In 2018, Ajiao and Lai Hongguo got married, and many people wished, "Ajiao finally stepped out of the shadow of racy photos." But their marriage only lasted a dozen months.
Recently, Ajiao was asked in an interview, "Is there any wiggle room in this marriage?" She said firmly, "No." After a while, she added: "I will not get married again, there is no need."
Looking back at the two decades since her debut, falling in love and getting married used to be her biggest obsession, but after going through some things, she realized that she could do better on her own.
When Ajiao was one year old, her father died. Her mother worked hard to earn money outside and didn't have the energy to take care of her, so she had to leave her in the care of others, sometimes sending her to her grandfather's house, sometimes paying strange families to provide Ajiao with three meals. Only on weekends did she take Ajiao back.
Ajiao has lived in Tai Kok Tsui, Mong Kok, Sha Tin, Yuen Long, Ngau Tau Kok and Sham Shui Po. She has moved from one kindergarten to another, and has not made a single good friend.
Ajiao said that some adults like to knock her on the head, and some adults always compare her with other children, saying that her grades and looks are not good, making her feel like an ugly duckling. But her mother didn't believe her.
She thought to herself, "Later, when I get married and become a mother, I will give the next generation a happy childhood."
At the age of nineteen, Ajiao was discovered by a talent scout and worked as a model for magazines and advertisements. Soon after, her mother signed her up for the Supernova contest organized by Emperor.
She wasn't interested in the competition, but her mother thought that entering the entertainment industry would be a good way to make money. She couldn't resist her mother, so she obeyed and entered the competition. Before the competition even became official, she was spotted by her boss and signed.
When she first came to Emperor, she practiced singing and dancing every day, and only had one or two performances occasionally. There were a lot of newcomers at that time, and she didn't know when she could make a name for herself.
Until one day, she befriended a girl named Asa. They became friends and often traveled together. Some people said they looked similar and others mistook them for twins.
Chapman Fok felt that Ajiao was a cold beauty and Asa was the girl next door, which happened to be complementary, and simply put them together into a girl group - "Twins".
The company launched a school love song for them, "Ming Love and Secret Love Tutorial Club", "Girls' School Boys" and "Love is bigger than life", positioning them as campus idols. The album sold well, and others said, "Their youthful and cute image is like a dry wafer cookie."
A year after their debut, the girls held a concert at Hong Kong's Hung Hom Coliseum, becoming the youngest singers to make it to the stage in the history of Hung Hom. Ajiao told the audience, "All this time my self-confidence wasn't very strong, but you guys showed me that I can do it!"
Because of her bad childhood experiences, Ajiao longed for love and a happy family. Despite her company's disapproval, she embarked on an underground romance with Chen Guanxi.
In 2001, when Chen Guanxi appeared in Twins' music video "Girls' School Boys", he was already with Ajiao, but very few people knew about their relationship except for a few close friends in the circle.
They seldom saw each other because of their work, but Chen Guanxi was very good at coaxing people, even if it was just a short message, it could make Ajiao very happy.
But they often fought over small things, and after they broke up, Chen Guanxi looked for other girlfriends, while Ajiao would wait to get back together again. The two split back and forth for five years.
In 2002, when Ajiao and Yu Wenle worked together on One Lick of Cane, Chan played around with other girls. Yu wanted to pursue Ajiao, and Chan was angry when he found out. They exchanged insults over Ajiao and almost fought during the Power Song Golden Melody Awards.
Asa disliked Chan and said he was not good enough. Agent Chloe Fok also told Ajiao that Chen Guanxi is a person she can't follow. But Ajiao is stuck in love and can't listen to anything.
Chen Guanxi let Ajiao shoot private photos, she asked, "How do you deal with it? Will there be risks?" Chen Guanxi said: "You can rest assured that no one will see. I am also in the photo inside well." Ajiao worried about not taking pictures will break up, agreed.
At that time, Emperor's positioning of Ajiao, is a naive young girl, let her sing school love songs, children's programs, refused to shoot kissing scenes, but also advise young people to be more careful in life style.
But the truth is, she's been out of the student life for a long time, and in 2005, when she went to Taiwan to promote her Mandarin album, she was still dressed as a student. Ajiao told the company, "Can I stop playing a student, I feel like I'm already old." The company said, "No."
Thinking about those intimate photos, Ajiao felt like they were a ticking time bomb.
