears blurred her vision.
That day, the sun was especially big, shining so brightly that people couldn't open their eyes, and in her heart, there was one more piece of shadow since then.
She thought the sky had fallen when her brother left.
But that wasn't the case, and everything around her was functioning normally.
Children were running around, playing and fighting. Adults were talking, and the streets were filled with cars and horses.
For a long time, she was in pain. Until one day, a look up to see her mother's head and quietly added a few white hairs, she realized that her mother should be more than their own sad. Now that she is the only daughter left in the family, she wants her mother to forget the past and be happy.
Since then, she swept away the sad expression of the past, and became a girl who loves to smile.
When others were surprised by her change, she always told them that life is so short that a day is a day to be happy and a day to be sad. Why can't we make ourselves happy to face every day!
Writer Liu Liangcheng wrote in A Man's Village: "We can't see all the snow that falls on a person's life. Everyone spends the winter alone in his own life."
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There is an episode of China Dream Show that I am very impressed with.
The main character, named Gao Yifeng, used to run an entertainment center, and at the height of his success, he had as many as 1,000 employees on his hands.
Later, due to poor management, the capital chain broke, and overnight white head.
He sang the song "Starting Over" on the stage:
All the honors of yesterday have become distant memories.
Half a lifetime of hard work and toil has been spent, and tonight we are walking into the storm again.
......
The song was sung, and the audience couldn't help but tear up.
After he finished singing on stage, he took his wife's hand and said to her while shedding tears: "All these years, I'm very grateful to my wife, no matter how poor or rich, she has always been by my side, never leaving me."
The judges asked his wife: "When Mr. encountered such a big setback in life, how did you accompany him?"
His wife replied: "During that time, I often encouraged him that life has its ups and downs, and if you have the chance, you will get back on the stage, because I think my husband is the best."
You get in, I'll be born with you.
You retreat, I accompany you to take care of your life.
You lose, I will accompany you to rise again.
You win, I will accompany you to the world.
After the bankruptcy of Gao Yifeng, in order to pay off the debt, ran a motorcycle, drove a cab, and now is the owner of a baozi store.
There is a line in "Thumping Heart" that says: "Some people live in high buildings, some in deep ditches, some have a lot of light, and some have a lot of rust.
If this moment is the trough of your life, do not hesitate, do not despair. You have to believe that every step you take now is a stepping stone to the future, all in the upward.
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One day, walking in the square, not far from the song attracted me.
It was a group of disabled people in concert, and one of the men caught my eye.
If you just look at the upper body only, it was a sunny, healthy and handsome man. He sang well, was eloquent, wore a pair of glasses, and had a gentlemanly demeanor.
I don't know why, but I feel sorry for him because he doesn't have a lower body. He walks entirely with one hand slowly moving the two square pieces of wood underneath him.
I even thought that if he was a normal person, he would have done something, but there is no if in life, only the cruel reality and results.
In the breaks, he didn't forget to interact with the audience and tell them about his life.
When he was 13 years old, at a very naughty age, he was climbing the train, and accidentally fell from it, losing both legs.
For a long time, he was in a state of loneliness, autism, depression, and even thought of ending his life.
He always regretted his behavior and silently asked God why such an unlucky thing happened to him and not to others.
After a long period of self-struggle and self-redemption, he finally decided that he could not go on like this.
He wants to go out and live his life. Life is so short, there are just too many things to do.
Since there are no more feet, then use your hands to measure the width of the world.
Relying on the perseverance, and the love of the good people, they sang all the way through most of the provinces in China.
He said he never dared to imagine this before, and at that moment I saw the light coming out of his resolute gaze.
In the world, this is each person snow, each person has their own obscure and bright.
Haruki Murakami said: Despite the difficulties at the moment, this experience may bear fruit later.
In the adult world, there is no easy word. In addition to life and death, life also comes with all kinds of accidents, an unintentional choice or accident, will make you fall into the bottom, the collapse of the army.
There is a classic line in the movie The Return of the Child:
Be the person you want to be,
There is no time limit on this matter, as long as you want, when can start.
You can change from now on, or you can stay the same.
In this case, there are no rules.
You can live your best life, or you can mess it up.
I want you to live your best life,
I want you to see things that amaze you,
I want you to experience emotions you haven't experienced before,
I want you to meet people who think differently,
and I want you to be proud of your life.
And if you find that you can still do it,
I hope you have the courage to
start over and start over again.