Especially the quarrel between young couples, it's no big deal, but once the in-laws intervene, it's endless. Think about it from another angle. Other girls marry to live with you, not to be angry with your family. What is the meaning of marriage? Is to leave their families and start a new family. Instead of forcing one party to integrate into the other's family. Of course, separation is not only these reasons, but also three reasons, which you will understand after reading.
0 1, reducing the burden on parents. If you live with your parents and have children, usually after the full moon, many families will give them to the elderly. Originally, parents are old, and after their children get married, they should enjoy retirement. But in order to reduce their burden, we should not only take care of the children, but also add our own pension and pension to them. If parents live by themselves, they will have enough time to spend their old age. They can dance square dance with friends and go out for a trip. This is the life they should live.
The way old people educate their children is not desirable. From my point of view, I can't accept the way that my children take care of themselves and the older generation educate their children. Being grandparents makes it easier to spoil bad children, so they are simply grandfathers. There is absolutely nothing wrong with old people loving children. But for the sake of children's future education and growth, I think it is better to give him certain norms. Parents should always get used to respect, it is impossible not to live together, and it is impossible not to like it. Everything should proceed from reality. If all conditions are right, it is better to live separately.
03, easily lead to more family conflicts. When two generations live together, there will definitely be a big generation gap, but it cannot be said that anyone's concept is completely correct. So there will be contradictions between the two generations. For example, some children like to pursue quality life, but parents will think it is too extravagant. Some parents always like to eat overnight meals, but children think it is unhealthy. Parents are used to going to bed early and getting up early, while children like to stay up late and want to sleep late on weekends. Parents will say that they are too lazy, and eventually all kinds of contradictions will arise because of their parents' verbosity.
Finally, some people think that not living with parents is unfilial. I don't think so. We can look back at those families where four generations live together, and how many children and grandchildren live together. Therefore, cohabitation is not necessarily happiness, and not cohabitation does not mean unfilial. Unless parents are too old to take care of themselves and need to live together, it is better not to live together. As long as children can find a more "harmonious" way to arrange their parents' old age, as long as they really think of you, then parents really don't need to ask to live with their children.