The classmates love fresh Love is larger than life
Do you want to miss it day and night Even the sweet dreams are not sweet enough
Of course, now I'm not a teenager, so I'm shallow, I only know that love is larger than life
Forgot the beneficial motto automatically swept in front of his eyes
-- "Love is larger than life"
.In early 2008, when the racy photo incident occurred, Ajiao first called Chen Guanxi, wanting to get his explanation and comfort, but how can not get through. At that time, the two had already broken up.
Ajiao didn't know what to do and asked her company for help. In order to maintain her image as a jade girl, the company affirmed that the photos were photoshopped, and took out fake hospital tests, claiming that Ajiao was still a virgin. The company's poor PR has led to even more backlash.
Ajiao hid in her house and didn't go out, pulling the curtains shut at all hours of the day and night: "It's like I've got no privacy left, and everything's out for people to see." Her family hides her computer from the news. But she couldn't resist surfing the web on her cell phone, and the abuse on the internet made her even more devastated.
While she was hiding, the media hounded Asa to ask about the racy photos. No matter how Asa answered, the media distorted the facts. The media said the biggest beneficiary of this incident is Asa. In the past, everyone said Ajiao is more beautiful, this time Asa can finally step on Ajiao to get to the top.
Ajiao decided to come forward to hold a press conference: "Twins is a combination, I hide and ignore this matter, everyone is chasing after Asa, which is unfair to her."
Before attending the press conference, she was under a lot of psychological pressure, in order to prevent herself from breaking down on the spot, she took half a sedative pill in advance. However, when she arrived at the scene, she looked at the countless flashing lights, her heart is still afraid.
Cecilia Cheung scolded Chen Guanxi "cat crying mouse fake mercy" to get support, Ajiao said "very stupid and naive" only to harvest ridicule. In the past, the Emperor set up for her image of the jade completely collapsed, people scolded her: "slut do not know how to check."
Ajiao was aggrieved because she never labeled herself as a jade girl.
Ajiao was criticized by the outside world, Ajiao was so depressed that she couldn't help but lose her temper with her current boyfriend, Juno Mak.
Many people thought that Mak would break up with Ajiao, but Mak was unrelenting, speaking out in support of Ajiao, and trying to protect her from public opinion by buying out Ajiao's agency contract for HK$100 million.
But when Ajiao appeared on the program, the host asked her, "Who is the most preferred boyfriend you have dated?" Ajiao thought about it, but answered, "Chen Guanxi." Juno Mak was so disappointed that he broke up with Ajiao.
Ajiao lost her boyfriend and many job opportunities. Because of the racy photos, the movie "Hibiscus" in which she acted could not be released, the scenes of "Mei Lanfang" were cut, and the Twins concert was canceled.
In May 2008, Wenchuan earthquake. Ajiao and Asa performed for a disaster relief campaign, resulting in the TV station receiving more than 300 letters of complaint. "I've done my best, people want to complain about me and find me annoying, I can't help it." Ajiao was disheartened and told her company to take a year off.
After that, she had thoughts of lightening her life for a while: "I couldn't see my future, the only thing I could do was to end my life." But on second thought, she thought that if she died, the problem would fall on those around her. "How will Asa bear the pressure of public opinion? And who will secure the lives of her mother and grandfather?" So she dismissed the idea of suicide.
After thinking calmly, she encouraged Asa to fly solo: "I'm afraid I'm dragging you down. A Sa immediately cried: "I don't want to hear you say the word drag again, there is no drag between good sisters not drag."
Later, the company let Asa first send an album by herself, she refused, saying, "I don't want to, I want to wait for Ajiao to come back together." Ajiao repeatedly insisted, Asa only reluctantly released a personal single. But those singles, singing Ajiao's story.
"Two short of one" is the thoughts of Ajiao: "Every night back home, fast half disabled body, sleep bed can not sleep, distractions come and go, often still remember you, the past **** you together." Survivor" is the accusation of Chen Guanxi: winning you, hobbies love to collect, to four out of the hunt, love couples to you, when the interesting collection, to be more not to give up, your treasure trove, there are all kinds of exhibits how to rival, did not stop to take up, seems to be strange behavior can be despicable."
In Asa's encouragement, Ajiao seriously study acting, kung fu, dancing and singing, and wait for the storm to pass before going on stage. She said, "I want to get my dignity back."
In 2010, Ajiao and Sa came back to the Hong Kong Coliseum for the "Everybody Pop Up" concert.
Ajiao said: "There are many different tests in life, but I've been very open, and I don't think about the unhappy things anymore. We want to use our own actions to prove that people can not only stand up in the face of adversity, but also play higher than before."
She then sang "Two Missing One," which she wrote when Sa was solo. Sa said, "Now it's two in one!"
