Couples in the early years of marriage, passionate, sweet envy; marriage after a few years of bonding, couples deeper, this time couples are no longer only sweet, and often also quarrel; couples to the middle-aged, no passion for each other, and no longer sweet, marital life tends to be flat.
So, what kind of changes will happen to the couple's life after middle age?50-year-old woman told the truth.
Xia, 50 years old, she is a housewife, and her husband has been married for 26 years, the son has joined the workforce, but also soon to be married. Xia said: "Now a day of square dancing, grocery shopping, cooking and cleaning up the house is my daily routine. When my son gets married, their children will not want me to bring them up, saying that I am afraid of spoiling them. This also let me fall into the light, my day by day life is very elegant."
And, Xia added: "At our age, there is no longer any pressure on life, children are out to earn money, the family has a house and a car, and the days are peaceful and beautiful, and there is no conflict with her husband. When I was young, I had already argued and fought, and now I can't even argue anymore. Once this person reaches middle age and beyond, couples live more easily, there are no complications in life, and everyone is free and easy."
Sister Xia's words express that people of their age have gained wisdom in life after years of baptism. When people are young, they are exploring the mysteries in marriage and are full of curiosity about everything, and they have a lot of conflicts in life because of different opinions. And after time, people in the middle age, couples gradually reduce the requirements of life, every day happy is the best respect for life.
What kind of changes will happen to the married life of middle-aged couples?
One, the passion fades after the affection
In the beginning, the two people together in tenderness, as long as you can be with each other, feel everything is good.
Two people have endless words to say every day, share endless stories, the other person is always tired of listening to each other say every thing. After a couple of years, you realize that the topic you talk about the most is your children. After a few more years, you begin to worry about your children's academic performance. Until one day, the kids grow up and leave home.
Then you realized that the living room, which had been bustling for decades, was much colder all of a sudden. Only husband and wife for company, looking at each other full of wrinkles, only to suddenly realize that you have been hand in hand through decades of wind and rain.
Initially, the passion has long been worn out by life, and now what is left between husband and wife is the affection that can never be erased.
Two, no more quarrels
Men and women just married, because of the different lifestyles, often look at the other side of the practice, will be constantly arguing to defend their position.
After a few years of being together, you gradually get to know each other's habits and start adapting yourselves to his ways, and you are learning from each other what is good in him.
After a few more years, you have become completely familiar with everything you do with each other, and only then do you remember how childish it was to fight over such trivial matters.
At this time, you pay more attention to the quality of life, you feel that quarrels are not only a waste of time, but also hurt the peace. Another thing is that you are getting old and don't have the strength to quarrel. If there is any problem, couples will sit down face to face to analyze, no longer use quarrel to solve.
Three, peace is precious
Last time I went back to my hometown, my neighbor's brother and sister quarreled, and their mother immediately stopped them, saying that the family should not quarrel, brother and sister are the closest people, and quarrels are prone to hurt feelings, and two people quarreled, it will affect the atmosphere of the whole family.
When everyone in the family is unhappy, work and study will be affected, and life will be even more difficult.
For couples after middle age, they value more the harmony between relatives, and pay more attention to the family's happiness and fulfillment to peace.
Overall, after middle age couples life, basically in a period of calm, life for them, although tasteless, but let a person to reminisce.
And the other half of the life together for so many years, the two people depend on each other together across a number of bumps, of course, pay more attention to each other's feelings, care about once a little bit.
Two people in this life can be destined to do husband and wife, but also do not mind each other, and then again bitter and difficult have not let go of each other's hands, this friendship is more worth cherishing.
Middle-aged couples operating this happy marriage, is the need for a certain amount of courage and patience, there is not enough determination, and how can we be together for decades?
So, middle-aged couples, can always hold on to their married life, is not an easy thing to do, we have to be more cherished the fate given by God. In the coming days, continue to accompany each other never leave each other, so that the marriage in the long journey, show more love light.