Pay attention to the emotional changes of the elderly and prevent empty nests after the holiday. After the holiday, when young people are troubled by "post-holiday syndrome", many left-behind elderly people suffer from "post-holiday empty nest syndrome". Pay attention to the emotional changes of the elderly and prevent empty nests after the holiday.
Pay attention to the emotional changes of the elderly and prevent empty nest disease after the holiday. During the Spring Festival, relatives, friends and children gathered around the old man from all directions like swallows returning home. After the festival, they flew away from the old man like swallows out foraging. The festive and lively family atmosphere suddenly disappeared, and some elderly people were unable to adapt to this contrast emotionally and psychologically for a while, so there were symptoms such as depression, depression, fatigue, loss of appetite, insomnia and irritability, which experts called "empty nest syndrome after old age". How to solve the problem of "empty nest after old age" has become an urgent problem.
Sometimes, gathering is always short, and parting is always hard to give up. At this moment, all of us are experiencing our own "post-holiday syndrome". For some elderly people, they are feeling the pain of "empty nest after the holiday". This is almost a kind of loneliness that "time suddenly stops and the air suddenly becomes quiet", and it is a roller coaster-like emotional ups and downs. The festive and lively atmosphere came to an abrupt end, and the family members gathered together were scattered around, and the old people who stayed behind were always uncomfortable and lost.
Empty nest, the heart is not failing. The "empty nest syndrome of the elderly after the holiday" is not a new phenomenon, but it has really intensified in the last year or two. As we all know, many people failed to respond to the call of "celebrating the New Year on the spot" during the Spring Festival last year, which greatly prolonged the time of separation from their families. It is difficult to go home this Spring Festival, so it is natural to say goodbye in a hurry after a short meeting. "Undetermined return date", a vague uncertainty, makes the elderly more uneasy when facing their children leaving again.
Many elderly people don't have their own life focus, hobbies to kill time, or even their own circle of friends and social activities after retirement. Therefore, I have been looking forward to the return of my children and grandchildren. This "others-centered" lifestyle has been divorced from the meaning of life itself. Even, every day apart is a torment. And the days that have just been separated recently are even more difficult.
The "empty nest disease" of the elderly after the festival is not only a staged "maladjustment", but also the most fundamental problem it exposes is the hollowing out of the life content of the elderly. Always at home, and the home is empty. Either doing nothing, or indulging in mobile phones, become a low-headed family of the elderly, this lifestyle lacks color and quality. How to kill the time of the elderly? How to create more colorful social space and community communication for the elderly? How to inject more "points of interest" into their lives? Answer these questions well, and the "empty nest syndrome after old age" will naturally be solved.
Pay attention to the emotional changes of the elderly and prevent empty nest disease after the holiday. When young people were troubled by "post-holiday syndrome" for two days, many left-behind elderly people suffered from "post-holiday empty nest syndrome". After the intense joy, the depth of loneliness wraps the lonely figure. The child is gone, the home is empty, and the heart is empty.
The festive, lively and reunion atmosphere suddenly disappeared. After some old people return to the "empty nest" state, it is difficult to adapt to this contrast emotionally and psychologically, and there will be symptoms such as depression, depression, fatigue, loss of appetite, insomnia and irritability, which is called "empty nest syndrome". If it is not treated in time, the symptoms will continue to appear and may become ill over time.
The data shows that the number of "empty nest" families in China is close to 50%. This means that nearly half of the elderly will encounter the problem of "empty nest" after the holiday. How to make empty nesters avoid "empty nest syndrome" after the holiday is not only a family problem, but also a social problem.
What is "empty nest syndrome"?
"Empty Nest Syndrome" is an "adaptation obstacle" in China's psychiatry and a psychological crisis of middle-aged and elderly people. The French writer Victor Brass first put forward the term "empty nest syndrome" in his book Environment and Character.
Families enter the empty nest stage, adult children leave the family, and middle-aged and elderly parents stay at home. The life focus of these middle-aged and elderly people who are about to retire or have already retired has undergone tremendous changes. They will feel lonely, uneasy and depressed. They will fall from the role of caregivers and creators, and their hearts will be full of confusion and loss again, and they will also face the crisis of lack of self-worth.
The most direct feeling of "empty nest syndrome" to middle-aged and elderly people is the loneliness of the elderly, and the loneliness of the elderly brings great physical harm to people. Man is a gregarious animal. People who are lonely for a long time will have their gene activities affected, leading to immune imbalance, and are more likely to get infectious diseases, high blood pressure, insomnia, cancer and so on. And even die early.
The old man tried to commit suicide because he couldn't receive his son's phone call for a long time. Similar news is not uncommon.
A survey involving 300,000 people shows that loneliness is equivalent to drinking or smoking 15 cigarettes every day.