Because of this fiasco, Ajiao unexpectedly broke free from the shackles of being a jade girl and widened her path after her comeback, starring in the movie "Degree of Ex" and receiving critical acclaim for her acting.
One day, Ajiao in the plane met Chen Guanxi, the two were sitting in front of and behind the seat, Ajiao do not know how to face him, immediately with the stewardess proposed to change the location.
Chen Guanxi heard, on the plane wrote a very long letter of apology to her. Ajiao said, "A belated letter of apology is better than none, it's all a comfort to me."
After the photo affair, many people asked Ajiao: "Do you still believe in love? Do you still long for marriage?"
She said, "I believe. I want to find someone who is willing to tolerate my past to get married."
But the outside world is still reluctant to turn the page, Ajiao do live broadcast, the pop-up screen are brushing the screen Chen Guanxi, even De Yunshe also made fun of them:
He ah, since childhood, pampered.
What is pampered?
Ajiao born, Chen Guanxi raised.
Ajiao, regardless of the outside world's flirtation with her, still longs for love and family. At a friend's party, she met Korean-American Quan Ningyi. He was ordinary looking but very considerate to Ajiao, and the two soon became boyfriend and girlfriend.
Once Ajiao was admitted to the hospital with acute appendicitis, she was in so much pain that she couldn't move, and Quan Ningyi stayed by her side to take care of her. Ajiao was touched.
After recovering, Ajiao and Quan Ningyi traveled around. In order to accompany him back to South Korea to visit his parents, Ajiao canceled a commercial show and lost millions of dollars in performance fees. In order to help his career development, she also from the middle of the line, so that he became Emperor's Korean artist agent.
Many people thought Ajiao would get married, but Han Ningyi cheated on a Korean trainee, and the romance ended. Ajiao empty window for a few years are not in love.
In 2016, Ajiao in the program "the temptation of the meal", said: "I do not want to find a boyfriend, I want to find a marriage partner. After fifteen years in the industry, I don't want to take care of someone else, I want to find someone to take care of me."
The following year, she was introduced to her new boyfriend, Lai Hongguo, by Su Mingshin.
She asked Lai Hongguo to buy her a late-night snack, and Lai Hongguo immediately sent her favorite lo mein. Ajiao look at the inside without large intestine, pretending to be angry, said: "This is not at all haloumi." Later again to buy, Lai Hongguo will not forget to ask the boss to increase the large intestine.
No matter where Ajiao shooting, where the concert, Lai Hongguo will try to rush to accompany her. Lai Hongguo said, "After listening to you for so many LOL, I still can't get tired of listening to you, you are such a good actor, singer, artist. i not only love you y, but also a big fan of you."
One time when the two went out, Lai was afraid of heights but agreed to accompany Ajiao to skydive together from 4,000 feet. In that moment, Ajiao felt so romantic. She believed that this man was willing to pay for himself and decided to marry him.
Ajiao said, "I'm not getting any younger and I don't want to spend time dating. I've never met anyone as sweet and nice to me as he is."
Three months after they met, the two went to the United States to play in Hawaii, Ajiao suddenly said to Hongguo Lai, "Why don't we buy a ring and get married?" Lai Hongguo heard, backward breath.
He wanted to marry Ajiao, but the proposal was too sudden. To make matters worse, the balance on his card was not enough to pay for the proposal ring that Ajiao had chosen. Lai Hongguo had to call his company's accountant to have the money wired to his card.
Shortly afterward, Ajiao took to the internet to show off her engagement ring. A netizen, who claimed to be the computer repairman who broke the news of the "racy photos", said, "After nine years, you finally got married. I'm sorry for you."
After the announcement of the wedding, their contradictions gradually appeared.
Ajiao likes anything, not looking at the price at all, just look at it and buy it. One time Lai Hongguo let Ajiao randomly swipe his card, the result is that Ajiao swiped a lot of money. The company's newest addition to its portfolio of products is a new, more sophisticated, and more affordable way to get the most out of the company's newest product.
Ajiao want to buy a bag, Lai Hongguo said: "I did not expect it to be so expensive, so small a bag can not be loaded." Ajiao want to buy a suitcase, Lai Hongguo said: "Not yet bad why buy?"
Ajiao reflecting on their own is not doing wrong, in order to improve the relationship between the two, she kept buying watches, clothes to Lai Hongguo, but was rejected by Lai Hongguo.
Since then, she would peek at Lai Hongguo before buying anything, and if he showed a difficult face, she did not dare to buy: "I used to like the brand is more expensive, but I use my own money, I work so hard to earn money, it's okay to spend it, but now I will be concerned about his feelings."
