"People in big cities today generally get married late, around 30 years old or even older before they get married and have children. Parents younger than 50 years old, if married late parents are about 60 years old. A handful of years, to help you worry about bringing up children is really very hard! Playing with, picking up and dropping off, buying groceries and cooking...looks like insignificant, really hard work for a day, you will be exhausted, not to mention the older parents."
Opinion 2: In order to take care of the children for you, the elderly almost no time for themselves
"The elderly wholeheartedly in the grandchildren on, especially the family has two children, but also the elderly busy. In the past, it was good to say, retired to travel, square dancing, on the senior university, with the old partners call friends ... ... the results of a one by one all go to the child with the baby, what plan has not been realized. Even if you get together once in a while, the topic of discussion is always the grandchildren, the whole life focus on this one thing.
Opinion 3: money to subsidize children
"Chinese parents are dedicated to their children's degree, the world is unbeatable! Not only out of labor, many times also out of money, especially see children's things are so expensive, who do not want their own children with good? Children if the general economic level, parents will certainly subsidize, often buy clothes and toys for children. Sometimes directly plug money for fear of children embarrassed, will also say that this money is for my grandchildren (daughter), not for you!"
Opposing side: are a family, talk about money hurt feelings
"Parents and children are a family! Since we are a family, how can we hurt our feelings by being so clear about money? It's not like going to work in a company, you have to talk about all the benefits before you can work...you can't use money to measure affection, "paychecks" are too expensive, you can use other ways, such as buying gifts or taking your parents on a trip to give back."
Opinion 1: Parents' help is limited, and they themselves are tired
"In all honesty, some children complain that even if the elderly come to help, they are too embarrassed to let others do everything (especially their mothers-in-law...covering their mouths and snickering). Especially when the child is in kindergarten, the elderly only care about transportation during the day, in fact, there is not much to do. But I'm tired of going to work as a dog, to go home to cook, eat and still have to clean up and then put the child to bed, really did not feel much easier.