When it comes to "love", even though there are millions of words in my heart and thousands of thoughts in my head, I still can't write.
The topic is so grand and profound, yet so subtle, that the perception of it is like an example of it, no logic, no template, no definition. But I thought, since it is a free concept, it does not matter whether it is right or wrong. Especially after reading this "love book" after a lot of feelings, coupled with the recent love reality shows and marriage variety shows are common, may be combined with current events, free and easy to talk about, to express some local views.
It is at least a noun, Baidu encyclopedia explains:
"Love is the mutual affection between two sentient individuals, affection; also refers to the feelings of love."
But then again perhaps it can also be a verb, because emotion itself cannot be a static state of mind. Such emotions are accompanied by pleasurable positive energies such as joy, happiness, and touching, as well as saddening negative emotions such as jealousy, sourness, and disappointment. Biologically, love is dominated by evolutionary forces, acting through hormones that produce sexual desire and a series of chemical reactions along with the secretion of the "love hormone".
In the book, Sara Noriega says to Alisa, "I'm not sure what I'm talking about. Noriega said to Alisa:
I think that true love is the unity of mind and body, if you just love someone spiritually but do not want to have any physical contact, this platonic love does not meet the emotional uniqueness of the "love has exclusivity", but rather more in favor of the "love", "love", "love", "love", "love", "love", "love", "love", "love", "love", "love", "love", "love", "love". "The first is that it is not the case that the person who is in love with the person is the one who is in love with the person, but the one who is in love with the person.
If there is only a desire to have a physical relationship, it is only a physiological reaction of the body. Human beings are advanced emotional beings with the ability to think and self-control, and this kind of "love" is just a kind of animalistic impulse, not an emotional state of human nature. As for the kinds of love, the author Marquez tells us that there are many different kinds of love:
Love can be a spiritual fidelity, for a lifetime.
A young telegraph operator, Florentino Alisa, is in love with a rich girl, Fernandez. The young telegraph operator Florentino Ariza falls in love at first sight with a rich girl, Fermina Daza. The young telegraph operator Florentino Ariza fell in love at first sight with the rich girl Fermina Daza. He wrote letters to her, played the violin for her, and considered her his flower-crowned goddess. Even after more than fifty years of separation, he remained absolutely faithful to her in spirit.
Love can be physically unfaithful, even if the mind remains absolutely faithful to the beloved.
For the hero, Florentino? For the hero, Florentino Ariza, he believes that his love for Fermina can be replaced by worldly passions. Even though he himself has always demanded "as Fermina's husband", and has never married or maintained a stable relationship with any of his mistresses, he himself has remembered and recorded as many as 622 mistresses. Even though spiritually, he always kept the original purity and virginity for Fermina, but in fact, he was not a "lover" in the secular sense of the word, he was enough "womanizer".
Love can be a fleeting moment of love at first sight.
Florentino met a woman at a carnival when he was middle-aged, he bought her ice cream, they went to see the parade of floats, he watched her dance in the square, and she promised him to go to the lighthouse on the beach to watch the dawn after the party. He falls in love with her because of her indifferent appearance in the midst of the noisy crowd. Even though she had said from the beginning that she was crazy, and even though they had only met once, Florentino's heart still ached when she was kidnapped by the staff of the insane asylum. He even fondly wandered the street where the asylum was located for a long time with chocolates, only for the two to never be reunited.
Love can be a long-lasting love.
Even though he actively pursued and married Fermina, for Dr. Juvenal? Dr. Urbino, at first, thought he did not love her, but only valued her pride, her seriousness, her strength, and his own vanity. It is clear that Fermina did not love the doctor at first either, and refused him many times, but finally agreed to him because she was "afraid of missing her chance".
Like many earthly couples, their marriage was not born of love. However, after more than 50 years of married life, in the **** together through the newlywed sweet, after the marriage of the trivial life stage, even if we do not know when the roots of love, but when the two people are getting older and older, the couple is more and more deeper.
I was moved by Dr. Urbino's heartfelt confession to his wife before he died, when, with his last breath, he said to her, "Only God knows how much I love you."
Meanwhile, as her husband dies, Fermina similarly realizes how much she loves her husband, and she prays in her heart that God will give her more time so that he can know how much he loves her, and she strongly hopes that she can start all over again with him. Love at first sight like fireworks splendor is certainly delightful and emotional, but still water to stay deep type of great love without words and how not to let the world touched? In the ordinary life of hand in hand, the bond between man and man began to shine. A fondness for each other, even if it is not as romantic as love at first sight, but it is as solid as a rock, can withstand the long years.
Perhaps there is a kind of love that is sensationally faithful.
A rich girl falls in love with a poor boy, and despite the opposition of her family, she is eager to marry a "very unreliable" mule trader. Fermina Sanchez. Fermina Sánchez, Fermina's mother, the daughter of one of the most prominent families in the region, is passionate in her love. Even though Lorenzo Daza is rude. Even though Lorenzo Daza is rude and even has a history of deceit, Sanchez always sticks to her heart and loves bravely and openly.
