In marriage, sexual marriage does not mean that the relationship between the two sides will be smooth sailing will not have problems, sexless marriage does not mean that the two sides have no love. A sexual marriage is not necessarily happy, but a sexless marriage will definitely make the happiness greatly discounted.
My husband and I have been married for more than ten years, the marriage relationship and sex life after marriage has been relatively harmonious, how long a time I can not remember, but in recent years I obviously feel that he has lost interest in sex life, the frequency is getting lower and lower, and has been to me to take the initiative that he has no interest, although I did not show anything, but the heart of the dissatisfaction is and its, after all, a woman of this age! The fact is that the company has a lot of people who are not in the same boat as the other companies.
Without sex, married life is incredibly boring and dull, often due to some minor temper tantrums, so that our communication is also less and less, no matter what the previous contradictions will be in some of the clouds and rain after the dissipation of smoke. He also said that because the work is too tired, the body is not as good as before, feel overwhelmed, these years he did because the work has suffered a lot of pain, stay up late to work overtime is also a regular thing, over time may have an impact on his body. Less sexual bond although not as harmonious and happy as before, but I still love him in my heart.
But then we are also looking for some exercise and conditioning methods, slowly his body also returned to the previous state.
While there is no sex in the marriage is not necessarily no love, but now look at the sex is a panacea for the dissolution of conflicts between husband and wife, if couples do not have sex, and then the beautiful married life will be dull.
"Sexless" marriages account for a large proportion of older couples over the age of sixty. Some sleep in separate beds, some sleep in separate houses, and some, even if they sleep on a bed, are head to head, and no one touches anyone. Does this mean that there is no affection? No, it has nothing to do with the depth of affection.
Once a person gets older, his or her personality changes. In particular, some of the reasons for the disease, so that people on the "sex" of the need to become diluted. Even talk about "sex" color change, to avoid are not as good as. Coupled with the concept of stereotypes, always think "so old still want that thing, is not serious, not serious. The first thing you need to do is to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots, and then you'll be able to get your hands on a new pair of shoes or boots.
Some couples do not have sex, are from the bed or house to sleep. Couples who have insomnia light, or one sleep snoring too much noise, take the initiative to separate so as not to affect each other. Over time, they have formed a habit, and then come together when they feel uncomfortable.
While couples do not have sex, and not as young as the sticky each other. But it's not that they don't love each other anymore, it's that they've turned love into affection. In daily life, caring for each other, taking care of each other, and truthfully treating each other as relatives. This may be a way to get along with couples as they get older.
All in all, the couple "no sex" does not mean no love. The deeper the affection, the more they will be accompanied by a happy and peaceful old age.
If there is no such qualifier as middle age, then I think the sexless marriage is mostly unsustainable. Although sexlessness is not because of lack of love, but for a pair of normal young marriageable age couples, the sexless marriage is difficult to go to the end, but this stage of the human to middle age is different.
Middle-aged stage, sex life is reduced is normal
Middle-aged period, with the age of passion retreat, life pressure and other reasons mindless sex life are common things.
There is also an interesting phenomenon: the husband to middle age after the blossoming, sleep at night has been non-stop snoring, simply couples will sleep in separate rooms. Middle-aged people in a room the frequency of sex will be reduced, not to mention after sleeping in separate beds, I am afraid it will be more difficult to ensure that the so-called sex life frequency.
Middle age can be called an old married couple, after most of their lives, and want to return to their own want to relax, free space, the phenomenon listed above are very normal.
People in middle age sex life is not reduced does not mean disharmony
While the title refers to sexless marriage, in fact, people in middle age objective situation exists, the frequency of sex life than young greatly reduced. But the decrease in the frequency of sex does not mean disharmony.
If there is not much difference in age between the husband and wife, you should be about the same in the middle age period when the energy of the other side is not good. Surely there will not exist like young people, one party seriously unable to meet the other party's situation appears. Therefore, the reduction is not terrible, as long as the full harmony can be.
People to middle age, love has become affection from passionWe usually always love to joke that: the left hand touches the right hand, in fact, this is not a joke. We have lived together for most of our lives, for each other's habits, preferences are like a palm, these years of bonding also make couples become more like relatives. What is kinship is a relationship where you are most comfortable staying together. There is no need to be pretentious, no need to do things against your will in order to worry about anything.
So those seemingly sexless stages of middle age are not that we don't love anymore, but that we love in a different kind of way. It wouldn't seem to make much sense to be passionate from youth to old age, would it?
To summarize, when we reach middle age, we are all enjoying another kind of ordinary love. The years are quiet, the occasional passion to decorate, but the passion and sex life is no longer the main spin of life, which does not mean that we do not love.