I summarized the twelve kinds of people in the evening the most miserable:
First, certainly no money, no family property, children are not filial piety people in the evening the most miserable.
Second, a lifetime of unmarried, childless, no children (including adoption) of the widow.
Third, their own words and deeds, or a life of debauchery, eating, drinking, whoring, gambling, and other defeat of the family business, bringing endless pain to the family, disaster, money, external debt, no sense of responsibility.
Fourth, mean and stingy, miserly, money as life, can not afford normal expenses, extremely selfish people.
Fifth, temperament, strong character, domineering to old age, behavioral quirks, incomprehensible, words and deeds in the children's trouble, it is difficult for anyone to tolerate and get along with the people.
Six, mentally retarded, disabled people.
VII. Those who have lost their only son or daughter in the middle of their lives and are unable to have another child.
VIII, born with congenital intellectual or physical disability or accidental disability or handicap.
Nine, the children are unfilial, abandoned by their children.
Ten, favoritism, unfair distribution of property, or property to a child, expecting to give their children in old age, and finally counted on the children can not, and other children accused of resentment or encountered other children to abandon the person.
Twelve, those who have been tortured by illnesses for many years.
This morning, my wife said to me, almost New Year's Eve, let her sister come to my house to wash it. I do not agree, said I can go to my father-in-law's house to wash it. She said she was afraid of brother-in-law dislike, I said deserve to be disliked. Wife said, I also hate the teeth itchy, but their own sister ah, no matter what she will let people laugh.
My wife's sister, a woman in her early 50s, penniless and homeless, can only live in a small coal shed downstairs in my father-in-law's house. The small coal shed only electricity, no water, no heating, drinking water can only be lifted from the upper floors. The situation is so bad that I can't believe that I'm not going to be able to get my hands on it.
Nearly noon, I went to my father-in-law to cook. The wife's brother-in-law said last night that he rode an electric car fell arm pain, lift up, back to his mother's home to stay for two days. Father-in-law on the New Year's 87, mother-in-law left early, these years is and wife's brother to live together.
Father-in-law told me that last night at about 11:30 pm wife sister went up the stairs twice, said she wanted to eat some wife cake, let father-in-law to buy some. At that time, my father-in-law has been lying down, just fell asleep and was woken up, the heart is a little annoyed, snatched a sentence "tomorrow to buy", and immediately whisked her downstairs.
Father-in-law also said to me, a few days ago to buy her two cabbage, three noodles. I asked if I had given her any money.
Speaking of my wife and sister, really hate people, young and unprofessional, a flavor by the nature of the nonsense, the family how to persuade also do not listen to the South and North of the world to mix life, and now the old fell into such a miserable situation, in addition to the blame, and can be blamed on which it is?
Earlier she worked in our cotton mill, if not nonsense should also be retired, more or less will have a life of security, not so old age old father still have to worry about her meals, a family of young and old look at her like a monster, fear of avoidance.
The wife of the sister did not have much culture, elementary school are not graduated. Listening to his wife said that when he was a child, he often put his schoolbag on the windowsill and ran out to play. I don't want to go to work for a few years, with the same evil, open mouth to do a great cause, three days a couple of leave, and then actually did not go to the factory for absenteeism in addition to the name.
At that time, the mother-in-law is still alive, but the body has not been very good, for his wife's sister's worry about the matter of the sleep and food, health conditions more and more downhill, they want to live to see her into a family, there is a dependence on, or else, they can not close their eyes to go.
The wife's sister was not too ugly when she was young, and she had met several times, but only in the beginning and not in the end. I have the deepest impression that once introduced a college student, rural out, and father-in-law of a unit, quite promising young man.
But my wife's sister couldn't stand it, saying that college students are no big deal, and that she would be the head of the department at the most, and that she would be the head of the department in the future.
These are the first time I've ever seen a person who has been in a position to do this, and I'm not sure if I've ever been in a position to do it.
Seeing his wife's sister is not tuned, the mother-in-law's belly is narrow and sulky, not long before he left, that year was 55 years old. In this regard, the wife sister did not have a trace of guilt and wake up, but more and more unscrupulous, honest father-in-law is not in the eyes.
Later, somehow, she got involved with a Cantonese man who was 17 years older than her. It is said to be the so-called miracle doctor, in fact, is selling fake drugs of the charlatan. The family knew that they could not stop, but only let his wife and sister followed the Guangdong man back to the south, and soon there is a daughter.
Just when the family thought that no longer used for the wife of the sister's worry worry, in Guangdong, she sent a message of distress, dead and Guangdong people over to the family to hurry to send money to the past. Wife afraid of her suffering, immediately remittance over. But not long after the return, and nothing like back to Guangdong.
The wife is not destined to be a calm person, just go back and make a fuss to come back, this time even the young daughter can not care about it, even cruel to throw to the Guangdong people, all alone back to the north, completely forget the words that they said they were destined to live in the south.
Suffered this unfortunate blow to the wife of the sister, and did not come to their senses, change their ways, down-to-earth people, to start a new life, but instead of broken pots, drifting in society. She comes and goes without a trace, and it is only when she can't get on with it that she shows up and reaches out to her family for money.
This twenty years, on New Year's holidays, wife and sister do not even a face to shine, that is, the father-in-law high life, otherwise, not to mention see the last side, I am afraid that the grass on the grave are long more old high. Because her contact information has been changing, she can find you, you can not find her.
Last year in August, my wife's sister wrote to me, saying that she was dying and needed a lot of money. My wife, who usually hates to break a point into two halves to spend, hastened to raise thousands of dollars to remit the past, and even let the son out of pocket, so angry that I vigorously argued with her a.
