What is the experience of being married to a man who doesn't love you
What is the experience of being married to a man who doesn't love you, this topic sounds cruel, some people have a sad life, and some people have a happy life. Let's take a look at what it's like to be married to a man who doesn't love you, and Ms. Citation, love yourself.
Marrying a man who doesn't love you is what kind of experience 1"If life can start over, I don't want to settle for marriage." BFF Qin Xue said mournfully.
Qin Xue grew up with a very good character, and her parents do not let early love is not early love.
When she came out to work, her parents let her hurry to find an object, she also found, the blind date of the blind date, the date of the date, is not the right person.
Parents are anxious, urge her not to pick, almost on the line.
Qin Xue does not know which root tendons out of the problem, in short, dating are talking about less than half a month on no account.
In the blink of an eye, the age of 32 years old, in the town, 30 years old is not married, is an old girl, will be laughed at.
Parents do not dare to talk to others for a long time, worrying that people ask about their daughters: "Your daughter is 30 years old, why have not married ah, is not a disease ah?"
Parents feel disgraced, had to go home to Qin Xue pressure, to more friends and relatives to introduce the object.
Qin Xue's husband is a distant relative of a colleague, in the local institutions, stable work, income is not bad, divorced without children.
The two met, there is no such thing as love, and I think the conditions are right to get along.
Qin Xue married, the home of what they do, but also serve the in-laws. The father-in-law gets up every day to go to the morning exercise, afternoon chess, mother-in-law to go to the square dance, or on the card, the family does not care.
Qin Xue husband is even more so, in addition to work, back home on the Ge You lie, play the phone. Qin Xue let him help a little help, he said: "Doing housework is a woman's business, I'm a big man do housework like words?"
Once Qin Xue cut vegetables cut through the hand, blood flow out, screaming, so that her husband to find a band-aid to her, called a few times are not willing to move, but also impatient: "What do you call, not just a little broken skin, you're pretentious, wrapped in tissue paper is not on the line?"
Qin Xue aggrieved to cry.
That time, she felt she married the wrong person. Marrying someone who doesn't love you is better than staying single, at least you don't have to be a cow or a horse and be hooted at by others.
Qin Xue body cold, menstruation will be stomach pain, her husband never gave her stew what brown sugar water. Husband's own dirty underwear thrown in the toilet did not wash, let Qin Xue wash. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products in the world, and you'll be able to do that.
Husband is another scolding, said: "This work can not do, want you why?"
Qin Xue's in-laws are very patriarchal. I've heard that the previous wife couldn't stand the fact that they forced her to abort her child, and she couldn't stand it any longer before she got divorced.
Qin Xue's first two are daughters, through acquaintances, in the hospital confirmed, mother-in-law softly let Qin Xue do away with. The first time I saw her, she said, "I've got three generations, and I'm sure you'll want to have a son."
The mother-in-law didn't know where to get the abortion prescription, but forced Qin Xue to drink it. The first time I saw this, I was in the hospital and I had to go to the hospital to get an operation.
These are all the acquiescence of the husband. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the woman's face, and I was able to see the woman's face.
Later, when Qin Xue's body got better, her mother-in-law rushed to make her pregnant. The first time I saw this, I thought it would be a good idea for me to go back to my old school, but I didn't think it would be a good idea for me to go back to my old school, so I didn't have to.
Since the pregnancy, Qin Xue's husband almost did not come home, God knows what he is doing outside, even if I know, will not recognize.
Never took the money home, the defense of Qin Xue with the same as a thief.
Qin Xue pregnancy maternity check or their own money.
Qin Xueyuan's own body is weak, the day of birth, hemorrhage, mother-in-law repeatedly urged the doctor: "to protect the adults, must protect the adults!
The husband was sitting in the hallway with his head in his hands, playing with his cell phone, as if he hadn't given birth to his son.
The couple's indifference to each other is so great that they are not even worth it.
