Another late night overtime, forced to go home, tired and collapsed in bed, just want to sleep until the natural wake up, but early the next morning, the urgent alarm ringing, or have to force the spirit to get up, continue to go to wrestle with life.
Are these days hard? But if you think that's all there is to it, you can't go wrong. But if you think that's all there is to it, you're wrong, because there's a lot more to life than that.
Birth, old age, sickness, death, seeking and not being able to find, grudges and hatred, love and separation, the five yin blazing, which is not the suffering of the human world?
As M. Scott Peck says in The Road Less Traveled: life is full of suffering.
However, even the bitterest life has to be lived, and life always goes on.
The world is hard, learn to add these 3 candies to yourself.
The first sugar: a positive mindset
Mindset determines choice, and choice determines destiny.
A positive and optimistic mindset can add hope to a bitter life.
There is a big sister who sells pancake fruits at the entrance of the district, and she always greets customers cheerfully.
The left half of her face is beautiful, and the right half of her cheeks are burn scars.
Once I talked to her, I realized that she and her husband used to run a small restaurant together, but it was burned to ashes by a fire, and her husband was killed in the fire, which brought an abrupt end to their happy little life.
Sure enough, life doesn't even say hello before it hits you hard.
Although she was rescued from death, but when she woke up and looked at half of her face in the mirror, the first thing she did was to kill herself.
"It didn't turn out to be a death." She smiled brightly and said, "Then I looked in the mirror only look at the left side of the face, the days of suffering also have to live, then more good look, why do you have to look at the bad, to add to their own blockage?"
Perhaps this is the most simple philosophy of survival: If life is long with two faces, then why do we have to focus on the pain and ignore the other side of the happy?
As Festinger's Law defines it:
Ten percent of life consists of what happens to you, and the other 90 percent is determined by how you react to what happens.
There are a lot of things in life that we can't control, but we can decide our own mindset, bravely face or retreat to avoid, positive and optimistic or depressed, all by our own decision, different choices will bring different results.
As long as the heart does not feel bitter, life does not seem so bitter.
Helen Keller once said, "I've been crying, crying, crying I have no shoes to wear, until one day I saw someone without feet ......"
Life sea sea, each with its own bitter, see more will be relieved.
Fugui in Yu Hua's novel "Alive", a lifetime of suffering, loved ones have passed away, the old Fugui and the old oxen depend on each other, still strong to live.
Yes.
There is nothing tougher or better than being alive.
Suffering is not the worst outcome, as long as you live, there is hope.
The second candy: a wide range of hobbies
Cultivating one's own hobbies and enjoying them is the best cure for life's suffering.
A friend who seldom pays attention to videos, but saves the video of an ordinary farmer couple, often recommended to people around.
The video protagonist is a couple of ordinary farmers in Xiaao Village, Mayu Town, Ruian City, Zhejiang Province. This couple, can be considered a model who knows how to add sugar to life.
The husband suffered from severe depression because of a car accident, the wife tried to make her husband happy, and then the couple learned the "ghost dance", and after farming in the fields to dance, her husband finally out of the haze blossomed into a smile.
Now, their jittery account has more than 1.6 million fans, dancing video retweets have more than 3 million, a wave of mainstream media for their praise.
"There is work to do, there is dancing, our life now is really good!" Xiao Ying couple said this.
You see, dancing is their hobby, and more than that, it has helped them get out of pain.
Hobbies are so magical and full of healing energy.
Wang Yangming said, "Everything is a projection of the human heart."
The days are hard, but as long as there are hobbies to do, you're not alone.
Exercise, for example, is recognized as the easiest way to be happy. Running, playing ball, swimming, hiking ...... only let yourself move, the body's endorphins and dopamine will be able to quickly dispel anxiety, so that the mood is soothing and pleasant.
For example, traveling, a change of environment, a change of mood. People often say that the scenery in other places, go out to realize that life is not only the immediate suffering, there are distant mountains and the sea and human things.
Another example is reading, many of life's hardships, books have answers. The book can change the fate, but also can help people out of the pain.
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If you are always complaining of suffering, the result can only be more and more bitter.
If you learn to manage hobbies, it is like opening a window for yourself, and the fresh air will blow away the worries and gloom.
It's never wrong to exercise when you have time and read a lot.
The third candy: the courage to change
The Internet has seen such a question: life is so hard, what should I do?
There is a very burning answer to this question, which has been highly praised:
There is no such thing as a life that is not bitter, but the struggle can make it sweet!
Yes, knowing that life is hard, but still love life, and the courage to change life, such a person is a real hero.
Just like Dr. Huang Guoping, whose thesis became a hit on the Internet two days ago, he has suffered a lot since he was a child, and he has tasted the coldness of people's hearts, but he has successfully rewritten his own destiny with his great courage and hard work.
He said, "I hope that there is still a chance to reacquaint myself with the world and live up to the suffering I have endured in my life. In the end, if you can still do something to make other people's lives more beautiful, then this life is earned."
In fact, what makes people y moved is never the suffering itself, but the perseverance, courage to change, and perseverance in the suffering.
Life is full of suffering, suffering can not be called wealth, only in the suffering in the effort to grow, in order to experience the suffering into your life wealth.
As Meyer Musk said in the book "Life by Me", "Your life, you will go through the seemingly endless darkness, will experience many blows, and finally you will also recover faster and faster!"
Life is bitter, yet suffering is not all there is to life.
Positive action is the cure for all the pretense.
Thought determines action, action determines result.
The only way to take a life-changing step is to take action.
Conclusion
Wooden Heart, in his book "The Lark Called All Day," has this line of poetry that has been widely circulated:
"The years have not spared me, nor have I spared the years. "
Indeed, the years are unforgiving, life is bitter, but life is not a process of constantly upgrading and fighting monsters?
Life may be very bitter, but please believe that your efforts today will make tomorrow's life a little sweeter, perseverance and hard work, will certainly make life more and more sweet.
All the things that you think you can't get through, can't untie the knot, can't let go of, will be in the future someday, become a dish of wine after dinner, you will also be released in the talk between laughter.
May you have enough courage to face the bitterness of life, but also be able to stay awake in the bitter sugar.
Because those who have traveled the road, eaten the bitter, will eventually belong to your years back to sweet.
Author's introduction: people in the grass and trees, life is like tea.