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Two days ago, my friend called and cried that she had recently talked about a boyfriend. The young man is nice, with high academic qualifications, good looks and good family conditions. But with the in-depth communication between the two, she found that the boy had been talking to his mother, and his psychological feeling was not mature. Will she meet a "baby boy"? So, is it necessary for them to develop?
I said, yes, I can be 90% sure. However, you have to decide whether to continue to develop. I'm just a suggestion
Speaking of Ma Baonan, there are many such examples in life. Of course, Ma Bao male is not just a new phenomenon in recent years. Looking through our history textbooks, such people can be seen everywhere.
What is a "baby boy"? Simply put, Ma Baonan refers to a man who listens to his mother and takes his mother as the center. Although the body has reached the standard of adults, it has never been weaned psychologically and has a serious sense of dependence on its mother.
So how to judge a person as a "baby boy"? There are several characteristics here:
First of all, everything is up to my mother, or what my mother is like. If you meet a boy who is talking to you or working with you, he always says my mother, and he always uses his mother as a shield, without his own opinions and opinions. This is a very important feature of Mama Baby Boy.
Secondly, I like being with my mother, and there are no taboos in front of my mother. Most horse-haired men are so dependent on their mothers that they can't even take care of themselves. In their eyes, mother is tied to herself and is absolutely inseparable. Such people have no taboos in front of their mothers, such as being naked and naked, sleeping with their mothers and so on.
Finally, the spirit is not independent, lack of autonomy, no matter right or wrong, all obey the wishes of parents. The vast majority of "Ma Maonan" do not have the psychological quality that adults should have, and the impact on people is generally a lack of self-determination and self-confidence. When it happened, Nuo Nuo was the only one. Whether things are right or wrong, good or bad, my mother is right. I dare not refute them or put forward my own opinions.
If the person you meet has the above characteristics, then it is certain that he is a "baby boy".
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So, in the face of "Ma Baonan", what should female friends do?
If you are not married and still in love, there are two ways to deal with it:
First, stay away as soon as possible. In the case that your two feelings have not developed in depth, end this relationship as soon as possible, and don't waste energy and time then, in exchange for endless pain and disappointment. You should know that such a man will not only bring you happiness in life, but also dilute your emotional hot pillow, so that the two of them will go their separate ways in the end.
Second, if you really can't live without him and can't let go of this relationship, then you must learn to "transform him".
How to transform? Then you need to use your "intelligence". Simply put, we can start with the characteristics of "Ma Baonan". The vast majority of these people rely heavily on their hearts, showing a lack of opinions, dare not make decisions, and have low self-confidence. Our female friends can bypass the "male treasure mother" and let him make his own decisions and put forward his own views and opinions. This is a good way to encourage and comfort them.
If you are married, then the key to the problem lies in the "male treasure mother".
Your mother-in-law is the key to the normalization of your marriage. And your homework is how to get along with your mother-in-law, so as to resolve her mother-in-law's "control" over her husband. Here are some key points you can refer to:
First of all, we should understand our mother-in-law and think from her standpoint.
If there are contradictions and conflicts between you, communication is the best solution, not a cold war. What you have to do is to know more about her inner thoughts and see if things can turn around from her point of view. In fact, many problems are caused by poor communication. You should talk more "soft words" instead of confronting her, so that you can take the initiative to solve the contradiction.
Second, distract her.
Many "baby mothers" are either single-parent families, or the relationship between husband and wife is not smooth, or she can't get love and warmth in life and work, so she transfers this emotion to her children, hoping to fill her emotional deficiency.
So, all you have to do is take her attention away from her husband. The practical way is to find something for her to do, such as giving birth early, so that she can turn her attention to her grandchildren, or drag her to participate in senior clubs, dance square dances and travel more. This is also a breakthrough.
Finally, play the role of your own hostess.
The so-called role of your hostess is not to force her to do things according to your will, but to guide and guide her. You should let her know that you are not here to take care of her son, but to take care of him with her. You have the ability and confidence to take good care of this family and her son. Please rest assured that she will give herself "power".
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The emergence of "Ma Baonan" is influenced by our historical and cultural traditions and the "one-child" policy. How to look at it, there are both his internal and external causes.
The majority of female friends, in the face of their love and marriage, should carefully screen and consider in many ways, and don't let "Ma Baonan" delay themselves or let him ruin our own lives. Although love is beautiful, it is not easy to meet the right person, but it can't put your future in question, can it?
Of course, Ma Baonan is not terrible, but you need patience and wisdom to help them grow up, so that you can gain happiness.
Finally, all love in this world is for gathering, only maternal love is for separation. Therefore, maternal love is great because she gives selflessly, but she doesn't want to return. I hope you, Ma Bao, can really understand and dare to let go.
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