The good thing is that Qin Xue's life was saved, and the child was born. The mother-in-law in the month, as usual, square dancing, playing cards, Qin Xue mother to take care of.
Qin Xue told his mother, "Mom, this marriage, I live with what is the meaning of this, this is the result of you forced me to marry."
Qin Xue's mom has a traditional mindset, said: "Do not marry all married, the child has been born, what else can be done. For the sake of the child, boil it."
"I do not want to boil, my life can not see hope, I want to divorce." Qin Xue said the idea of divorce, the mother was shocked.
Husband and mother-in-law probably heard the mother and daughter talking, said explicitly and implicitly: "want to divorce no one stop you, but my grandson has to stay."
So Qin Xue with the in-laws to divorce, the mother's family traditional thinking, think she has nothing to do, the child is born, but also so ignorant, advised her not to make trouble.
Qin Xue felt alone and exhausted.
She said, "The child can be given to them, and when he grows up, the child will definitely understand that I am not not in love with him, but I can not compete with them."
Qin Xue cried. After the divorce, Qin Xue was once depressed.
She said that marriage is better than not getting married if there is no half-hearted emotional foundation. To let those girls who are in a hurry to get married know, marrying can not be casual. The first thing you need to know is that you can't just get married.
The famous writer Austen said, "A happy marriage is consolidated by emotional communication, if a man keeps his feelings inside himself, he also pushes his wife out of his life."
Men do not love you, naturally will not communicate with you feelings, push you outside of life and emotions. You are like a lonely ostrich, walking in the desert without heaven and earth, where is the source?
Perhaps, you can only escape from the siege of marriage to save yourself.
Love yourself, from don't casually married, casually married people start.
Marrying a man who doesn't love you is what kind of experience 2
In life, many people get married not all because of love, but because of the age of suitability, and feel that the other person is suitable for them. But those who are suitable for the men and women into marriage, after marriage are happy? Perhaps only they themselves, can truly appreciate the sweet and sour.
My friend Gu Meng once asked me this question: "What does it feel like to be married to a man you don't love?" I couldn't give her an answer at the time, but I just said to her, "Why don't you get married to someone you love?
Marrying people don't settle, women married to people they don't love is a waste of time. I didn't realize that a few years later, Gu Meng got married, and a man he didn't love, stepped into the marriage hall.
Later, Gu Meng and we said, and her husband to get married is also forced by parental pressure, both more than 30, her husband hoped to find an independent, not pretentious woman, and Gu Meng hope to find a handsome, well-off man, so that the two conditions are in line with each other, just met one side of the decision to get engaged.
At that time, Gu Meng really thought, as long as the eyes look good, as long as the conditions are similar, anyway, is to live together, married to who is not the same. However, the marriage is not so simple.
Ultimately, "married to a man who does not love, is a kind of experience?" The woman's heart, full of bitterness. Yes, today's Gu Meng, the heart is only endless bitterness.
No love, no romance, the two so hurried into marriage.
People are surprised that on the day of the wedding, the husband's side of the car to pick up the bride was late, missed the auspicious time, caused the family a bellyful of gas. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new car, and you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and you'll be able to get your hands on a new car, and you'll be able to get your hands on a new car.
After marriage, the couple really is a partnership, the two have always been busy with each other. Gu Meng, no matter how funny things encountered outside, or how sad things, back home, she will never mention with her husband.
Husband outside the things, but also never share with her, even his salary is how much, Gu Meng has never asked, life is AA anyway, her husband will give her some monthly living expenses.
Gu Meng and her husband, from the very beginning is the idea of partnership. So, no matter how late her husband came home, or outside not come back, Gu Meng will not give him a call or send WeChat to ask. Whenever her husband gets drunk outside and calls another woman's name out of his mouth in the middle of the night, Gu Meng's heart won't have any ripples either.
A marriage in this state is bound to have problems.
After two years of their marriage, Gu Meng's husband still betrayed her. Gu Meng is not sure who that woman is, maybe his colleagues, maybe it is his mouth once shouted that woman. When others talked to her about it, her husband was with another woman, she just rippled and said: I know.
