From the parents' point of view, perhaps some selfishness, after all, a generation of people to pass on, which can be broken to your generation! In the parents' view, other people to the age of the family have a small living treasure, are when the grandparents, their own home is cold and quiet, not the slightest bit lively, is indeed to feel that their children are too selfish.
But from the point of view of our younger generation, Dink is not only not selfish, or a kind of self-sacrifice.
There are three points:
First of all, people of the same age have children, Dink couples do not have children, Dink has to top how much pressure, everywhere you go are asked, "How old is the child?" "How many kids?" "Who's home with the kids?" When Dink answered, "We don't have children," people around him would say, "It's time to have a baby, it's not good for your health to have a baby late." "Have one now, and a second one in two years." And so on. So, the psychology of Dink needs to be very strong, because in this society nowadays, Dink is still rare.
Additionally, without a child, you can devote more time to your work and life, work harder for your career, and pay more for the relationship between two people, which seems to be a fast life, but in fact, Dink is sacrificing the happiness of having a child to gain the future he wants, or even a dream. Dink knows that once you have a child, you need to spend more time and energy on the child, you can not better for the dream of hard work, they do not want children? Want! Want to have their own children too, to have their own genes passed on to the next generation. But compared to children, their own life is not yet settled, so they bear the pain to choose Dink.
Lastly, the Dinks have also created a secure old age for their parents. Ms. Ma has said that a small living baby at home will be very happy, this is not true, but at the same time along with happiness is hard work and labor! Those who don't have children simply don't know how tiring it is to bring up a child! If both husband and wife have to work, the burden of taking care of the child will be left to the parents. Parents who are already retired can travel around and relax, but there is an annoying person who has to take care of them all the time, which is really super tiring, even more so than going to work. So Dink is also taking the pressure off his parents and enjoying his old age in peace.
My brother and sister-in-law, who are in Beijing, chose to be Dinky, and I don't know if they'll change their minds or regret it later. But for the time being, it is true that the pressure of work and life in Beijing is so onerous that they don't have a good life, and having a child is also suffering along with them! They chose Dinks to be responsible for the next generation, and it's better to not have one than to suffer. The first thing I'd like to say is that I'm not sure if I'm going to be able to do this, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it, but I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it, and I'm sure I'm going to be able to do it.
Respecting each other's choices, this is a harmonious family.
So, Ms. Ma does not think that Dink is a selfish choice, the above is my answer.
That's it.