There is a very beautiful woman told me, she is now the second marriage, the first marriage, originally everything is very good, the ex-husband to do business, she is at home with the children, life is carefree, do not have to do housework, and do not have to worry about the problem of money.
A very beautiful woman told me that she is now in her second marriage. In the first marriage, everything was fine, her ex-husband was doing business, she was at home with her children, living a carefree life, not having to do housework, and not having to worry about money.
But one day, her ex-husband came back with a mistress and told her that she was pregnant and that she would have to live together as a family, and she couldn't stand it and got divorced.
Not long after, there is a wait for her 10 years of male classmates with her proposal, she married with her daughter, life three years, every day the same life makes her a little tired, so they began to engage in ambiguity with colleagues, and even turned into an affair, she did not want to divorce, because her husband is now very much in love with her, although the life lived is not very privileged, but after work will do the dishes to help with the household chores, to treat her daughter like a pro-birthday, but also want to divorce, because her husband is now very much in love with her, though life is not very generous, but will do the dishes after work to help with housework, treat her daughter like She also wants to continue to be with the outside, because it's in bed that she feels.
There is also a friend who is very pretty and has been pursued by many people since she was a student, but her family is not well off and she wants to marry a rich man and attends a lot of high society clubs and gatherings. When she discussed marriage with a man she liked, he asked her to sign a prenuptial agreement, which made her feel insulted.
They asked me what kind of marriage is right.
Some people say, if a marriage can not improve their living conditions, then this marriage would rather not; some people say, to find a man who loves himself a little more than he loves her, otherwise the married life will be very hard; some people say, to find a woman who can treat herself like a princess, the woman who is pampered will be happy.
I said, you can try to use your right hand to lift a pen, I believe you must think it is a breeze; but if you want this hand has been lifting this pen half a year, a year, three years? The first thing you need to do is to think about it and you'll feel tired.
Love is the same, at the beginning of the two people must be for each other to change, if this change is not comfortable, not happy, they may soon be able to realize.
But if the beginning is comfortable, no pressure, for example, some wives would like their husbands to say "I love you" every day, or wives to do the housework, cooking, washing clothes and so on. It doesn't matter at first, but after a long time, it will be like holding up a pen all the time, feeling tired, hard, wanting to give up (divorce), or holding up a different hand (affair).
To put it in perspective, my relationship with Liang was not always smooth, even a few years ago, we could argue every day over trivial matters, and then it turned into a cold war between the two of us, which often happened after each argument.
So I started my weblog, and started to have a lot of fans. Once after a fight, Liang said to me: "I found that my pain seems to bring you a lot of inspiration".
At that time, I laughed out loud, and didn't get angry.
Later, when we were about to rise up in battle, he would say, "Are you about to be inspired?" And then both laughed.
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I have a couple of close friends who have been married for more than 20 years, and they are still as sweet as when they first got married because they hold up this pen in different ways, sometimes the whole family goes out, sometimes the two of them go out for coffee, sometimes they travel alone, and they even role-play; sometimes the wife plays the princess, sometimes the queen. The whole family can make this love and affection even sweeter in a happy atmosphere.
Let this hand rest for a while instead of continuously holding it up, as my friend said: There is no right or wrong in marriage, everything is your choice and management.
In the recent drama "Love on Demand", I saw that every character has a different view of love, just like the epitome of our lives.
Mr. Bai: Find your significant other while you're young, get married and have kids, and then create your own design empire without any distractions, so that even if there's a risk to your career, you can take the consequences with all your might.
Xiuni:
Set your own 18 high standards, and if you fall short of them, you'd rather give up, and stick to the pursuit of a higher quality of life.
Gu Jia: Find someone who loves you, who you love, and just be happy in a smooth way.
Su Han: Perfect yourself before you find the right person; go all out when you meet the right person.
Prospect: Never say I love you easily when I'm not ready for my heart, it's a responsibility.
Xu Li: I love you, will be in the differences between the 2 of us to find a balance, do not need you for me to change, unless this change is you feel happy.
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In real life, everyone has a different experience, and what others think is good is not necessarily what suits them.
Suitable for their own does not necessarily can always will be very suitable, but in the marriage of two people how to accept each other, learn to tolerate, learn to forgive, learn to think differently.
Some people like to ask people everywhere, and even ask God, I think you ask too many people will lose their own judgment, because everyone's values and life are not the same, life is their own, how to live are their own things.
A glass of water, with honey is sweet, with salt is salty, with wine becomes bitter, the next person has no way to feel your own true feelings.
I have a classmate in a party to meet her husband, her husband is a flying officer, married life conditions are very good, but she is very worried every day, worried about the weather conditions are not good, worried about the wind ...... , in fact, is to worry about the husband's safety.
I told her not to worry, but to be happy every day, and then a drill, her husband's plane crashed, she could not believe it when she received the call, and more once collapsed, after dealing with the aftermath of the incident, she calmed down for half a year, and later returned to the old days.
She told me, "Thank you for letting me know how to cherish every day with my husband, and believe that my face in front of him is happy and happy rather than worried, because I really cherish every day of my life with him, so I have no regrets."
Sometimes, happiness comes inexplicably, there is not much to fill in, obviously the most usual thing, but always feel like they are going to be happy to fly.
Sometimes, happiness is gone in an instant, and any parting is likely to be forever, so it should be more to cherish each other's time together, no matter what happens, don't leave regrets.
Manage your marriage and love well, be the one who can afford the choice, there are very many temptations in this world that confuse us, following someone else's story or advice will not necessarily be correct, late at night ask yourself, ask God, what person should we be responsible for?
Because this marriage or love is your own choice.
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