Gu Meng did not make trouble with her husband over this matter, and even she was tired of not wanting to know her husband 's 'anything, because she did not want to bother for him at all. Besides, she didn't love him in the first place, so she didn't want to care about anything about him.
Later, Gu Meng and I talked about, the husband betrayal of this matter, very calmly said to me, if the third party now come to the door, she can even be very calm and chat with her tea, invite her to dinner. Even if her husband came back one day and asked her for a divorce, she would not be surprised, and she would not hesitate to agree, immediately and he went to do the divorce formalities.
These two years of life after marriage have made Gu Meng understand that a woman who marries someone she doesn't love at the age she should be married is letting herself suffer in a wrong marriage. Married to a man he does not love, in him, you can not feel the beauty of marriage, in such a marriage, as in a cage full of thorns, can not see where the future exit.
This time, Gu Meng finally told me the truth. She said that if time could be revisited, if she could be allowed to choose again, she thought that she would not rush into marriage because of her parents' pressure and her own prejudices. Even if she is a little older, she will walk slowly on the road of love until she meets her beloved one.
Gu Meng told me: "Don't believe in marrying anyone, it's really not the same." The woman's heart's remorse, came too late.
Yes, after all, marriage is their own, the future of the road is also their own, in order to their own happiness, why bother to care about those worldly eyes?
Each of us is born with only one half, in order to find the other half of their love, walking in the world, some people are very lucky to find it soon, some people have to look for a long time, or even a lifetime.
Maybe you will say, to find so long how tired, but if you have not tried to go over to find, how can you meet the one you love? In fact, most of the haze in life, attributed to us blocking their own sunshine, as long as you look for with all your heart, one day, you will certainly find that and you love the one.
Married to a man who does not love you is what kind of experience 3
1, two people alone time is not long.
Staying with the one you love, time always passes especially fast; staying with the one you don't love, every minute and every second is a kind of torture.
Marrying someone who doesn't love you won't leave the two of you alone for very long after the wedding, let alone any two-person dates.
Even when they are alone, the atmosphere is very awkward, and both people will feel awkward, and the one who does not love them will even feel tormented, not knowing what to talk about, and just wanting to run away quickly.
2, two people communication lack of warmth exchange.
People are only willing to love the person who is warm and warm, and turn a blind eye to the person who does not love.
In the eyes of the people who do not love you, bumped into the pain is pretentious, physiological pain can not get up from the bed is the essence. He will not care about you "hungry", "cold", "tired" and so on.
In addition to the communication between the two people in addition to the daily affairs, there is no warm exchange, there is no sweet words, time is long, more feel the two feelings cold.
3, the two people do not have a couple should be intimate behavior.
People long for intimacy with those they love, and for those they don't love, they avoid it.
He will not cross the street, take the initiative to hold your hand; he will not be in the atmosphere of romantic, gently give you a kiss; he will not be in the sadness of your disillusionment, to give you a loving embrace.
He will never take the initiative to do the intimate behavior between husband and wife, he treats you like a stranger in general, for fear of their own a careless action, so that you have unnecessary misunderstanding.
4, two people quarrel, do not love the party will never be the first to bow.
Couples quarrel, most of the requirements of the male side of a little more magnanimous, take the initiative to lower a head to recognize a mistake, quarrel this thing on the page.
But married to a man who does not love you, after the fight can only be digested, no one took the initiative to recognize the wrong, even if the love of the first party to take the initiative to recognize the wrong, do not love the party, but also continue to maintain the cold war mode.
Each quarrel is easy to repeat, because of insufficient communication, always because of the same problem quarrel, each time after the quarrel automatically turn the page, the problem still exists, but never thought of taking the initiative to solve, improve the relationship.
And the original few remaining feelings, but also in the quarrel again and again, disappeared.
Instead of marrying a man who doesn't love you, and spending the rest of your life in sadness and helplessness, you might as well end up alone, living alone.