When I first got married, I didn't have any plans to have children because of the pressure of life. Now that she's approaching 30, she's getting more and more stable, but she's choosing to quit her job and prepare for graduate school.
Many people don't understand, they say, the girl who knows what she's doing will choose to do the right thing at the right age. Asahi should be actively preparing for pregnancy and welcoming a newborn in the last train now, when she can still catch up with the best childbearing period.
But she took the wrong path and chose to prepare for graduate school after returning from a business trip to Beijing.
She said you don't know how beautiful the world is until you've seen it, but all beauty comes at a price.
She said that children are not just a way to extend life, but also give the responsibility of life.
Asahi's parents, perhaps feeling a little guilty about interfering with her choices in the first place, offered their full support. However, her husband, who was initially supportive of her, is now often in a fight with her, and what used to be an attentive and considerate husband is now a fight over the daily grind of life, with the final word always coming down to the children.
Asahi said how much planning do we have to do to tie up our lives with a stranger.
Must the happiness of a marriage be tied to the children? But educating and raising children is a great thing, requiring much more energy than work! And life is short, a hundred years in the blink of an eye, shouldn't we respect most what our heart really needs, which for her nowadays is graduate school and a better future!
2. Dink, is the pursuit of life's ultimate and sublimation
For the cause, for the future and give up the child, and not only around the ordinary people.
Remember Mei Chaofeng in the 2002 mainland version of "Legend of the Eagle Shooting Heroes"?
Yang Liping, who portrayed Mei Chaofeng in front of the screen, is the one who made the movie a success. That was praised by Feng Xiaogang as not a person, is the essence of the immortal Yang Liping. The Yang Liping who gave her all for the dance.
Yang Liping married in 1988, in order to dance became a family of Dinks, which achieved her dance career, but ultimately led to the failure of the marriage. Love, can not withstand the importance of a child?1995 is Yang Liping and her second spring Liu Chunqing tied the knot, after the marriage of the two have also been because of the problem of children and quarrels divorce, but in Yang Liping and her husband's active communication, the two can not afford to each other's feelings and remarriage, her husband eventually understand her and support her pursuit of the dance career.
Time passes, and twenty years have passed. Now Liu Chunqing shoulder hair into the inch plate, but Yang Liping is still like a young girl, although the knee childless, but the two have been very good feelings, really interpreted the words, a room for two people, three meals in four seasons, four hands, three places, two hearts, a pair of people who love each other to live together, three meals a day, sweet, together through every spring, summer, autumn and winter of life.
Some people have asked Yang Liping whether it is worthwhile to pay for the dance.
Yang Liping answered in this way, everyone will face the spring, summer, fall and winter of life, and finally to death. The real life shows seventy or eighty years. But life is very impermanent and can be lost at any time. Accept it, not to deify it.
3. Dink, a lifestyle choice
The last time Xiaonian found me, I was in a coffee shop watching the humorous parent-child drama "The Race Plan". 36-year-old Xiaonian suddenly burst into tears as she watched a father and daughter embrace each other in the drama.
People just stepped out of school when Xiao Nian and her boyfriend got married, in the face of social pressures to survive, have not had the courage to have a child, to persuade both parents, the two decided to do a family of Dinks. However, as the days become more and more stable and well, Xiaonian's husband began to hope that there is a new life to join, intentionally or unintentionally in front of Xiaonian mentioned around the colleagues and friends of the child how lovely, and from time to time to share about the child's cute photos, as well as the child's growth of the droplets, and then at this time Xiaonian, if she chose to give birth to a child, has already been the age of the woman, a variety of pregnancy test results have reminded her of her life has been a missed chance to give birth to a child. Just learned the results of the time, her husband is still gentle and considerate, but with the passage of time, through the clues in life, Xiaonian actually found her husband secretly at the early twenties, beautiful young girl. In a tit-for-tat confrontation, the husband's sharp words, and finally you are a hen that will not lay eggs as a heavy blow, the end of that dispute, but also the end of the two for more than a decade of married life.
And Nen's face was full of happiness when she brought her new boyfriend to the meeting recently. Both share the **** same preferences and goals. Without the involvement of children, the two traveled from time to time on tourism trips, and their circle of friends is full of intimate photos together. The two have more time to spend with each other, and friends gather together. The sweet happiness overflows all around.
The love thing itself, should be Dink has nothing to do. And as far as the Dink family is concerned, no matter what kind of life there will be in the future, it is the result of their own choices, and they need to take responsibility for themselves. After all, whether Dink or not, is as long as they feel happy, it should be the best way of life.
4. Choosing to be a Dink should be a different way of choosing life
In fact, raising children is a difficult job, but we can't ask everyone to choose to have children because of this. In fact, the meaning of life is not only to have children, but also to have a variety of choices, and a life without children is not necessarily imperfect!