Perhaps there is a kind of love that is secretive and silent.
The book's opening description focuses on Jeremiah? De Sant'Amour, a legendary child photographer who worked for a living, chose to commit suicide in his sixtieth year for fear of growing old. Dr. Urbino, who saw him almost every day and considered himself his best friend, learns after reading his suicide note that the photographer actually had a girlfriend with whom he had been in love for many years.
The doctor couldn't figure it out: the two men didn't have any moral baggage, they were both free adults, so why did they have to hide their relationship? The girlfriend's explanation is that the two can break out in joy from their secret love affair.
Perhaps, in the sun, and loved ones walking down the street hand in hand, is a kind of joy; in the moonlight, and loved ones snuggle each other mutual unspoken and is not a kind of happiness?
Cupid will shoot the sacred arrow of love for two people when God does not know.
Perhaps in a twilight, under a tree, he met her in the low reading, he had the urge to accompany her reading, as Alisa and Fermina's encounter; perhaps in an ordinary house, an ordinary work time, he suddenly fell in love with her, want to come to her day after day to cure, and incidentally, also to heal their own lovesickness, just as Dr. Urbino and Barbara? Miss Lynch's encounter. Even though he betrayed his wife, broke his marriage vows, destroyed his moral foundations, even though he had seen so many women, the doctor knew the moment he met her that in his destiny "an irreparable thing had happened".
The world can't always predict when and where it will meet true love, but when it does, the heart begins to beat differently than usual.
The Biblical myth of Adam and Eve's ribcage, and the parable of the matching of differently shaped hearts, give me a first impression of how intimacy happens: magically.
It's hard to know who you'll fall in love with.
Even if one person has all the material requirements, the other may not be interested. In fact, it's a good idea to have a good time with your friends and family, and you'll have a good time with your friends and family. As for what that point is, it varies from person to person. Maybe it's just the afternoon sunshine, the young man wearing a white shirt to make the girl feel the heart of God; maybe it's the young girl slightly red shy smile, let the young man's heart ripples; maybe it's the gentleman's modest and polite, the lady's fair and gentle, so that each other love; maybe it's the boy's unruly and stubborn, the girl's mischievous and delicate, so the other person is happy to enjoy it. Maybe you are perfect, or maybe you are not successful, but I love you or not, all according to the heart, not subject to the rational analysis of my brain. Today I say I don't love you, but I can't guarantee that tomorrow I won't be tossing and turning for you. Similarly, this moment I say I love you, but perhaps the next second I think you ordinary to the extreme.
Love a person, perhaps because of the other side of the material conditions, may also be because of the other side of the value of the three views, more likely to be because of the "long in the aesthetic" of the first look at the appearance of temperament, and may be because of the night and day with each other mutual "domestication". The "taming" of each other is also possible. Forgive me for guessing, "love dopamine" secretion makes people happy, but its occurrence of the mechanism of action has not been clear scientific research results, I am afraid that is because the hormone secretion by a variety of environmental factors, uncontrollable observation of too many conditions.
Running a topic, in life, I have actually seen too many breakups of the relationship, it is difficult for both sides of the relationship has been loyal to a person, common various forms of derailment, especially the spiritual derailment. At first, I would feel angry, but after seeing more, I understand the "complexity of human nature". Yes, life is too long, too many encounters, because of a trait or a characteristic, fell in love with a person, why is it not possible because of the same trait or the same characteristics, see another person? In a world as big as ours, everyone can find someone who is similar to him or her, whether it is in appearance, height, personality or outlook. It is too difficult to have a high degree of intellectual fidelity, and even for a "pure" person like Ariza, who prided himself on keeping his soul devoted to Fermina, was it not cheating to have physical relations with more than six hundred mistresses? After seeing too many cases, I no longer believe in the sameness of love, but I do believe in the sameness of love. In other words:
I don't believe in oaths because it's hard to swear to an elusive heart.
I believe in duty, which is a more rational bond of principle than love.
I think the person who is worthy of trust is not necessarily the one who loves the most passionately, but he/she must have the most sense of responsibility.
The occurrence and the end of love is certainly no rules, but how to hang on to the horse has its own points. Even if you can not control the ups and downs of feelings at will, but after a combination of various conditions of vigilance and moral judgment, the brain will give a reasonable and sensible judgment. Married people cheating to be sanctioned by the law, people in love cheating to receive moral duties, perhaps to ensure that the sacred sense of love.
Precisely because love is precious, human beings need to caution each other with certain means:
You can move your heart, but you also have to move your brain.
A responsible person does not cheat at will on impulse, nor is he reckless because his heart is in the right place. Like the book, Dr. Urbino, even though he liked the female patient more fiercely, but still for the sake of the family, waved tears to cut off the love. One can break up or divorce or stop loving, but an honest separation is far more honorable than a meticulous concealment. Love produces a unique and precious passion is to let people feel love to bring human heart happiness, not for their own promiscuity as an excuse, not to break through the so-called "secular moral constraints," the cloth of shame. If you are not in love, you should separate and start over with the one you love, which is good for all parties.