What is more difficult for Ajiao is that the outside world does not look at her marriage.
Some people say Lai Hongguo has a complicated love history. He cheated on Zhao Xiaowei when he was dating the former "black asthma club beauty" Anji. After registering his marriage to Zhao Xiaowei, he divorced due to cheating. Lai Hongguo's ex-wife shouted at Ajiao, "Grief is cyclical." Ajiao came out and responded, "Everyone has a past, we tolerate each other."
Some people flirted with Lai Hongguo plastic surgeon's career, but also said that his body is blossoming, and Ajiao does not match. Ajiao again came out to speak for him: "You guys don't talk about him like that. If it was me who saw it would have laughed it off, he's very mindful of it."
Ajiao tried her best to defend Lai Hongguo, but on the day of the pre-wedding party, she suddenly felt so tired and her attitude became cold. Lai asked her, "What's wrong with you?" She said, "I regretted it, I didn't love you very much, and I don't think I'm fit for marriage."
They had a long discussion, and Ajiao decided to try to go on.
When preparing for the wedding, Lai Hongguo was going to invite ten people, and Ajiao invited eighty. Lai Hongguo was under a lot of pressure, thinking, "How can someone get married to the point of almost bankruptcy?" But he still insisted on it, for Ajiao to hold the grand marriage in her heart.
On the wedding day, there were stars such as Asa, Simon Yam, Zheng Xiyi, Kathy Sit, and Mr. and Mrs. Chilam Cheung who gave their blessings to them.
Philip Lai said, "We had a star-studded grand wedding in Hong Kong, something I never thought of in my life." Ajiao choked up during her speech, "It's so hard for me to come this far."
After getting married, Ajiao suddenly realized that the long-awaited married life, as if it is not what he imagined.
Ajiao urged Hongguo Lai to have children, but Lai felt that it would be good to conceive naturally. Ajiao likes to stay at home, but Lai Hongguo always urges her to go out and exercise. Ajiao likes cute dolls, but Lai puts up scary insect specimens in the living room.
Ajiao is a hoarder and buys a lot of skincare products and block toys, piling up the house, but Lai Hongguo is a clean freak and prefers a minimalist style, hoping that there will be no unnecessary things in the house.
Every time he came back from a business trip, he saw his home changed, and would say to Ajiao: "Can you put away the big blocks?" Ajiao said, "I worked so hard to put them together, why should I put them away?"
Hongguo Lai was also unhappy with Ajiao, because after the marriage, many media wrote about his blackmail on the Internet, saying that he dragged Ajiao to look at the house, so that she could buy it for him. He felt wronged and told Ajiao, "I feel so hard with you."
Over the years, Ajiao's standards for choosing a spouse have been lowered.
After Chen Guanxi, she said, "Just no bad habits, and spend the rest of your life in peace." After Quan Ningyi, she said, "I'm not young, I want to find an honest man to marry." Then later, she said, "I want to get married, how come no one has married me yet?"
Little did she realize that after marrying Lai Hongguo, she still didn't reap the rewards of the life she wanted. Soon after, the news of Ajiao's divorce came to light.
Some people said that Lai Hongguo cheated on his wife, which led to the breakup of their marriage, but Lai Hongguo did not admit it. He said, "Ajiao was out shooting that day and suddenly called me and said - I'm sorry, thought I'd slowly fall in love with you after marriage, but I really couldn't help it."
The media made a big deal out of it, with some people sympathizing with her and wondering why she was a slag-sucker. Some dug into her racy photo history and said she didn't deserve to be loved.
"For those things she did in the past, if she wants to marry into a rich family and marry a man with very good conditions, it's more difficult. An ordinary man willing to marry her, I think it's already very good, I don't know what she thinks."
Ajiao ignored the negative comments, saying, "I won't get married again, I've done it once and that's it. I don't think I'm fit to get married, it's totally unnecessary."
This is the first time in her life that Ajiao has given up the idea of getting married.
Asa comforted her, "No matter what, the two of us can rely on each other, even if the whole world doesn't like you, there's still someone behind you."
Ajiao said, "20 years since I started my career seems like an instant, and it's been a bumpy and uncertain road, but luckily I have you by my side."
The last change diva
Change bride are ideal
In the square of the times
Who will always have a prize
■
Part of the
References:
[ [1], "Ajiao Interview", Zhiyun Dining Club
[2], "Ajiao Interview", The Temptation of Dining Club
[3], "Growing up as a Diva", Very Quiet Distance
[4], "Ajiao Interview", Women in the World
[5], "Ajiao and Hirokuni Lai", Flowering Everything