Wen Tao mother
Today many young men and women around 30 years old are only children, they have already had children, because the mother-in-law just so a son, in the process of raising grandchildren, many mothers-in-law are able to pay to help pay, can contribute to the effort. So this issue of Tao Ma will bring you to talk about: in the process of raising children, in-laws should contribute money and effort? Let's see what the moms think!
@Hello Sunny: My two children were brought up by myself, and my mother-in-law made it very clear to me at that time. She said whoever raises the children will take care of them, and she won't expect her grandchildren to be filial to her when she gets old. She was also very busy, square dancing in the morning and playing mahjong in the afternoon. I think the mother-in-law can not take the child, but should occasionally ask the child on the phone, after all, other people's grandmothers are quite close to the child, for the mother-in-law, I am not grateful and will not complain, we are each good.
@Stranger Thorns: I think grandparents do not have the obligation to bring grandchildren, but as a child has the obligation to filial piety parents, as a daughter-in-law, love your husband to love what he loves, and think what he wants. Every daughter-in-law is filial to her in-laws because our parents are also other people's in-laws. It's already hard enough for the elderly to work hard to bring up your husband, and I feel a little ashamed to leave my own children with them. I've been a daughter-in-law for over 20 years and my in-laws love me.
@EatSmartMom: I don't think that having a child has to be thrown to the in-laws to bring on the good, my own child is of course, my husband and I to bring on, and then grandparents with children for a long time, it is very easy to develop the child's arrogant and domineering habits, our side of the kindergarten are reluctant to accept the old man to bring out the baby. As for the kind of do not help bring up the child old not to take care of the in-laws of the argument, is more nonsense, in-laws do not give me a mess on the very good, old age is as a son or daughter of the things that should be done.
@Wind in the snow: In many rural areas of China, there is a very feudal and backward concept, they think that the daughter is a relative, and even rumors of "nephews is a dog, eaten on the way out," said. They also believe that grandchildren should be taken care of by the in-laws, and if the in-laws don't take care of them, they will not be close to the children, and the mother's family will still have grievances. I have been y affected by this kind of backward concept of moral bondage, and sometimes I feel that it is very difficult to live, there is not so much, but have to take into account other people's feelings.