HOW: How to get love?
Inside the book, the poetess Sarah? Noriega said:
"Love, above all, is an instinct.
Either you are born with it or you never will."
But actually I would argue that love is not uncultivable. People are constantly growing, and their winter selves may not be exactly the same as their summer selves. Since people can change, naturally, people's ideas change, and why wouldn't the ability to love someone change? In today's world, a search on the Internet, teaching people how to get back their ex-lover's emotional skills and get rid of a wide range of strategies, the effect can be bad or good. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do that with the help of your own personal computer.
How to get love, there is a theory is quite interesting:
Q = A + V + S, where Q is the success rate,
A is the size of the social circle, V is the self-worth, S is skill.
I don't think it's unreasonable, but when it comes to importance, I'm more in favor of improving self-worth. Long-term intimacy should come from ****ual attraction, not all kinds of pandering techniques. Improve your physical image and inner value, and your relationship will be stable and long-lasting. On the basis of self-excellence, broaden the social circle, to meet new people, in order to have the opportunity to meet the other half of the two hearts. The use of a variety of techniques, but also a better way to let the other side to recognize the excellent self, not the skillful use of skills to create a "meet to please" persona.
Among the many techniques, I always love sincerity, and only love the "straight ball".
The world says that in the ambiguous period, "the little heart of secret communication" is fascinating, but I feel that the sincere and straightforward naked love is more appealing. Even though the mute is not romantic, but time is rare, if the heart has the same feelings, how will not care about this day and night? I love you, just like with you, only fight for a moment, a moment do not want to continue to wait. Those so-called skills are just tools for flirting, not measuring devices to test your heart. I love awkwardly, generous confession, love and not love are open. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on some of the most popular products and services in the world, and you'll be able to do it in a way that makes you feel good about yourself.
In the way of looking for love, from my own life experience, which is not very long, I realize: you must be brave!
I like the words of the hero's mother, Trancito, who warns her son:
"The weak will never enter the kingdom of love, which is merciless and stingy. Women commit themselves only to men who are bold and courageous, because such men give them the security they crave and enable them to face life squarely."
Hesitation to act when faced with a favorite can be a missed opportunity.
Recently, in a very hot vegetarian relationship variety show, a girl is because of the hesitation and unclear expression in the early stage, and originally had a good feeling about her and a certain boy gradually far away. When she was still not sure, another girl's bold show of love and openness to give, so that the brave her and the boy finally fell in love. This is not an isolated case; many people have passed by someone they care about because they were hesitant to express their feelings. Because of the fear that they are too good to match, or they are too outstanding and give each other pressure, and can not really express their feelings. But they are just their own wishful thinking ah, maybe the other party like you this type? What's more, you may have been very good, maybe the other side is waiting for you to give him confidence? After all, and better than their own people together itself is likely to be the initiation of love ah.
Taiwan writer San Mao once wrote:
"If I don't love him, he is a millionaire I won't marry. If I love him, I'll marry him even if he's a millionaire!"
How penetrating! Love itself does not have so many rules and regulations. After looking back, I found that love is very simple, like is like, do not like is not like. If you like a person to say it, the other side also like their own certainly welcome, the other side is not interested in also can let themselves have the next step of clear judgment. Secret love is bitter and obscure, but it is a kind of "self-touching". Of course, the premise of the brave expression of love is not to disturb each other's lives, and have the right to freely express their love. Like what the street confession to make each other embarrassed embarrassed or not feasible. Knowing that the other side has a family or have object, but also boldly chased after the person confession is unethical. Bravery is not the same as recklessness.
However, as long as they are brave with each other, can the two be together? Examples like the book, where the heroine's father beat her with a stick, abound in reality. Even when times change, a pair like Alisa and Ferminna are still unable to get back together, even though they no longer have any hindering forces in their later years.
"They were too young to love each other then.
Later they were old, and so it was."
I admire Fermin哪's open-mindedness and sobriety, but Alisa's persistence gives me a sense of the mysterious and greatness of love. I was struck by his shyness in writing his first letter, his fever and illness waiting for a reply, his desperation to play the violin outside Fermina's window, his countless times of faith in her "purity" and the sweetness of his travels with her.
To be honest, it's hard for me to think of Arisa as infatuated with the spiritual purity of love and the physical indulgence of it. But it's also hard not to let me feel his sincerity in his words on deck at the end of the book.
Such is the mystery of great love, the complexity of human nature.
After reading the book, I will summarize the whole text:
Love is an emotion that takes many forms, but it is hard to know when, where, and with whom it comes.
The search for love centers on improving self-worth and skillfully displaying one's charisma in a larger social space.
As well, love is mysterious and great.
Finally, a million thanks for listening to me ramble on again.
(Bow and salute!)
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