Once met a father with his daughter on the subway, the father held the child, the side of the grandmother with a bag loaded with out a should be something.
They just entered the subway and heard the father say to the child: "We have a seat on the seat, no seat on the standing, okay? It's only three stops a ****."
"Okay" the child looks seven or eight years old, wearing a white princess group, hair clip with a small crown hairpin, finger nails should be their own with watercolors, colorful all over, wearing a pair of white sandals, see out, the child's mother should be very good at dressing children.
The subway is crowded with people, the little girl may feel a little bored, and began to pamper her father.
"Daddy, I want to look at my phone."
The father said patiently, "We're almost at the station, we'll get off soon."
The little girl didn't listen and still said she wanted to look at her cell phone.
The father said, "We agreed that cell phones can only be viewed at home, but not at home."
The little girl begged and shouted "I want to see the phone, I just look at it." Before the small voice of pleading, now the voice all of a sudden very loud.
"We don't look at it, okay? We'll get off the bus soon, and we'll look at it again when we get home, okay?" the father said. The father has been whispering persuasion.
The child's cry let a headset wearing headphones down to play the phone boy heard, may he thought the child is not want to stand, so immediately patted that father's shoulders, the father politely refused, said immediately get off the car.
The little girl's voice is getting louder and louder, before or with the hand to grab the father's pocket, and then directly to the father's pocket inside the cell phone. The father's good advice also did not work, just hand grasp the pocket, do not let the child out of the phone.
The little girl looked like she was ready to cry, and the father's hand loosened a bit, letting her take the phone out, but the child could not unlock it.
"Look, it's no use taking it out, you can't unlock it, we're not playing okay."
"No, I want to see the phone." The little girl had no way to hold the phone, and finally let go of her voice and began to cry.
The father picked up the little girl, patting her back in comfort, the little girl crying while using her father's clothes to wipe her tears, but her mouth still shouted that she wanted to see the phone. It didn't take long for them to arrive at the station.
In fact, such a thing to see not too much, now the new generation of parents also want and do not exclude the child to play the phone, a lot of one or two years old children will hold the tablet to play by themselves, simply do not need to teach anyone.
In the final analysis, parents' time is becoming more and more valuable, or their time is also taken up by the phone, so the children look at their parents every day to play with the phone, they will also instinctively feel that thing is very fun, coupled with the lack of so-called adult self-control, resulting in the final unmanageable.
The internet says that grandmothers with children are square dancing, grandfathers with children are writing brushstrokes, and parents with children are playing with cell phones.
The child is the shadow of the parents, parents are the mirror of the child. What actions parents do, the child will instinctively imitate. Sometimes they don't even realize that a small action of their own will affect the child's life.
But it's not the same in foreign countries. Eighty percent of foreign children's idols are their fathers, who are always capable of doing anything, so they are more willing to become a person like their parents.
It is also important to remember that a father and son have a very good relationship and live in a high-grade neighborhood, where the child is very relieved to be left alone every time he comes home, and the father parks the car and then goes up.
One time the child went home alone, in the elevator met two neighbors who knew his father, the two teased the child to play, said to go to their home for dinner, okay, the child out of the instinctive resistance to strangers, said: "No, our family does not welcome you."
The two adults also found the child interesting, and did not say anything, only later met his father and then brought up this matter.
The father went home and asked the boy what happened. The child couldn't remember, but said he didn't like them, and that the two of them were garbage.
The father felt that this is a little bit wrong, the child suddenly how to curse, no matter what, the two neighbors usually relationship is still very good, just the child does not like them.
The father said, "How can you be so impolite, you should welcome people when they come to our house to play, how can you still call them trash?"
Children are like this, what they like is like, what they hate is hate, there are not so many small things, so the way of expression is always so direct.
In his father's enlightenment also know that he is wrong, and later went to the neighbor's house alone to apologize.
The father told the child that he was also responsible for the incident, and usually did not communicate well with the child, and that the responsibility needed to be borne by two people, because there are two wrongdoers. The child again to the father to apologize, but the father still said that this is not good, or later will forget, we should be on this kind of error to do a small punishment.
So the two fathers took a broom, took the elevator to the top floor, and started sweeping the stairs from the top to the bottom, sweeping half of the floor, the original property was very clean, but the father insisted that the child sweep again. Although the child can not sweep the multi-layer, but the father finally helped the child to the rest of the entire sweep.
The child is the shadow of the parents, and the parents are the mirror of the child. A child's life from childhood to adulthood will be a continuous learning and growing process, each stage will have a teacher or several teachers to teach them how to go, and the role of parents is more to teach them to be a person how to go on this road, which is what I have been thinking about.