Do you have friends of the opposite sex around you? Whether you are happy or not, you will think of him. In front of him, you can be yourself bravely, you don't need to wear a mask to disguise, you can laugh mercilessly, and you can say anything. You are lucky to have such a friend, but at the same time, it may also become your misfortune.
Lin said, "People who are easy to hurt others and themselves are always vague about the edge of distance.
When a woman naively regards the other person as her good friend, she talks about everything, has no boundaries, and doesn't know how to avoid it, because she subconsciously regards the other person as her own same sex. And women's position in men's hearts is often not so simple. Usually, women play a special role and have a special position in men's world. Maybe he never told her, but his words and deeds have said it all.
It's just that women are too stupid and naive to read men's minds. A woman can also assume that if she has a girlfriend, will your first reaction be jealousy or blessing? There is a huge difference between the former and the latter, which can also indirectly explain whether the other person is as simple as your buddy in your heart.
Chen Jing and Zhang Tie are colleagues of the same company. They used to be college alumni and knew each other when they were in college. At that stage of Chen Jing's unemployment, Zhang Tie stayed with her, and later introduced her to work in her own company. Chen Jing often says that Zhang Tie is the god who saves her, which can give her warmth and security. Zhang Tie has always called Chen Jing his sister, and often joked, "Sister, when will you find me a brother-in-law?"
Before Zhang Tie, Chen Jing doesn't look like a girl at all. She is gaudy and obviously looks like a woman. But in front of others, she is still very gentle and gentle, which makes people think that she will be a good wife and mother in the future.
The family arranged a blind date for Chen Jing. She told Zhang Tie at the first time that she was a little uneasy and said that she had never kissed, and she didn't know if she would make a fool of herself. To Chen Jing's surprise, Zhang Tie was not happy for her, but worried. Chen Jing wanted Zhang Tie to accompany her on a blind date, but he refused. After the blind date, the other party launched a passionate pursuit of Chen Jing. She hesitated whether to promise, but watched Zhang Tie become less and less talkative.
When the company held its annual meeting, Chen Jing couldn't find the shadow of Zhang Tie at all, and he didn't know what he was busy with. The leader said that there were special plans today, but she didn't take it seriously, thinking that it was time to send an iron scarf in winter. His scarf was broken last year. When the music started, the lights went out in an instant. When Chen Jing looked up again, he saw Zhang Tie wearing a suit and tie and coming towards her with a big bouquet of roses in his hand.
Chen Jing leng, Zhang Tie knelt down and began his confession. "Quiet, I like you for many years. I liked it when I was in college, but I never had the courage to tell you. No way, I can only be with you as a good friend, and only in this capacity can I be with you, take care of you and know everything about you. I don't want you to be with anyone else. I want you to be my girlfriend, okay? "
Colleagues around are booing, but Chen Jing's brain is completely offline. She admits that she doesn't hate Zhang Tie and even likes him, but she never seems to want to be his girlfriend. Chen Jing ran out of the hall and went home by taxi. I used to think that the pure relationship between men and women turned out to be her wishful thinking, plus some of his deliberate.
The next week, Chen Jing asked for leave. She needs to clear her mind and determine whether she has feelings for Zhang Tie. Before she understood, she thought she would be embarrassed to see Zhang Tie, and Zhang Tie also told her clearly that she would be given enough time to think about it until she had an answer. No matter what choice she makes, he promises that she will never lose him.
The feelings between men and women are sometimes subtle. Some people have no clear boundaries between friends and lovers. They think they are just friends. Only after something collided did I realize what my true feelings were.
Mr. Lu Xun said that it is enough to have a bosom friend in life.
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As for whether the other party is only your confidant and whether you only have the role of confidant in the eyes of the other party, both men and women should consider it clearly. Missed it, maybe we can only be friends for life. If we can be together, we are lucky. If we can't be together, we are still best friends. Both are win-win.