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Half a month later, my wife's sister came back from the field empty-handed, and remitted the money spent. Later, I realized that she is not at all a doctor, is to pray to the Buddha to let people cheat to go. The first time I saw this, I was able to see the whole world, and I was able to see the whole world, and I was able to see the whole world.
I said to my wife, a woman young in the community to fool around, maybe still get by, half a hundred years old, that can be difficult. Wife's sister is like this, said she does not intend to go out, to go home to live. And also said in strong words, this is my home, how can I not go back to it?
But she did not think, they have done for their parents and family what contribution, in addition to asking for money or money, and now the old only thought of there is this home, feel the conscience will not hurt? The father-in-law is honest, well-known good out of the ordinary, wife and sister-in-law have no choice but to let her hard to squeeze in to live.
Just father-in-law's house is too shabby, grandchildren and grandparents crowded in the eighties in the old house, only more than 50 square meters, there is no wife sister's foothold. But she doesn't care about this, directly occupying the father-in-law's room in the sofa, day and night lying there.
But a few days father-in-law can not stand, wife sister during the day nothing to do, the night natural not sleepy, they will be a moment to sit up, a moment to lie down, a moment and walk around, the mouth also chanting what, so that the old father-in-law can not sleep all night, mental trance.
A thousand times, my father-in-law paid for his wife's sister to rent a room to live in, his wife those days running around, for her to prepare bedding, pots and pans, as well as oil, salt, soy sauce and vinegar, and even more than a year old granddaughter also do not look at it, thrown me a big man, so I was at a loss, annoyed to no avail.
During that time the weather is still hot, wife and sister did not live in the rented house, either sleeping in the square is to go to the station waiting room, during the period of time to various excuses to the father-in-law to ask for hundreds of dollars to sit on the train to run out three times. There was also a time lying in the street, let people give back.
Wife wanted her to find a job, she did not do. She also said that she had counted, next year will be developed. How many years, tomorrow and tomorrow, more than fifty years old, or with such a mantra to put off the family, as for believe it or not she does not mind.
Wife wants her to find an old partner, at first she said yes, let father-in-law to give money to buy new clothes. Wife said and the man met on the money. But about the time to go, she changed her mind, said she has an object, do not need to wife tube, and then say more, on the cross-eyed launched a vicious to quarrel.
After the weather turned cold, his wife and sister began to make a fuss, said he wanted to come back to live. The old father-in-law did not dare to let her upstairs, had to put together with his wife to clean up the small coal hut, put on the bed. This busy seven or eight days, tired to stay in the hospital for a week. The first time I saw this, I had to go to the hospital to see the doctor, and then I had to go to the hospital.
At present, the winter months, wife and sister in the small coal shed living, outside the cold house is not warm, although the old father-in-law and his wife often send some food, but also is really miserable.
She was born without raising a few days of daughter, married in Hubei, had a pair of children, the days are tight. Wife and sister also asked for money with the daughter, the daughter is not bad, gave her some money, but I think people will not raise her old, can not blame her daughter, blame her self-inflicted wounds.
Conclusion:
Through the wife's sister's scribbling life, I would like to say that people in this life to want to live a happy life in their old age, to avoid falling into a miserable situation, young should be hard to struggle, diligent and dedicated.
As the Northern Song poet Lin Bu said, "If you are not diligent and hardworking in your youth, you will have to work hard in your old age; if you are able to serve your old age, you will be more comfortable than in your old age." It is nothing to suffer when you are young, because suffering is the bottom of life.
Buddha said all beings are suffering. Suffering is a necessary process of life. To avoid suffering is the most stupid choice. It is not suffering when you are young; it is real suffering when you are old.
Some people say that life is a mirror, how do you treat her, she will how to return you, the game of life can only be the game in the end, to be virtuous, to be virtuous, in order to make our life trajectory does not run out of kilter.
I was 68 years old when I was divorced, has been a late, children around but do not count on, I have no money, no health, often sleepless nights to dawn, such a bleak evening I have spent 3 years, the future of the bleak life is still waiting for me.I am 68 years old this year, 65 years old when my partner was 58 years old, jumping square dance to get married to an old man, my partner could not stand the other party's versatility, humor and fun, and I filed for divorce.
I advised her that so many years have come, why people to the late years of life but also tossed divorce, she said, "We have lived 20 years of strange couples, to the late years of life or not to settle, each choose the rest of their own life it!
I tearfully agreed, I do not know how to be romantic, life savings, and never give my partner a surprise, so many years is also aggrieved her!
The next day I went through the divorce procedure with her, I became a senior bachelor, late in life after the divorce of the desolate only experienced people can understand, I have taken the old partner did not take away the clothes murmured, repentance, but everything is too late.
After my partner left, my body is deteriorating, with high blood pressure, diabetes, the hand of the money hard earned all his life, only enough to give his son a down payment, no money to the bride price, son and daughter-in-law of me have complaints, I do not have a lot of money in my hands, do not want to go to the hospital.
And my daughter got married I have no money to give my daughter, so my daughter also has a problem with me, my children are around but they all see me as a stranger.
When I was hospitalized, the 2 children pushed each other, and finally I was left alone in the hospital to face the cold wall.
In retrospect, my life is really a good failure, people in their old age but all alone, the old man left, children around but can not count on, the future of life is very confused, so the bleak evening still have to continue to bear!
Conclusion: the bleak evening is certainly no money, no health, no partner, children are not filial piety, but also have to be strong to go on, believe that people will prevail, although people are old, but keep a young heart, children will always appreciate the parents of the difficult, so what you do now will never be bleak!