Some psychologists also point out that loneliness will increase the secretion level of stress hormone cortisol, thus weakening the immune system and making people more prone to illness. People who feel lonely have a blood pressure 30 mm Hg higher than normal people, and their chances of suffering from heart disease and stroke are three times higher than normal people.
How to save "empty nest syndrome"
1, work and rest dilution method
After the excitement during the festival has dissipated, the old people should arrange their daily life in an orderly and step-by-step manner according to the past life rules.
Normal work and rest can make the elderly feel calm, dilute the festive atmosphere, calm the psychological gap and get out of the shadow of "empty nest".
2, hobby dilution method
You can pick up or cultivate your hobbies after the festival. By participating in various interesting activities such as mountaineering, traveling, painting or photography, you can divert your attention from feeling lonely after the holiday, immerse yourself in hobbies, make many friends, and increase the diversity and richness of your life.
It is also a good "self-therapy" to enrich your life with hobbies and eliminate loneliness.
3, emotional dilution method
When there are only the old couple left in the family, they should care about each other, communicate frequently, and further close their feelings through "talk therapy".
When going out, try to take your wife with you, and avoid one party going out and the other staying at home, which will only increase loneliness.
4, social dilution method
Old people should actively participate in social activities, especially those who live alone. You can go out to visit old friends, participate in old cadre universities, social associations, square dances, etc. Fill the loneliness after the holiday with a full and lively social life.
In addition, the new sister also reminds everyone that as children, we should pay more attention to the physical and mental changes of our parents. Once you find that your parents have the above symptoms, don't prevaricate with the phrase "you think too much", but pay more attention to make your parents feel love and warmth. When the symptoms are serious, you must take your parents to a professional doctor for treatment, so as not to delay the symptoms and lead to more serious diseases.
Remember to call home more often. Kind voice and simple greetings are often the greatest satisfaction of parents in a day.
Pay attention to the emotional changes of the elderly and prevent empty nests after the holiday. During the Spring Festival, the children of relatives and friends gathered around the old man from all directions like swallows returning home. After the festival, they flew away from the old man like swallows out foraging. The festive and lively family atmosphere suddenly disappeared, and some elderly people were unable to adapt to this contrast emotionally and psychologically for a while, so there were symptoms such as depression, depression, fatigue, loss of appetite, insomnia and irritability, which experts called "empty nest syndrome after old age".
There's an old saying in China, it's called "It's a brief encounter". Especially for empty-nest elderly families whose children are working hard outside, the separation after each reunion has become the most vulnerable and helpless node for the elderly. This actually reflects that there are still emotional shortcomings behind the carefree life of the elderly, and also points out the key time and work direction for respecting, loving and helping the elderly to the society. Old people are eager for family companionship and spiritual support, and hope that we can fill their "empty nest" with affection in many ways to make them happy physically and mentally. This requires the joint efforts of the government, families and Qi Xin society.
First of all, filial piety is very important to take care of children. In view of the fact that China's social security system needs to be further improved, the way of providing for the aged is still based on family support, which is actually the living environment of many elderly people. Children should not only fulfill their responsibilities and obligations of "visiting home often" in accordance with the law, but also promote family reunion during the Spring Festival as much as possible, and at the same time be vigilant enough to properly handle the problem of lost elderly people after the holiday. For example, do a good job of appeasement after work in advance, and entrust relatives and friends or neighbors to take care of them to help them adapt to life changes; Always maintain telephone communication and video contact with the elderly, and always pay attention to the emotional changes of the elderly; Try to make a time limit commitment to return to China next time, so that the elderly can always have "hope".
Secondly, the self-regulation of the elderly is indispensable. The working characteristics of hard work in different places are doomed that children's family companionship with the elderly is far from gathering. Especially in the context of epidemic prevention and control, children's good "going home for the New Year" may be stranded. Old people should learn to lower the "expectation" of family reunion and let their children go home naturally, especially having psychological expectations for their children to go to work after the holiday. After the festival, we should be good at adjusting the environment, "enjoy" ourselves, participate in outdoor activities or communicate with peers, get out of a relatively closed living space, expand our hobbies according to our own abilities, get pleasure from reading, learning Chinese characters, planting flowers, keeping fit and raising animals, and maintain a healthy and cheerful attitude.
Third, it is imperative to warm the "empty nest" in the community. When children and grandchildren are not around, the community is the home of the elderly. This requires governments at all levels to constantly improve the function of community service and give full play to the role of volunteers. It is necessary to establish the caring files of "empty nest" families, maintain telephone communication with "empty nest" elderly people, visit them regularly, and actively create a communication platform for them to communicate with others. Keep your child's contact information and urge your family to accompany you in time; If conditions permit, the government can pay all or part of the bill and provide nanny service for the "empty nest" elderly.