The pain point of her girlfriends is that after ten years, her salary has basically remained stagnant, and her promotion and salary increase in the future will be more and more remote.
The work is not their favorite, day in and day out, the feeling is very bad. But when it comes to adjusting positions, I'm worried that a handful of people will put on their own shoes later on.
In fact, I was in the same situation before, if it was two years ago, the kind of confusion and hesitation is a true reflection of their own.
The key is that I had a serious dependency mentality at that time, and I always felt that I had paid a lot of money to be seen by others, and I always hoped that other people could give me a hand.
In the end, the situation got worse every year.
The key is that one is also caught in a state of self-hatred.
Going back to the topic of my little sister, having gone through all of this, I was a lot more mature at this point, and I said these words to my little sister from the bottom of my heart:
"Put your fears aside, what's the worst that can happen? What is the cost of not getting screwed? The best time consuming thing is to look ahead and get nothing in the end."
Sandberg reminds of this in "One Step Forward,"
What would you do without fear?
In fact, it's a good quote to try in any aspect of our lives.
Looking back on my own experience in the workplace over the past two years, I feel that this quote from Adler has had a particularly strong impact:
A person who is responsible for accomplishing something will always do everything that needs to be done, and in doing so, he will be a trustworthy person. There are many people who originally had outstanding abilities, but because they did not have the courage to be responsible, they lived a dull life, did nothing, and even often made oversights, and as a result, they allowed themselves to gradually become mediocre. The reason for this is that there is no status to speak of because of the lack of action.
On the contrary, there are some other people, the beginning of the performance is not good, but in order to change their own situation, he is the courage to take on the heavy burden, wholeheartedly, conscientiously and responsibly into the work, as a result, slowly achieved success, personal low position is also constantly promoted.
Being needed by others is the value of life. Because it is needed, life becomes meaningful and has a sense of existence.
When I was in the early stages of my career, I was actually a very responsible person. I worked 16 hours a day for 5 years, and as Kazuo Inamori said, I was in the center of the vortex, and there was nothing that I didn't care about.
It's just that at that time I was very much looking at the input-output ratio.
I put too much into it, but I was hampered along the way because of the irrational promotion mechanism.
A few years later, I started to change my state, always feeling that fate was unfair to me.
In fact, this is a lack of courage.
Because of the setbacks experienced, am I going to give up my efforts and give up life?
Now that I am aware, I realize that I am really the master of my own destiny.
In the first five years of my career, I defined myself as a king, and there was nothing I couldn't handle.
The last three years of my life, I was a victim of destiny, and my efforts were not enough, so I just got out of the way of everything.
Life is amazing, no matter how we identify ourselves, even if that identification is bad or harmful, eventually our life will follow that identification.
You could say that the kind of identification you have with yourself may determine the kind of life you have.
The transformation of self-identification is quite possibly the most interesting, magical, and freeing spiritual experience in life, which is why so many adults look forward to the New Year and their birthdays all year long.
One reason is that these two festivals are opportunities for them to step out of their ego and change into the desired other self.
I am grateful that I came across psychology, especially Adler's Individual Psychology, on my own path of learning.
He made me start to realize my inner self from the inside and know the meaning of courage and life.
Last year's annual appraisal, I used to feel that it was fate's injustice to me as well, and after listening to some of the words spun by many of my partners, I felt that I was simply a victim.
But courage told me that I can not always shrink there, do nothing, and even have the courage to explore the truth of the matter.
So I waited for my emotions to calm down, and then I took the initiative to go to the core people to find out where I could improve, and maybe our criteria for determining performance were off.
After the face-to-face communication, I understood the deviation of the viewpoints between the core person and me, and I accepted the shortcomings he pointed out.
As the saying goes, if there is a change, there is no increase in encouragement.
I feel that there is a lack of timely adjustment and change, do not agree, but also can try to find **** the same point.
There are a lot of people in this world, we come from different environments and backgrounds, treating new things differently, all I can do is accept the different.
After the communication, I don't have that hostile negative emotion inside me, and it's completely different from the feeling of a third party delivering the message, so I think it's actually quite rewarding.
Anything that has happened in the past is meaningful, and the results of this appraisal reminded me of the standard of work in the eyes of others.
Joy is the beginning of joy.
As long as we can positively identify with our selves, we can do what we want to do and want to do whenever we want to do it.
There is no limit to human potential, or it is purely a matter of letting your true self show up and removing all the labels that have been placed on you from the past and present, then you will surely be the best you can be.
What is your potential?
Please remember carefully, have you ever done anything that surprised even yourself?
If you are determined to think about it, you will be able to find out.
In the past few years, I have completed a workplace transition, life role changes, participated in a variety of online learning far from real life, become a positive discipline instructor, workplace empowerment instructor.
Each one was actually a process of growing courage.
Courage, is growing into what you like.
Courage is accepting others as different and being a better version of yourself.
Courage is accepting all the possible vicissitudes of life, but still being full of love.
Life treats everyone fairly; you are limited in some areas and have unexpected rewards in other parts of your life.
At this point, all you need is to sincerely submit, recognize what you really want, and then be brave enough to think and be aware, and just let go and work hard.
Don't ever be bound by the labels of the past, those are the riches of the past. Give yourself a new definition and take the first step.
The hardest thing between reality and ideal is the first step.
Take the first step, and it will get better and better in the future.
I always thought my parents wouldn't change, but they have actually been changing quietly. Mom now goes to her sisters to help with square dancing every day after dinner, and Dad has started getting up early to go for walks in the park, where we even met.
Change, or stay the same?
We all know that change is reality, so why not move yourself first?
Do you have the courage to take the first step in the face of change in your life?
Courage is not enough, so let's practice gratitude first, and look for the little blessings in life, which will bring you courage.
The philosophy of life is contained in the little blessings, more gratitude every day:
1 Yesterday morning it was sunny when I drove to the office building, and it rained when I arrived;
2 Today, I took the shuttle bus, and it didn't rain, so I happily walked through the park to the station and waited for the bus;
3 Mom and Dad both started their own exercise programs, Dad took a walk in the morning, and Mom met her sisters after dinner.
4 A little frustrated at work, I took the initiative to find the core person to resolve the gap, and now I feel completely different;
5 Ten years of living with a colleague to go to another city, sentimental, but experienced another meaning of love;
6 After reading a little bit of the Adler every day, I feel a sense of life's richness and sense of meaning;
7 Preparing for the June Workplace Empowerment Salon, meaning in life is practiced and enriched by oneself.