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1. Behind-the-ear defense mechanism is a psychological term in psychoanalysis, which means that people can relieve anxiety when facing difficulties. With the development of adaptive psychology today, the defense mechanism is also advancing with the times. During the Spring Festival, the exposure of large family series such as gold is getting higher and higher. Playing dumb is the basic trick in the process of fighting with parents and relatives. Its principle is to kill the elders and change the subject patiently, and to nip the topic of urging marriage in the bud. In the face of all kinds of soul torture from relatives and friends, we should adhere to the purpose of ingenious perfunctory, implement the core spirit of selective attention, indirect deafness and continuous deafness, and create a harmonious, warm and pleasant atmosphere for the Spring Festival. This defense mechanism is portable and can be used at any time, using three stars.
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The second measure, the attention transfer method. To use this trick well, you need agile reaction ability and active execution, and you need to know people. Attention resources are limited. If you can take the lead, you can urge the other party to turn their attention to yourself, and the chances of urging marriage will be much less. For example, an uncle or aunt asked, Ah, my daughter is so old, I wonder if she has found it? Aunt, have a drink. Where does your child work? Uncle, where did your child buy the house? How much is it per square meter? We should always pay attention to throwing sensitive topics such as square dance, pension, marriage, work, mortgage and second child to each other in order to take the initiative in the anti-marriage struggle. Let Uncle menstruation show off, or spit out a few words to enhance interaction, rather than a sad reminder of the four-star practical index.
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The third measure is to be reasonable. Once upon a time, I had a friend who tried to reason with his parents when they urged him to get married. Now he has enteritis because his whole intestine is green. This story tells us, drink again. When we are not discussing the issue of accelerating marriage, we should maintain a strong desire for survival, be reasonable and do what we can. * * * Being affectionate doesn't mean being reasonable, * * * Being affectionate means putting yourself in others' shoes. For example, your parents say that you are so old and you haven't found a partner. Alas, what can you do? Mom, I know you are in a hurry, but I am ugly and really hard to find. I know how you feel. I'm as anxious as you are, really, but I don't have a house or a car. It's no use worrying. In a word, proper affection can not only reduce the times of parents urging marriage, but also promote the harmony of family relations. For example, parents will close their eyes to comfort you, but you are not ugly. The practical index of this trick is 4.5 stars.
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The fourth measure is to meet the needs of gossip. Maslow divides human needs from low to high into physiological needs, security needs, belonging and love needs, respect needs and self-realization needs. During the Spring Festival, the needs of seven aunts and eight aunts include not only material needs such as eating, dressing and keeping warm, but also spiritual needs such as urging marriage and having children, which are collectively called gossip needs. Most relatives, especially strangers, don't really care about you, but satisfy their burning curiosity about gossip. At this time, they only need to meet their own gossip needs. For example, my aunt asked, how old is this year? What are you doing? Auntie, I pierced cookies in the food factory of 18 this year. Aunt, I paste sesame seeds for pitaya in the fruit shop at 20 this year. Oh, is this kid seeing anyone?
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No, no money, no date. Aunt, can you lend me some money? I'll pay you back when I get married. I haven't found anyone yet! Aunt, my salary is low and I have no object. I am really useless. Anyway, young people take the initiative and serve their aunts well, so that the Spring Festival can be better. Based on the wide range of people who can apply this trick, I just want to say one word to Wuxing. Why do we single people date each other?