We used to envy other people's children, but now we also envy other people's moms.
We are all familiar with the founder of Tesla, Musk.
But his mom is no ordinary cow.
I, too, recently read his mother's biography, Life by Me, and couldn't help but marvel at the fact that what goes around comes around.
Meyer Musk made her debut at 15, got married at 22, became a broke single mom at 31, then moved around to multiple cities in 3 countries to launch her own business, and independently raised 3 wonderful children while earning 2 master's degrees.
She returned to modeling in her 60s, becoming popular as her hair turned gray;
at age 69, her image dominated four billboards in Times Square.
She's a 72-year-old Internet sensation and an inspirational icon to many women. She may be best known as the "Iron Man of Silicon Valley" and the mother of Tesla's founder, Elon Musk, but she's also the queen of her own life, Mayer Musk. Meyer Musk.
To outsiders, she's beautiful, smart, free-spirited, powerful, and a successful woman with a full head of gray hair.
Today I combined with the book, summarize her "life by me" of the ten points of experience:
1, act first
The earlier the action, the less pain. It's important to fight a war of movement against life's challenges, and no matter what, don't sit in a mud pit and cry, "act first."
Moving forward: Starting over may be the best solution. 48 years old, in order to pass the U.S. exams, she had to start studying on her own again. At the time she was suffering from severe sciatica, so she stopped all socializing. But even though it hurt so much that she could only lie down and study, she persevered.
2. Don't complain
If you like to complain, then you can start to try to change from now on, otherwise, when you get old, you can only continue to spend the rest of your life in the resentment.
For example, she mentions: Embrace being 71 and make every decade of your life better than the last.
3. Stick with exercise
Stick with exercise: listen to your body and don't put it in pain.
4. Make relationships and connections
Good relationships are good for physical and mental health. When we take care of each other, everyone benefits.
Seek help and support from others. Asking for help is a very basic survival skill, and asking for help is networking, building trust and connecting with more people.
5, keep confidence
The author, even at seventy years old, can still be a supermodel catwalk, as long as it is a woman, she will always be on their own here or there is not satisfied. But here's the truth: People only focus on the best parts of you. So go ahead and be confident.
Women need to be confident, go after what they want, and not worry too much.
You need to know how to be kind to others, learn to listen, always be optimistic, and avoid talking about your sob story. As long as you show confidence, respect for others, and curiosity, along with a smile, you can be a very attractive person.
6. Stay as positive as you can
Stay as positive as you can: you'll go through many strikes and you'll recover faster and faster. Remember, time is the cure for everything.
Have a good mindset, be good at making plans, and take risks. Focus on your next step, everyone has the ability to escape from adversity. No matter how bleak everything seems, there is always light ahead.
7, make yourself interesting
We need to look forward and learn to please yourself, if you can do to talk about humor, tone of voice, but also know the art of self-deprecation, you will become more interesting.
Try to have a sense of humor and don't be overly sensitive to what others say.
8. The best education is by example
The most useful education for your children is to show them that you're trying to be a better version of yourself.
When children are young, teach them that what they want, they have to take the initiative to fight for. Kids will benefit greatly from having enough independence to survive.
Know how to be a resilient working mom: there's no need to be overprotective of your children, which will only cause them to be disconnected from reality and responsibility.
Let your kids take care of themselves while staying safe.
9. The harder you work, the luckier you get
If you weren't born into the world, you need to find your talent and work hard.
Go after what you want. There is no absolute yes, but if you don't ask for it, the answer is definitely no.
If you're not born with a gift, you need to find it and work hard.
To force yourself to make the right choices, you need to make a plan. Meditate and spend 30 minutes a day remembering happy times.
10. Comfort is not a necessity in life
Step out of your comfort zone. Getting out of your comfort zone means there may be great opportunities!
Always be hopeful and focused on life, and you'll be excited by it.
No matter how bleak everything seems, there is always light ahead. If it's just too dark, then let yourself become a light.
The case of Meyer Musk's life also illustrates this point. A true winner is neither a "sweetie" nor a whiner, neither blindly optimistic nor self-pitying, but someone who is courageous enough to tackle all the challenges one by one in a calm manner. Her story, as Aurelius wrote in Meditations, "The art of living is more like wrestling than like dancing."
Aging has its dividends. Life is also an anti-fragile system. As one ages, one's self-awareness becomes more accurate, and one's ability to recover from failure is supposed to become stronger. You will experience many blows, but you will also recover faster and faster. Life is all about ups and downs, like riding a roller coaster, up will always be exciting and down will be like hell.
So stay as positive as you can.
Make every decade of your life better than the last.