1, respect each other.
Although I haven't been able to treat my daughter-in-law as my own daughter, in my heart she is a very important person in our family. My son loves her, and we love our son. Of course, we love my house and my dog.
We respect each other tacitly, and our son and daughter-in-law will tell us everything, and then the family will sit down and talk it over, see each other's ideas and listen to other people's suggestions.
I think it's good. It's not tiring or relaxing to get along with each other. Occasionally, after dinner in the evening, my daughter-in-law will accompany me to the square dance or take a walk downstairs.
2. Give your son and daughter-in-law enough private space and freedom.
My son and daughter-in-law have been married for more than three years, and my wife and I never interfere in any decisions they make. Including the problem of having children, we will give them some advice at most, instead of making any decisions for them ourselves, because we know that we have different ideas from their young people.
Knowing that they like to be alone, usually on weekends or holidays, my wife and I will get up early and then walk around.
It was near noon when they bought food and went home to cook, because they couldn't cook. If we don't cook, they will order takeout food. You know, it's not good to eat too much takeout.
Don't be partial to your son.
Occasionally, when they disagree and quarrel, my wife and I usually ignore them if the situation is not very bad. We'll let them handle it themselves.
If there is a serious quarrel, then my wife and I will come forward to mediate, but we will never be partial to our son. Because even if it is the daughter-in-law's fault, the daughter-in-law will think it is the son's fault. In addition to her opinion of us, she will alienate us.
I can only talk about my son in private and ask him to give more to his daughter-in-law. After all, it is not easy for a wife to get married. Don't let her cold heart, let her feel that there is no warm feeling in this home.
4. Respect each other's privacy.
My son and daughter-in-law have been living with us since they got married. I have never been in their room. Because I know they should have their own privacy, and I think my daughter-in-law certainly doesn't like us coming into their room, even if it is cleaning, they don't necessarily like it.